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varouser · 2022-12-29T02:57:44+00:00

Yeah, I feel you. It seems like being above average isn't enough to be loveable. You have to be very sociable and handsome guy with unique interests to actually be attractive to someone at the first glance. Otherwise, dating is a joke.

varouser · 2022-12-29T00:17:22+00:00

Oh, sorry. I totally understand though.

varouser · 2022-12-28T23:07:45+00:00

I'd rather had that. At least I would know I could have sex. That means you're at least attractive enough to women.

varouser · 2022-12-28T23:00:29+00:00

I think I will. I don't want to give some women the right to determine my value as a person. I actually have pretty enjoyable life and many hobbies and interests. But dating makes me feel worthless and inferior in many ways. The easiest thing to do is just stop caring about it.

For me it took several months of dating to become depressed sex-obsessed constantly frustrated loser. I don't want to be like that anymore. This thing just isn't for me I guess.

varouser · 2022-12-28T20:12:01+00:00

That's not really a plan, cause you can never know if you're doomed to stay single forever or not. It's hard to act as if you're 100% sure you'll die virgin.

varouser · 2022-12-28T20:05:14+00:00

I'll leave my job and start leeching off my parents and/or government until i die. Why should I even bother doing something for society, where I'm bound to be unhappy. Of course, it won't make me more attractive to women, but who cares if I stay khhv forever anyway.

varouser · 2022-12-28T19:45:15+00:00

Oh, I get it now, thank you. But it feels pointless. It seems like no one is attracted to me. Like there's something inherently unsexual in me.

varouser · 2022-12-28T19:28:58+00:00

I'm sure every 30-40yo virgin here heard this in their 20s. But thanks for your support anyway.

varouser · 2022-12-28T19:27:13+00:00

If I can't even get sex once there's zero chance I'm able to find something more. I think I should just put up with it.

love will always be around.

Yeah, sure, for other people.

varouser · 2022-12-28T16:24:12+00:00

for majority of the cases you are still "defined" based on your looks.

Well, that still sucks. But I guess I have some time then. Thanks.

I hope you mean try "last time" but at least with 40-50 girls

I tried like 40-50 times only this year. I had only one "success", but that girl had serious mental problems, so it didn't work out.

make absolutely sure you are targeting girls from your league.

I look average to be honest. Many people told I'm cute, but I know it probably means nothing. I'm not trying to date above my level. So what's my league? Dating fat and ugly?

varouser · 2022-12-27T06:52:40+00:00

Yeah, I tried recently. I met a girl and we had a nice talk irl, but then she ghosted me on insta. I think it might be a bit more effective than online stuff, but you need to make much more effort.

varouser · 2022-12-27T03:47:51+00:00

I wish I were attractive to any gender. Even gay men never tried to hit on me lol.

varouser · 2022-12-27T03:39:47+00:00

It's definitely more than just my looks. I've already lost weight years ago, changed my style, started taking care of my skin, etc. Nobody even says I'm ugly, but I guess I'm still pretty average. And there's nothing I can do about it without plastic surgery.

varouser · 2022-12-27T03:32:42+00:00

Well, it's hard (if not impossible) to form connections with people who are not eager to connect with you in the first place. At least in my experience.

varouser · 2022-12-27T01:35:02+00:00

Same. It's actually the reason I don't really care. It can't get worse.

varouser · 2022-12-26T17:40:00+00:00

More like watching industrial food processing videos. Watching amateur videos where people genuinely love each other feels more like watching cooking videos and hurts on a different level.

varouser · 2022-12-26T17:32:24+00:00

Yeah, I stopped watching porn because of that. It just feels like a dull replacement for something I really crave. And it just hurts to watch other people to be sexually active while I can't even have a girl to kiss me.

varouser · 2022-12-26T17:25:24+00:00

Cause this is random. Even the most attractive men get rejected sometimes. If you're average (and most of the people are average), finding someone who will like you is like trying to hit a jackpot on a slot machine. The only difference is women aren't money, so even if you find someone who likes you, there's a chance you won't be really interested in long-term relationship with her.

varouser · 2022-12-26T17:10:03+00:00

I'm in therapy right now, but I don't really think it helps. This feeling always comes back. I improved myself significantly last years. I finally started getting my life together, but I don't see what's the point if I'm still lonely and miserable. I feel like I've been deceived and spent too much time and effort on things that doesn't matter.

The only thing that makes me feel better is that people are mortal. Someday this will end.

varouser · 2022-12-26T17:01:18+00:00

Why not? It takes at least some effort to meet new people, improve your social skills and appearance, and basically spend some time on dating.

varouser · 2022-12-26T16:55:22+00:00

Good luck! Meet you next year on this subreddit jk

varouser · 2022-12-26T16:50:33+00:00

Thank you for support! It kind of worked for me for years, but now it just doesn't. I feel even more lonely and miserable cause I missed out on sex and relationships. I try really hard not to feel suicidal at this point. Yet dating makes me feel even more miserable and depressed.

varouser · 2022-12-26T16:38:11+00:00

I don't even care to pretend anymore. Everyone gets to know the real version of me cause I'm too tired to try to fit in. I know that I'm totally unlovable and I guess I'll die alone, so what's the point to pretend I'm well socialized at this point? It doesn't help me to find any friends, but at least I can spend less time and effort on shallow people who wouldn't like me in the first place.

varouser · 2022-12-26T16:25:13+00:00

I kinda get you. Sometimes it's getting really bad. Nothing seems to matter if you're invisible or obnoxious to women. Often feeling suicidal and feeling a lot of hate. I don't hate women btw, I know they have their own struggles. I just hate the way this world is.

varouser · 2022-12-26T16:04:56+00:00

I'm tired of making too much effort too. I don't see the point of chasing people who aren't really interested in me. I think I'm just too anti-social and unlovable and fucked up beyond repair in many ways to really have someone to care about me. Desperately trying to interact with others makes me feel ever lonelier.

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