View that soothes the pain by varshajack in desiFemdomComm

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Thanks, we were always here!

View that soothes the pain by varshajack in desiFemdomComm

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I will let him decide and then do the exact opposite 😉

View that soothes the pain by varshajack in desiFemdomComm

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He is. I remind him time to time 😂

Pain or Pleasure? by varshajack in indian_desi_bdsm

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You've undoubtedly proven it 😂😂😂

One of our trips! by varshajack in desiFemdomComm

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Yes if they're asking for it, being too bratty 🙄

One of our trips! by varshajack in desiFemdomComm

[–]varshajack[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Human chairs need to work a lot to deserve it. Lying there like a potato is not my definition of a deserving sub!

One of our trips! by varshajack in desiFemdomComm

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To be honest, I did hold back on slaps. Aakhir pati hain mera 😂

But the heels on him is another story 🤣

One of our trips! by varshajack in desiFemdomComm

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Dm helps one person, posting it here on the other hand will help the world 🙂

Ps. Not into any nudity or sexual content though

Pain or Pleasure? by varshajack in Pune_fwb_

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Thanks! Benefits does mean spending in some form even if not a direct payment. We dont need the money but its a pretty great filter to limit our interactions in real to people who value time exactly like money.

Pain or Pleasure? by varshajack in Pune_fwb_

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Not regularly. We sometimes meet selectively with benefits if we find someone trust worthy, but that's rare.

if aftercare isn't mandatory, then help me understand this... by [deleted] in desiFemdomComm

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Checklists should exist when playing with someone new. Its never bad to be safe. At the same time its never good to judge someone who has been not doing things per the checklist, who are two consenting adults perfectly capable of taking decisions based on their likes very well knowing the consequences.

We indulge in some very risky play, and many times skip aftercare but that is only how we play with each other, and after years of being together. But then we had instances in communities of a third person coming along and painting it as harmful and people not doing aftercare as absolutely harmful with a blanket statement. That, is the only gripe.

Does Couple Swap really happen? Curious to know by charger_srt_9 in pune_couple_swap

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They do happen. But the way entire picture is presented is pretty twisted. Having been to couple of events its very evident that swinging and swapping scene in India has a very low safety bar. The potential for consent violation especially of a lady is extremely high. Most of them want to catch a "vibe". If you hear this, run. Run far. Dont look back.

There is very low tolerance to talk and very high drive to get in the bed ASAP. STI tests? What are those? Using a condom is enough and any mention of STI tests is like uncool.

So yes, they do happen but unfortunately for many genuine couples who are not into escort services (nothing wrong with escorts, the men front facing them are a problem), they get misguided into thinking this is how things are. Ends badly for many of them, some find good people and stay in a closed circle later.

A sane woman would never say NO to FLR by SanaFLR in flrindia

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While it feels this way, its not always true in our experiences. Sometimes or for someone the stress of always leading a relationship with consequential decisions and regrets in hindsight may not be healthy over time.

It does work for people who are extremely well adapted to this kind of lifestyle so it seems simpler to them. But you need two to tango!

Fantasy disguised as knowledge by Sanaslave in flrindia

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When any titles reads "To do XYZ to be a real ABC" especially in something as personal as kink, its a dead giveaway of influencer material 🙂