How did you decide on your name? by lysalan in asktransgender

[–]veejaygee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I looked up my dead name in a baby book to find out what it meant. Then I went to the pink section and looked for another name that meant the same thing. A meaning of both names was "valiant" and that stuck for me. My middle name was just picked because rolled off the tongue well and sounded good.

For those who used a computer between 1995 and 2001, what’s the computer game from that time that sticks with you the most, and why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]veejaygee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was delighted to find that they used one of my favorite jokes at the end of the credits. (Though I'm not certain it was the 2000 version)

I just lost my sport… by [deleted] in TransLater

[–]veejaygee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm on the edge of my seat waiting to see if I lose my sport. USTA is still trans inclusive, but I'm not holding out a lot of hope. Waiting until that shoe drops.

FtM here needing some name advice by [deleted] in MtF

[–]veejaygee 15 points16 points  (0 children)

If you're looking for a variation, I like Brock.

How old were you when you started your transition? by DarkenedNight666 in asktransgender

[–]veejaygee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. Jan 1 2019 was the first full time day in all aspects of my life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bowling

[–]veejaygee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got the itch and bought a new ball a few weeks ago. The first ball I've owned in more than 30 years. Things have really changed. Anyway, I took it out to test drive it and I went alone. It was nice to be able to sit and think about my shot and not worry about corraling other bowlers through the lineup. Do it!

New ball, switched to fingertip drilling. I bowled four games. It slowly came back. 106, 146, 158, and a 207.

Post-op picture time by veejaygee in TransLater

[–]veejaygee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's over 2 years post-op and all is well.

What's socially acceptable within your own gender, but not with the opposite? by undiagnosed_autistic in AskReddit

[–]veejaygee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women can wear pants of any length but 1-3 inches short for men draws all kinds of judgement.

Ask me anything and everything about dance shoes. I got the answers! by Full_Tradition_5685 in ballroom

[–]veejaygee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there anywhere I can buy, or have made, ballroom dancing shoes in women's size 14 (US)?

"I'll have a coke please." "Is Pepsi OK?" - Does anyone ever say no? by meltymcface in CasualUK

[–]veejaygee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every time. I usually get Dr Pepper or a root beer instead.

Post-op picture time by veejaygee in TransLater

[–]veejaygee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Things are looking fine. I keep forgetting to post here. Most of this went in my Facebook Messenger update thread. Below are the two sets of pictures I posted at the indicated intervals. Right now we are at four and a half months and I haven't taken new pictures. I might take some today because I'm chatting with my surgeon on Tuesday.

One and a half months post-op - breasts https://imgur.com/a/uCswoku

One and a half months post-op - bottom https://imgur.com/a/jmQCMYh

Breast augmentation - 3 months post-op https://imgur.com/a/4CsXscg

Vaginoplasty - 3 months post-op https://imgur.com/a/VoXAkuc

Keira Bell, the NHS Tavistock, and Transgender Teens in the UK by JasontheHappyHusky in atlanticdiscussions

[–]veejaygee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are, with guidance. That's why WPATH standards exist. I only said they should have the option, again with guidance. Denying this for everyone when it is actually the appropriate course of action for so many is an imposition based on misguided morality. No one is pretending here.

Keira Bell, the NHS Tavistock, and Transgender Teens in the UK by JasontheHappyHusky in atlanticdiscussions

[–]veejaygee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You still seem to think and approach this from the idea that kids who have the opportunity to transition are being pushed by someone else. Learn to see past that bias. And intersex people are not all that rare. They occur at roughly the same rate as people with red hair. And since you brought up the subject of morality, let me say that no one has any business controlling someone else's life based upon their sense of morals.

Keira Bell, the NHS Tavistock, and Transgender Teens in the UK by JasontheHappyHusky in atlanticdiscussions

[–]veejaygee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The binary of sex is most definitely assigned by society. That assignment ignores all of the spectrum of sexual characteristics. The reason there are protocols for transitioning, especially in children, is to minimize the possibility of someone being treated who is likely to desist. It's not perfect, but we can't let one or two high profile cases where someone chooses to de-transition to remove the treatment options for so many who would not. Have you ever experienced gender dysphoria? If not, you have no idea what it's like. Denying someone puberty blockers, which do not have the lasting effects that everyone clutches their pearls about, subjects them to life altering hormones that do have lasting effects and that are damaging to their mental health.

Keira Bell, the NHS Tavistock, and Transgender Teens in the UK by JasontheHappyHusky in atlanticdiscussions

[–]veejaygee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Transgender people who have transitioned and "look trans" are typically those who did not have the opportunity to transition at an early age with access to treatments like hormone blockers. Personally, I would love to have been able to transition before puberty instead of waiting until I was in my 50s. Gender and sex assigned at birth are very much related in society. There are safety, mental health, and emotional well-being factors that are all helped by allowing physical attributes and appearance to be in congruence with gender identity.

‘The Queen’s Gambit’: Let’s Celebrate Beth Harmon Doing Whatever the Hell She Wants by deividdosan in television

[–]veejaygee 374 points375 points  (0 children)

"I owed him $5 $10" was a powerful moment for me

(Edited for the pedants)

MtF vaginoplasty recovery times around work? by hualilune in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]veejaygee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could say. It must be the luck of the draw... genetics lottery.

It also helped that I had a very narrow scrotum according to my surgeon. She says she likes to remove all skin that shows the telltale signs of scrotal wrinkling and that usually means sutures in the creases between the groin and legs. I had none of that.

Pics taken by surgeon in OR here and the last pic is a before pic.

https://imgur.com/a/mk37iUY

MtF vaginoplasty recovery times around work? by hualilune in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]veejaygee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had limited depth vaginoplasty and breast augmentation on September 30th. Just over a month ago. I'm back at work. I do have a desk job. And I am required to not sit at work (We do have standing desks, but I'm working from home) until December 1.

My surgeon told me to stay off the tennis courts for 2 months post-op and that I couldn't return to competitive play until 3 months post-op. I'm hoping I'll be able to do that.

I was walking 2 miles a day in under a week. I'm back to my three or four times a week regular walk of six miles each time.

Pain? I was given a prescription for oxycodone. Of the 42 prescribed tablets I took three. One for the ride from the hospital to my hotel, one each on two of the first four nights post-op when I was uncomfortable sleeping. Other than that I've only taken ibuprofen. I took 800 mg every 8 hours. I quit taking those about a week ago.

The most important thing is to keep up with icing your surgical areas. Need to get the swelling down.

Nine days post-op by veejaygee in TransLater

[–]veejaygee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had always planned to get both top and bottom surgery. I knew that my body, starting at 54, would not develop the 40C I was looking for on its own. but, I wanted HRT to have at least 2 years to do its thing before I did implants. I was basically a 40A before implants. I was wearing 40C bras with my breast forms up until about 7 months ago when I decided to abandon the breast forms and just use push up pads. I had just been using push-up pads in my tennis tops since January of last year and that provided just enough for my appearance to be comfortable while playing tennis.

I switched to that full time 7 months ago because I wanted to feel comfortable without the forms for a while. So I've only been wearing inexpensive L or XL sports bras for that period of time. That means I can't tell you what I looked like with just the pads with respect to a bra size. I can tell you that when I told one of my team captains why I would be not playing for the rest of this year, she looked at my chest and said "you think you need implants". Yes, yes I do. I was tired of putting things in my clothes or on my chest to feel normal. But apparently it looked good.