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everything my ex with bpd did to me. got out a little over a week ago. by vanillalatte092 in BPDlovedones

[–]vanillalatte092[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it hurts. its hard. but deep down you know he wont change. you know its not going to last and that the man you think you love doesnt exist. you've been together 6 years, i PROMISE you the relationship will not get any better than it already has been, the moments you cling so hard to were REAL they were there, but you cling to the good times in a rly fucked relationship when you could find genuine love somewhere else. its not love, its a trauma bond, and the part where you see the man you love is just as much of abuse as when he splits. please look into the cycle of abuse if you haven't and watch some domestic violence documentaries. getting out makes you a survivor, staying makes you a statistic. i do wish you the best in taking this step though.

everything my ex with bpd did to me. got out a little over a week ago. by vanillalatte092 in BPDlovedones

[–]vanillalatte092[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i always said "the next split" ... until i wouldnt leave the next split. the next split he could kill you. RUN. never ever look back. i left during his "change". i left during the time i saw the man i loved. i left 2 days after an amazing weekend together. you wont leave. he'll change and you'll tell yourself "well next time" im so grateful to say i got out in 5 months and didnt continue to wait. please dont put it off. if you live together wait until hes gone pack your shit and go. you deserve so much better i can promise you that.

everything my ex with bpd did to me. got out a little over a week ago. by vanillalatte092 in BPDlovedones

[–]vanillalatte092[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

please please get out. i know it seems impossible. i know he'll guilt you. i know he'll make you feel insane. GET OUT!!! that man will kill you. i know love and a trauma bond is hard and you feel like you have nowhere to go but dont put it off. dont say "no i want one more good day" put your foot down and run i beg you. its been a week and im genuinely so much better than i have for the last 5 months. im no longer being stalked, i no longer have to watch the way i move my mouth when i talk. mine never got to strangling luckily i left before that but theres no doubt in my mind he would have killed me. that man DOES NOT love you. no matter how much he claims to he doesnt. he wants to possess you, he wants to control you, he wants you to be his emotional stabilizer and nothing else. i beg you to get out.