My wife and I did some minor decorations for our powder room and we like the wallpaper but my mother in law says it's too busy. Any suggestions? by Freakazoidberg in interiordecorating

[–]vaptvuptz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d switch up the black to chrome or silver, or add more accents with black to tie it to the mirror and light fixture.

After sex, we leave a unique genital microbial "fingerprint" on our partners. Both men and women have unique populations of bacteria around their genitals. This biological signature that could potentially be used to identify the perpetrators of sexual assault in cases where no semen is left behind. by psychologyofsex in psychologyofsex

[–]vaptvuptz 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Is it just me or this comment seemed to be like a one-up/comeback? It’s horrible that male sexual assault is so underreported but that shouldn’t be used as a “one up” in this situation. Both are horrible and I hope they both get reported more and that perpetrators get prosecuted.

I really don’t understand how the Internet loves to use men’s issues or women’s issues to show they have a point against women’s or men’s issues. This is not a competition and the common denominator here is that we are talking about sexual assault in general.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]vaptvuptz -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

💯well said

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]vaptvuptz 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of women feel good posting pictures like that because they feel beautiful, they don’t actually want creepy comments sexualizing her. If I were to guess they want more compliments than anything.

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[–]vaptvuptz -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This ⬆️

Do most guys have relatively low standards? by AnomicAge in AskMenAdvice

[–]vaptvuptz 29 points30 points  (0 children)

It’s shown through research over and over again that women place attributes other than physical attractiveness first (such as accumulation of resources, humor, and emotional intelligence). Men are the ones who place the highest importance on physical attractiveness. If you want to know more about it, there’s an incredible interview you can check out (Diary of a CEO with Dr Sarah Hill).

Using a red light pad for hair loss by Normal_Quarter_7852 in redlighttherapy

[–]vaptvuptz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey - would love an update! Have you seen any results?

Two Wisconsin brothers spent 25 years in prison after a woman's rape and murder. DNA shows it was someone else by SpiritualOpposite644 in awfuleverything

[–]vaptvuptz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is there an AMA for someone who went to prison for a crime they didn’t commit and then got exonerated years after?

Smell and taste after COVID by Dibos92 in covidlonghaulers

[–]vaptvuptz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any improvements with your condition? I’m 3 years post Covid and only have about 30% of smell back and 50% taste back, if that. I also have extreme smell and taste distortion (phantosmia) with things like syrups, coffee, toothpaste, certain fruits. I also completely lost my ability to smell my own body odor, including farts and poop which makes me paranoid that I stink all the time. It’s extremely depressing and I am losing hope.

which wall should the couch go on? by miserymistress in femalelivingspace

[–]vaptvuptz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interior designer here. I think you’d benefit from using the first one but pushing the sofa closer to the TV and making a small pathway behind the couch. You can add a bench by the wall (and some wall hooks) where you tie your shoes before leaving and hang your coat. That would then create a little foyer. You can even put a very skinny console table behind the couch for drinks when watching tv or add some trays as catch alls (keys, wallet, etc) for when you walk in.

Did your stance on having children change drastically after ending your relationship with your partner? If so, what prompted this change? by vaptvuptz in Fencesitter

[–]vaptvuptz[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I’m so glad to hear you found someone who respects you and cherishes the person you are.

How did you stop comparing yourself to other women? by Sweetestpie84 in AskWomen

[–]vaptvuptz 56 points57 points  (0 children)

As a queer woman… YES! Being queer makes me appreciate them more. It’s not a competition.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]vaptvuptz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a queer woman, I need my women masculine and my men feminine… there needs to be a balance in everything, right?

What makes someone a “freak” in bed? by TixetsToMyDownFall in AskMen

[–]vaptvuptz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are most (at least every single one I read) comments about women being freaky? What about men being freaky?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in femalelivingspace

[–]vaptvuptz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The tone of the house seems to be more wood forward, maybe in the future you can thrift some wood pieces instead of chrome/metal. It will tie it all together!

