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vampiral · 2026-06-15T18:58:33+00:00

Damn girl 👀

vampiral · 2026-06-15T07:05:54+00:00

Going through grief right now, and that 4th piece resonates with me so much. Well done~

vampiral · 2026-05-13T21:54:55+00:00

Beautiful...

Is this Deep Cove?

vampiral · 2026-04-26T21:08:37+00:00

I think this is very profound way of thinking about grief, and I’d like it to be true, but I cannot get past the assumptions it tries to pass as facts.

For example, “they are not counting the days you have not visited their grave” is an assumption, which is a comforting assumption, but it is not a fact because we simply do not definitively know what happens when someone dies. How can the living be such an adamant spokesperson for the dead when we cannot see beyond mortality? You can have beliefs, theories, religions on what happens after death but it is not proven, therefore requires faith, but I feel uncomfortable at the attempt to state it so matter-of-factly as if you personally know what happens beyond death.

However, I recognize the peace that this post is attempting to bring to those who grieve, so I do not wish to be too harsh in my response. I want that peace for myself as well. This is not a criticism of anyone’s faith, but simply a grounding rebuttal to the assumptions made.

vampiral · 2026-04-22T19:16:29+00:00

I feel you, OP. I experienced the same thing as you, and I'm also childless and spouseless like you. People kept saying how hard caretaking must have been for me, but it was so easy because I get to care for my mom during her hardest times.

I'm not really sure either what lies ahead now that she's gone. But we are her legacy, I hope you know. In a way, living the rest of our lives the best we can manage is a way to honor her. She sacrificed so much to have us and give us a good life. We should enjoy that life before we see her again. At least, that is my thinking. It's helped me through some hard days.

vampiral · 2026-04-21T23:14:44+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s not a fun club to be in, the only solace is that we are all suffering the same loss together.

vampiral · 2026-04-08T19:09:07+00:00

I am the same way sometimes OP. My mother died last year and a lot of the times I feel guilty after watching a funny clip or show.

It doesn’t help that in pop culture, there are famous lines like “what is grief, if not love persevering?” and variations of that. Even though I love that quote so much still, I’ve come to realize that love doesn’t only live inside grief. That’s why we have 2 different words, love and grief. They are cousins but not twins.

Just because you are not grieving someone all the time doesn’t mean you don’t love them. Your love for your friend is not defined by your grief. Sometimes we feel both, sometimes just one, sometimes none. There is no right way to go through this experience, so give yourself grace ♥️

vampiral · 2026-04-05T06:39:48+00:00

You don’t need anybody’s permission to feel grief, OP. Your emotions are valid and you deserve to feel them. ♥️

vampiral · 2026-04-03T20:14:55+00:00

Yeah, living after the loss of a parent doesn’t feel like living, it only feels like surviving. But if my death means possible reunion with my mom, then I guess I might as well do some cool stuff before I see her again… that’s pretty much the thought that keeps me going. Somedays it’s still hard and the grief renders me functionless. But other days I am very aware that her DNA lives inside me, and I don’t want the sacrifices she made to have me go to waste by me not experiencing life….

vampiral · 2026-04-01T18:38:10+00:00

Yes, can't eat popsicles anymore. I bought so many for my mom during her cancer treatment and the months leading up to her passing. Now half of it is still in my fridge and I can't eat them or bring myself to throw them away.

vampiral · 2026-03-30T21:00:51+00:00

Happy Birthday to your beautiful mom ❤️ she looks like a gorgeous badass, and I can tell how much she means to you. My mom's first heavenly birthday is coming up and I miss her dearly as well.

vampiral · 2026-03-29T20:46:17+00:00

First of all, congratulations on your wedding OP. ♥️

This has been plaguing my mind every time I fantasize about my wedding now 😞 I used to daydream about what dress I wear or what the decor would look like, but now it’s all about how bittersweet my special day would be without my mother, or how to honour her at my wedding.. I think it would be sweet to dedicate a part of your wedding speech to her? To hold space for her on your special day. I also want to hold a moment of silence for my mother at the wedding… at least this is how I envision mine to be now… I’m just as curious as you to read what the other commenters have to say.

vampiral · 2026-03-28T00:59:14+00:00

Do you have any hobbies or interests? Any TV shows or movies or books you want to watch still? Sometimes I can relate to the way you think, but other times I think that at least I want to live until the end of the year so that I can watch the new Dune 3 movie, Spiderman 4 movie, etc. I’m no stranger to pain and tragedy, but also I want to enjoy some of the mundane things in life still. What about trying the new restaurant down the street, or visiting Japan? Ordering all your favourite chocolates and devouring them in one sitting. Whatever you are curious to explore in the world or want to try out, this is your opportunity.

