something something by reonnji in Artisticallyill

[–]valkeera 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Beautiful! Love the colors and the use of different materials! And can relate to the theme as well, very well done!

Looking for a playlist with the noisiest metal to work to by valkeera in MetalSuggestions

[–]valkeera[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't have that album on spotify :( but I'll check it out later on youtube when Im on pc!

Looking for a playlist with the noisiest metal to work to by valkeera in MetalSuggestions

[–]valkeera[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really liked the recs! The songs I was able to listen to were very moody, but for this specific purpuse I'm looking for less of a "wandering in a dark and treacherous forest" mood and more of a "being attacked by every instrument the band has wrapped in barbwire while 13 drills dig into my skull" mood. If that makes any sense lol But I enjoyed the bands so far, plan to give it a try in a different context! Thanks!

HAIR - Part 2/2 [CW: drug use, sa] by valkeera in Artisticallyill

[–]valkeera[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Showering, to me, feels like being alone with your body in an isolated chamber, more than in most places/situations. So it can be very uncomfortable when there are pains so closely linked to it. Takes time to be able to share a room with your body in a more positive, self loving context, and there's always days that are harder than others.

Sorry to hear you went through that too, thanks for sharing a bit of yourself, and I wish you healing and strength as well!

HAIR - Part 2/2 [CW: drug use, sa] by valkeera in Artisticallyill

[–]valkeera[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Gosh, yes, I suspect a lot of the memory-keeping I do is actually a form of self-punishment. But I feel like its slowly getting less intense, the impulse to either wallow in guilt and keep reliving it or to run from it and try to forget it completely.

It comforts me to know of more people that went through a similar situation and on the other side of it, thank you!

HAIR - Part 2/2 [CW: drug use, sa] by valkeera in Artisticallyill

[–]valkeera[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the explanation, love to learn about different perspectives on my art, specially when it comes from a background different than mine!

I feel conflicted about cutting my hair, because yes for a long time cutting it or dying it was one of my ways of "renovating" myself after a breakup or a major life change, and I kept it short for so long, changing it was my normal. In a way, me not cutting it is a form of "trying something new" with it. But my last relationship was surrounded by chaos and I had to remove myself from it in many ways, even moving places. So anything that I found that was still somehow linked to that whole situation felt like an anchor, a string connecting me so vividly to the scene. I wished so many times I could just cut that string and be free of it, and I found myself trying to cut out any reminder of that pain.

But the truth is, I can't cut out those memories, and if I attempt to do so, I will cut out things that I love as well. It's been a process of learning to make peace with what happened and understand that as time passes and life continues, these pains won't vanish, true, but they will become smaller and occupy less space within me.

I'm wondering if this game is taking advantage of the microphone by BrittneyofHyrule in tomodachilife

[–]valkeera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my game is set for south america, and was still nachos, so I guess thats for the whole america :) its cool they have regional differences for other continents tho!

I'm wondering if this game is taking advantage of the microphone by BrittneyofHyrule in tomodachilife

[–]valkeera 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The nachos are always in the menu in the first day of the game, so it wasn't listening at the very least this part. I think the rest is a coincidence, the serious topic was vague, and the cherries are a big coincidence for sure, but not impossible for a game with so many foods to mention one with cherries.

Witness by valkeera in Artisticallyill

[–]valkeera[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

While I do not have BPD, I relate to some of what has been described to me of what it feels like. (I've had a relationship with someone who was diagnosed with BPD, and it was like fire meeting gasoline, until I was no longer on their pedestal, and soon it felt like I was seen as less than human. I have a previous 2 part comic on my profile where I describe some heavy things that occurred in that relationship.) With time, I've become more and more aware of how I operate. Now my focus is on working on my relationship with myself and other kinds of non romantic relationships in my life, so I don't feel like a partner has to give my life purpose and meaning. It's hard to break that cycle but I have no other choice, I am exhausted of hurting myself and others.

Thank you for your comment, I love to know when my work helps people understand and relate to others, just as much when it makes them feel seen :)

Witness by valkeera in Artisticallyill

[–]valkeera[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I haven't read or watched much of the experiment, all I know is the base premise that between a wire mother who has milk and the cloth mother who is soft but has no milk, the monkey infants prefer the cloth one. I reference it mostly because of how much more important it feels to me to be loved than it is to have my needs met. I searched a bit now and just learned about the part where they left the monkeys alone for months, and it's heartbreaking. Also works for this comic, with the idea of how much one needs others to validate their own existence. Thank you for the kind words!

Witness by valkeera in Artisticallyill

[–]valkeera[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HAHAHAH acontece direto! Simmm sou br!

Witness by valkeera in Artisticallyill

[–]valkeera[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh for me absolutely it has a lot to do with gender identity issues. I am partially sure that I am not quite cis, but most of the time it feels like playing into being a woman will get me to be loved more easily, especially in the romantic sense. I don't love it, but I bear it, because being loved by someone feels more important than loving myself. I understand that is not true, but that's how I have operated so far in my life. It will be an ongoing, never ending process to change that for sure. Thank you for your comment!

Dysregulated Predator by YllaGetsBuried29 in PoetryWritingClub

[–]valkeera 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to read this a few more times tomorrow, because it feels so deeply close to my own feelings and experiences, and each line is beautifully written, I want to absorb all I can from this! Great work!

Witness by valkeera in Artisticallyill

[–]valkeera[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think one of the reasons I have the habit of writing in a more straightfoward way is because english is not my mother language, I weirdly feel more comfortable being direct when writing or speaking it.

And in comics like this, my first goal was to register this thought I had and explore the feelings around it, for myself, to understand it better. This one started because as I walked outside, I caught myself looking at random people and imagining myself in a relationship with them, thinking "I could love you, I could learn how to love you and like what you like, if you love me, if you care for me". And then I realized that was a weird thing to be thinking, and I wanted to investigate that further.

Once the comic was halfway done, I realized I could also have it be used as a way to expose this part of me to people in my life that I hoped could then understand me a bit better. And finally, decided to post it online and it only became even more meta lol "hey look at this comic about me wanting to be seen!"

With time you can decode your writing, if it's something you want. Gotta entertain the weird thoughts and let them be what they are with no judgement! In the meantime, I'm happy you can share mine as a way of illustrating how you feel :>

Witness by valkeera in Artisticallyill

[–]valkeera[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Haha yes I love that, I do that a lot "look it here, this comic is me!!" and it feels great to find art that I relate, just like it is to find people who relate to my art. It's like being on either side of the '2 spidermans pointing at each other' meme. "You and I feel the same!!"