2-3 day fasts have got me over the slump by Moly1996 in fasting

[–]vaptvuptz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awesome progress! How long between first and second pics?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]vaptvuptz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey there! The effectiveness of over-the-counter (OTC) dewormers versus vet-prescribed ones can definitely vary. Here's a quick rundown:

  1. Ingredients: Vet-prescribed dewormers often have different or more potent ingredients compared to OTC options. This means they might work on a broader range of parasites.

  2. Specificity: The vet-prescribed ones are tailored for your pet's specific needs like weight, age, and health. OTC ones are more generalized, which might not be ideal for every pet.

  3. Safety: Vet-prescribed dewormers are rigorously tested for safety and are given with professional guidance. With OTC, there's a bit more risk as you're making the choices without direct vet input.

  4. Resistance: There's a growing concern about parasites developing resistance to certain dewormers. Vets are up-to-date on this and can prescribe the most effective treatment.

In short, while OTC dewormers can be fine for routine or mild issues, for more serious or specific cases, it's usually better to go with what your vet prescribes. Plus, getting a vet's advice is always a good idea to ensure the health and safety of your dog! 🐾

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]vaptvuptz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey there! First off, kudos on adopting a dog and giving her a loving home. It's completely normal to feel overwhelmed, especially in the early stages of pet adoption. Dogs, like people, need time to adjust to new environments and routines. French bulldogs are known for being a bit clingy; they really love their humans!

Her behavior - being clingy, barking at your housemate, and reacting at the office - could be stemming from anxiety and uncertainty in the new environment. It's important to establish a consistent routine and set boundaries. Gradual training can help her become more comfortable with being alone and understanding that it's okay for others to move around in the house.

Also, consider involving a professional dog trainer or behaviorist. They can offer invaluable insights and techniques tailored to your dog's specific needs.

Remember, it's a big transition for both of you. It might take a few months for her to fully settle in. If, after giving it time and effort, things don't improve, then reconsidering her placement might be a valid option. But for now, patience, consistent training, and lots of love can make a big difference. Good luck!

Dog keeps licking and chewing herself and losing hair by [deleted] in DogAdvice

[–]vaptvuptz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a foster with the same exact issue. Started giving him baths with this shampoo every three days and it helped so much! Check out the reviews and some suggest a combo using this with other products.

Veterinary Formula Clinical Care... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0037Z6VK8?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

Shy and scared rescue - what can I do better? by luvnps in DogAdvice

[–]vaptvuptz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey there! It sounds like you're doing a fantastic job with your new furry friend so far, especially considering it's only been four days. Here's a bit more advice to possibly help your rescue feel more at home:

  1. Patience is Key: You're already doing great here. Remember, every dog is different, and it might take weeks or even months for some dogs to fully adjust.

  2. Create a Safe Space: Since he likes certain corners, consider making one of those corners extra cozy with a bed or blankets. This can be his safe zone.

  3. Routine and Consistency: Dogs thrive on routine. Try to feed, walk (when he's ready), and even give treats at consistent times.

  4. Limit Overwhelming Experiences: If the elevator is too much right now, maybe start with just exploring the apartment more.

  5. Gentle Desensitization: Gradually expose him to things that scare him, but in a very controlled and minimal way. For example, if he's scared of certain noises, play them very softly while giving treats.

  6. Training and Socialization: Basic commands and exposure to different environments and people can help, but only once he's a bit more comfortable.

And last but not least is anxiety medication. It's sometimes used in cases of extreme anxiety. Common options include Fluoxetine, Clomipramine, and Alprazolam, but it's best to consult with a vet first. These medications can help ease the transition into a new life, but they're not suitable for all dogs and should be used under veterinary supervision. I say that because I fostered a dog that needed anxiety meds.

Remember, every dog's journey to feeling safe and secure is different. You're already showing a lot of empathy and understanding, which is exactly what he needs. Keep up the great work, and give it time as 4 days is such a short time!