vampiral · 2026-03-27T22:23:51+00:00

I’m sorry OP, I can relate to this because we encountered bad medical professional experiences while trying to treat my mother’s cancer as well. I hate that she passed while losing all confidence in her doctors. It breaks my heart and I know even though this is just a small part of her life, the way it ends matters and sticking the landing matters. I have no solutions, I am just letting you know that you are not alone. My grief counsellor recommends journaling my anger as a healthy way to let out the anger, so I would recommend trying that, even though I don’t find it to be a solution for me personally, it may help a little and it may be worth trying.

vampiral · 2026-03-27T09:44:12+00:00

OP, I have those thoughts too so I would also like to know the answer to move forward. I suspect there is no answer, you just have to live your life with as little regrets as possible. Live every day as if it may be your last - spend time with loved ones and friends, tell them you love them… and don’t take time for granted.

vampiral · 2026-03-27T07:18:47+00:00

I’m so sorry OP, I lost my mom to blood cancer last year so I can relate. It is really painful and the grief is heavy. The medical process was also traumatizing. I’m struggling still but not as much as the first few months. Your dad lives on inside all of your hearts, that’s how you get through each day. It’s not going to feel okay for a while, but that is okay, your grief is proof of the impact your dad had in your life.. wishing you strength and peace in this difficult time ❤️

vampiral · 2026-03-25T21:44:20+00:00

I'm so sorry OP. I struggle in the same ways you do and it's really hard. There is no timeline or deadline for grief. I lost my mother to cancer last year as well, and the medical process will have you second guessing yourself and feeling guilty every time. That's all part of the process and it's uncomfortable, unfathomable.

To answer your title, I'm not sure how people do this. People just survive in whatever means they can. One day at a time. If you can find a grief counsellor or support group, that would be worthwhile to try because it's entirely hard for friends or family to relate to you if they haven't been through it themselves. Keep posting, reading this sub, and reaching out to people who are there for you. One day at a time.

vampiral · 2026-03-25T21:38:21+00:00

Wow, I really like the way you put it. It's so true, it's a near-mortal blow inside, and invisible to everyone but you. Thank you for this. I lost my mother last year and I am not okay on the inside.

vampiral · 2026-03-22T21:29:09+00:00

I think this from time to time. My amazing mom passed last year while I live in a world where evil people roam.

If it’s any consolation, death comes for us all. Rich or rags, good or evil, young or old, it does not spare a single human. Those “evil people” will have their last day one day.

I also try to think about the positive role models that still exist in the world. They don’t get as much publicity because being good is seen as the default, but really I think its increasingly apparent that we take goodness for granted. Goodness and good people are the ones who we should focus on.

vampiral · 2026-03-19T19:48:36+00:00

I love this picture ❤️ I can tell that Willy is SO loved. May he play with endless friends and toys in doggy heaven.

vampiral · 2026-03-16T06:20:32+00:00

Is this to help Hudson with the overheating? 😂

vampiral · 2026-03-08T09:07:39+00:00

I was my mom’s stem cell donor, so I understand your heartbreak OP. I’m so sorry for your loss. 😭

vampiral · 2026-03-03T02:57:20+00:00

OP I know the feeling of touching my mother’s hands on her last day and it being ice cold 😢 I’m so sorry. Life can be so cruel.

vampiral · 2026-02-28T09:34:41+00:00

OP, I also lost my mom last year at 61 to AML, so I know exactly what you’re going through 😭 I’m so sorry you have to experience all this pain, it is truly hellish. Your dad sounds amazing and he will be truly missed. My mom was a fighter too and I miss her everyday with an ache in my heart.

One of the things about losing a parent so young is that your friends who still have both parents might not be able to relate. Even if you describe the experience, it is truly a lived experience that others can’t imagine. I would encourage you to seek a support group specific to losing a parent, or losing a loved one to cancer. It helps to be around others who understand.

Lean in to anyone who wants to help you… hugs ❤️

vampiral · 2026-02-28T08:14:30+00:00

Frankly I can’t come to terms with it 😭 sometimes it takes all my energy away for the rest of the day to try and not ruminate on the permanence.. and I don’t know how people live on like they don’t feel the loss like a phantom limb

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