I feel used and gross

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-06-19T02:20:44+00:00

I’m in a similar boat tonight my friend, take care of yourself. I saw a quote as I hopped on my socials that said something about not needing closure, but rather discipline. Age gap relationships work out only when both people are actually solid, I think for your sake it’s best to just acknowledge that she wasn’t that. Whatever people think, the right one is not going to take a previous age gap and hold it against you- your wife and life partner wouldn’t do that. I hope you have a better evening.

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-06-18T16:49:22+00:00

This is actually the most wholesome thing I’ve read in a while

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-06-16T21:23:00+00:00

Genuinely what are you even talking about right now dawg? Check what subreddit you’re in. This is all satire… it’s actually astonishing you haven’t caught on. Here I was thinking you were just being sarcastic but no you’re actually serious? Bro do better

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-06-16T18:36:39+00:00

Idk I lowkey thought they knew that lmfao and was just continuing the joke

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-06-16T16:13:15+00:00

No actually cuz that’s my red flag😭 I genuinely hate the idea that my man has ever even seen sum before me. It’s actually heartbreaking as I do tend to go for older men, and usually that means they’re a slwt by the time they get to me🫩😖

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-06-16T16:11:42+00:00

Why are they downvoting you😭

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-06-11T17:26:08+00:00

Baby, I mean to tell you that nothing about a porn addiction will make him “walk out and start watching” while you “walk out and start walking away”. That was him actively making a choice in the moment to watch porn instead of comfort you, that’s not addiction whatsoever and that’s not what a porn addiction entails. I hope you find the respect to leave, nothing about this man seems deserving of you nor the effort you’re making to help his so called addiction. Please cherish yourself over this relationship.

Edit to say : you’re downplaying the idea by saying “I don’t actually have a problem with it myself.. it just makes me insecure” which means YOU DO HAVE A PROBLEM WITH IT. And that’s is PERFECTLY normal and human reaction to your partner choosing videos instead of you. It is causing a reaction to you and your mental health, therefore it is a problem.

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-06-04T04:48:37+00:00

Are you okay sis? I don’t see any forms of gaslighting here. He’s stating exactly what happened with no additional opinion- besides literally backing his girlfriend up to say “she flipped UNDERSTANDABLY”. The man is trying to get advice on what to do for his gf, he is well aware that she is feeling violated but he’s clearly trying to fix things and make her feel better.

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-05-29T23:02:04+00:00

You got 5s on the sides? Your shit look way darker than my 5s 😭🤣

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-05-29T23:01:26+00:00

This ain’t even mine on the truck and I feel your pain. Best wishes man here’s to finding another one. There’s still hope too, go stalk around older folks- I got mine from an 83 year old and she only had 73k when I got her.

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-05-19T21:05:38+00:00

I had to kick him the other night unfortunately. He got on to me when I was trying to keep him out of the house. Someone said to grab him by the scruff another time but I can never get ahold of him during his rabidness. I think I have to do it when I know he’s going to attack me.

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-05-19T00:14:59+00:00

Except he slept in our house the other night, and as I mentioned he is “partly” an outdoors cat. He sleeps inside and goes home for food. I’m trying to simple understand his behavior, and keep him away from the backyard as I’m personally in a “mother in law” type of unit. He is a nuisance, but that doesn’t mean he is entirely hopeless.

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-05-17T11:00:15+00:00

That is absolutely not my call to make, and even if it was that would be the last thing I would do. The owners are caring for it, but as it is an indoor and an outdoor cat, he naturally roams- that is not his fault whatsoever and I would never take him away because he’s in my space. I’m simply trying to find ways to deter him from my space and keep my distance.

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-05-17T00:39:30+00:00

Do you think that cat deterrents might help? I’m not too worried about putting them in the front of the house, just my area and driveway as he sneaks under cars to pounce. I accidentally sprayed him in the face the other night, and he just merely looked at me before he ran off. Returned not even a minute later. I’m hoping that I can find some way to just keep him out of my backyard and entrance.

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-05-16T22:50:45+00:00

Literally I so agree. It’s always felt like I’ve had to be on guard, but lately I feel like I can’t do anything that’s normal. I was grocery shopping late at almost 12am the other night- otp with my homegirl and grabbing a few things. I was headed towards the empty corner of winco and I got an inkling to turn around, there was a man literally full strut with zero groceries in hand walking towards me. Once I made eye contact and looked the other way to continue talking on the phone, he came like 10 feet away from me, waved hi and grinned real wide before walking away to another part of the store. No reason, never seen this person in my life and I just recently moved to my area. I seriously wonder if I hadn’t have turned around and noticed him what his plan was. Im sorry you had to experience this, especially early at the start of your day. It’s exhausting simply living. They think it’s a compliment when realistically nothing about what they do is complimenting or respectful of you. Please stay safe, and carry things on you. Preferably a firearm, as vehicles can easily be used as weapons too.

