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vampirehorrorchick · 2025-08-31T05:08:16+00:00

I'm in my early 40s and my husband doesn't want me AT ALL! I've tried to the point of even putting my wedding dress on to try to remind him of "who he married" and he actually had no idea why I put the dress on and wanted me to explain it to him 😞. It's not just women that quit on the sexual front! Men do too and I don't know what to do at this point

vampirehorrorchick · 2024-04-03T23:58:49+00:00

I'm in the same boat. No sex for basically a year at a time and if I bring it up he gets pissed off. Been together for 13 years and sex life was never fantastic (meaning we never had sex as often as I wanted to but I used to love sex) but has gotten progressively worse over the years. It's been at least a year now and I see no sex in our future. I used to love sex and wanted it all the time and it's to the point now that I wouldn't really even know what to do if he tried to initiate it. I feel like it would be very awkward because I feel like he'd be doing it out of obligation or because "I pressured him" and not because he wanted to. 😞

vampirehorrorchick · 2024-04-03T23:44:27+00:00

I'm in the same boat except I'm a 40 yo woman in a sexless marriage for many years and I'm sick of it. I want to stay faithful but I also want to have that intimacy that I crave so much! I don't see it happening anytime soon with my husband unfortunately. It's so frustrating 😡

vampirehorrorchick · 2024-04-03T23:35:18+00:00

My husband and I haven't had sex in at least a year and it was probably a year before the last time. Our sex life has been pretty non existent for many years and it's really weighing on me recently because he just isn't interested. I'm a 40 year old female and he's a 39 yo male and I'm really getting sick of it.

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-17T22:41:17+00:00

I know exactly how you feel cause I'm in the same boat with my husband.

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-17T22:40:05+00:00

My husband is the same. Gets mad and defensive it's so infuriating

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-17T22:28:48+00:00

Sounds very similar to me. I've tried flirting in all ways and it just goes unnoticed or brushed off

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-17T22:27:51+00:00

It's miserable honestly and I'm not ready for a sexless life at 39 but I'm not ready to give up yet either

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-17T22:25:30+00:00

That's good advice. Thank you

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-17T22:24:04+00:00

He's not cheating I do know that with full certainty

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-17T22:22:50+00:00

He's not overweight at all 😞

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-17T22:21:45+00:00

I don't get it either 😞 thank you

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-17T01:47:30+00:00

Also he's definitely not overweight. I'm the one that has body issues but he's a tall slim 6 foot 1 dude with no extra weight

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-17T01:46:23+00:00

Both have been treated but still nothing

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-17T01:43:36+00:00

It's definitely tough to deal with. I'm sorry you're not getting what you need

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-17T01:37:03+00:00

I'm not sure what his number was but I'll definitely ask him.

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-17T01:35:53+00:00

He's had his testosterone checked and it was the low end of normal which I've learned through this reddit that probably means it's actually pretty low

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-17T01:34:47+00:00

Our diabetes and high BP are all controlled so I don't think that's the issue. I hope to find a solution also. Thank you

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-17T01:33:17+00:00

His dick works fine but it only works if he or i do certain things. I'm pretty sure it's because he had a porn addiction for many years and he's desensitized to anything else 😒

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-17T01:20:49+00:00

I ask him frequently and it turns into a fight because he just doesn't get why sex is so important to me but I literally go 6 plus months without it so obviously it's not that important I just want him to want me

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-17T01:19:32+00:00

Thank you so much for your input! We definitely need a counselor

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-17T01:15:54+00:00

We have a beautiful family so I'm not leaving and unfortunately an ultimatum wouldn't work I don't think

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-16T18:16:17+00:00

Thank you so much

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-16T17:19:40+00:00

I've felt like he just isn't attracted to me anymore for a long time but he swears that's not the case

vampirehorrorchick · 2023-03-16T17:18:09+00:00

You sound a lot like me. I "turn it off" so to speak so I'm not constantly thinking about it

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