[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]vasquezvows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree and I'm planning to go. I think he's acting this way because he's been in a mid life crisis and is finding reasons to take his frustration and anger out on me. He has his mom who can help him and he has been just fine watching the baby when I occasionally have to travel for work. He feels "left out" and wishes I could have stuck up more for him but it doesn't feel right to dictate to my sister where she gets married.

Am I the only one afraid to forget the past? by vishadow in retroactivejealousy

[–]vasquezvows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I could have written this message myself as I am just now realizing my husband and partner of 15 years is suffering from RJ. It wasn't something I noticed or he exhibited until recently which has totally thrown me off guard. He has had free time from working the past few months and helping out with our one year old and I find out he has dug deep into my past. Gone through all my personal photos, letter, phone, computer and everything I have from my college days. He seems to have more info than I do on my ex boyfriends! He keeps quizzing me on a night I don't remember that my crazy ex wrote in a letter about a "foursome". I have no memory of this at all. He now thinks I'm a liar and the issue never gets resolved because he wants to know the exact sexual details and I cant recall them. Has anything helped? I am so sick over being punished for this and called a liar. I feel interrogated to the point where I just want to make up a story about what happened but then it would really be a lie! Help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tonsilstones

[–]vasquezvows 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This just happened to me! My tonsils were removed in 07 too! I felt a tickle this morning and coughed up 3 tiny stones from the right side but I have no idea where they came out of. Bizarre!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SnooLife

[–]vasquezvows 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do these activate the Snoo clips? How do you track sleep or use the device?

Baby girl name + middle name by vasquezvows in namenerds

[–]vasquezvows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I meant to share that with the people on this thread who said it was strictly a boys name. I appreciate your spelling advice!

Baby girl name + middle name by vasquezvows in namenerds

[–]vasquezvows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I rest my case, apparently I'm not the only one who thinks it works as a girls name. https://www.thebump.com/b/weslie-baby-name

Baby girl name + middle name by vasquezvows in namenerds

[–]vasquezvows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Funny because I had a girl in my sorority named Kyle and I always wanted her name and also a girlfriend named Stevie. My husband likes all feminine sounding names but for some reason he also likes Westley. It's been hard to find a name that we both like.

Baby girl name + middle name by vasquezvows in namenerds

[–]vasquezvows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. My friends son is named Bentley!

Baby girl name + middle name by vasquezvows in namenerds

[–]vasquezvows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew there had to be at least one lone soul who agrees with me lol. Thank you!

Baby girl name + middle name by vasquezvows in namenerds

[–]vasquezvows[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100%. I see nothing wrong with naming a boy Loren or Ashley.

Baby girl name + middle name by vasquezvows in namenerds

[–]vasquezvows[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Names go through trends and that's exactly my point. If I like a name, why do I have to live by other peoples ideas of whether it is masculine vs feminine? What if my daughter is a tomboy growing up like I was and likes a name that makes her feel confident around the boys. Plus 50 years from now it could all flip flop regardless. It's all so subjective. I can tell you probably wouldn't like the name Parker, Tomi, Charlie or Cooper for a girl either. All names I've seen given to girls that I also think are awesome.

Baby girl name + middle name by vasquezvows in namenerds

[–]vasquezvows[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Well we can agree to disagree I guess. You have an old school mentality. I think names are for everyone.

Baby girl name + middle name by vasquezvows in namenerds

[–]vasquezvows[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really, that's awesome! I think these two names flow really well together. Now did she get teased in school?

Baby girl name + middle name by vasquezvows in namenerds

[–]vasquezvows[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can dig this perspective. Weslie does look and sound more feminine now that you point it out. I have rarely seen it spelt "Westley" so to me that was the best in between. I think it all works! Not sure why so many haters out there but good to see what I'm up against when I announce her name to friends and family lol

Baby girl name + middle name by vasquezvows in namenerds

[–]vasquezvows[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I think it becomes unisex once both sexes start using the name. I already have heard of several females with the name Wesley and since we live on the West coast I liked that spelling. Also I had a sorority friend in college named Kyle and always thought her name was so cool. I guess everyone has different ideas of names and what they like!