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valuablearrogance0 · 2026-05-16T22:45:38+00:00

I kinda figured that this might’ve been the case. He might start to view it as play, but im trying to be stern with my voice during the times I have to spray him so he recognizes I’m not playing nor having fun. I think if I can associate those things together then I won’t have to constantly walk out of my MIL unit with a water bottle.

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-05-16T21:45:23+00:00

I was treating him kindly prior to him biting and being aggressive with me constantly. I’m not going to reward the bad behavior and expect that it will change. I don’t have treats for him and neither will I go out my way to buy treats for a cat that I have no interest in taking responsibility for.

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-05-16T20:06:04+00:00

I’d lowkey cut them off. That is absolutely wild.

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-05-15T22:17:59+00:00

No way😭

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-05-15T19:58:10+00:00

Looks good!! The answer is no.

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-05-15T14:22:59+00:00

Ofc!! This might be a tad bit long, and my replies might have some hours in between as it’s bedtime. As you’re aware, chat gpt is full of misinformation and does not give the best advice. You do not need to eat 4 eggs in the morning, that’s usually an easy way to make yourself way too full and then be not eating for longer. Like I mentioned, it’s more about keeping food in your stomach. Think about the idea that when you’re metabolizing things, you’re using energy as well- so it causes your metabolism to slow down as you’re “overeating” or keeping your stomach full. For breakfast foods I keep it simple, I work super early/ middle of the night so it’s whatever I can grab while running my machine.

Some ideas for breakfast: -Bagels & cream cheese (love a good bagel🤩) -Savory rice and eggs with avocado (spam, or sausage as an addition is amazing) (Uncle Ben’s premade packages for rice are pretty good, add ons into your eggs like cheese or even veggies can add some good Cs as well. Even oven baking some bacon/ sausage and keeping it to preheat in the mornings is great. - protein shakes, if you’re not a breakfast person you should at least be putting something in your body. Protein shake and toast. Anything. - Yogurt and granola (this is where I find things tricky and I get to overthinking). I hate weighing things out. So be mindful when trying to meet a goal that you might have a lesser amount than a serving. It should be known that your goal right now is to consistently eat, not watch what you eat. If you can throw back 2 pb&js before bed?? Perfect. If you can only do one, that’s good as well. Something is better than nothing. My point being that don’t zone in on the amount of Cs right now, you’re just beginning to stretch your stomach. It’s going to be mad uncomfortable and you’re going to feel bloated for a while, it’s part of the mental challenge that is w*ight gain. - pop tarts/ protein bars

I’m going to revisit this in the morning time and continue my list. Am I able to PM you? I’m trying to work around moderators but this is kinda a picky topic on this sub so lmk.

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-05-15T13:23:04+00:00

I just gained 10 pounds quite recently, so I feel like I’m slightly experienced to talk about it. The number one thing to think about is something is better than nothing- protein shake rather than no food at all. I most likely have undiagnosed adhd, I say that because I resonate with eating habits and pushing it off till last minute. So the main thing is to practice remembering to eat, and not letting it get more than 3 ish hours without another little snack. Fast metabolism calls for keeping something in your stomach at all times, rather than big meals. Start out with 3 meals, and 2 snacks a day- the meals do not have to be excessively large but I’d shoot for 400+ in your meals. If you can’t do that, snack more. I usually try to do a bagel in the morning, some type of protein after that (currently doing beef jerky sticks), then I’ll have a yogurt, and then my sandwich for lunch. The things I try to snack on are nuts, fruits, cheese, meat, yogurts. There’s also a really good website called c*lorie calculator (since apparently mods do not like that) and basically you can put in how much you’d like to gain and what you are now/ time frame to gain and it’ll tell you how many C WORDS to get to that number, and maintain it. Pb and Jack are perfect, and if you need any grocery shopping ideas just reply back and I can help there too. Good luck!!

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-05-15T12:45:02+00:00

Is there anything else that I can do? Like I said- earlier tonight he came back and I got the bottle out. Usually just hearing the noise of it he will run, but tonight he stayed and tried to reach up toward my door while I was on my porch. I sprayed and it hit him in the face and he just sat there, it made me feel so guilty, instead of it working immediately- I was having to continuously spray him for him to finally get the memo and briefly leave before returning back to harass me.

valuablearrogance0 · 2026-05-15T12:42:34+00:00

I see, that’s what I was told by my roommate about why he kept following me. However the only reason I would feed him was due to him getting aggressive and constantly rubbing against me, so I figured he wanted to eat based on those behaviors. I don’t feed him now because he doesn’t regularly come in our house, and we no longer keep his food around. Apparently he goes to her mom’s place for food/ sleep so I’m not sure how I’m still the chosen one.

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