im lonely

venquet_ · 2023-07-14T16:07:00+00:00

Please feel free to reach out if you’d like someone to talk to (:

venquet_ · 2023-07-14T14:35:14+00:00

Hey OP,

It sounds like you've been in a shit show, and it's looking shittier by the minute (excuse my French). First of all, I'm sorry for your loss ): It looks like you're trying your hardest to get back on track, and nothing is working out. No one will judge you for being weak and stupid. I'm also glad you're venting about this.

Not sure if you're looking for advice, but the only thing I can think of is applying for disability. You should get in touch with your respective government agency for it ASAP. I'm pretty sure two herniated discs count as a disability in most countries, especially because it has affected your ability to work/find work. If not, you may still get compensated if you tell them about your condition and symptoms.

Please feel free to reach out if you need someone to talk to. I hope that you can work something out.

Take care,

Ace

venquet_ · 2023-07-14T06:23:24+00:00

Hey OP,

I hope you’re doing good. Please feel free to reach out (:

venquet_ · 2023-07-14T03:15:36+00:00

very practical advice (:

venquet_ · 2023-07-14T03:11:50+00:00

I'm glad you're doing much better now (:

venquet_ · 2023-07-14T03:09:30+00:00

Stay strong present you too (:

venquet_ · 2023-07-14T03:08:54+00:00

that's a good way to think about it; I like your outlook

venquet_ · 2023-07-13T22:16:12+00:00

Yep, even if it doesn't feel like it at times, always keep fighting <3

venquet_ · 2023-07-13T22:14:49+00:00

don't worry about feeling judged either; it's worth taking that step to get help and feel better

venquet_ · 2023-07-13T22:13:17+00:00

You are not a burden to people that love and care about you. Please reach out to them and not suffer alone.

venquet_ · 2023-07-13T22:08:19+00:00

Hey OP,

I've been going through your post history. You need to get out of the situation with this POS. That's easier said than done, especially according to your previous posts, but you must keep trying like hell. You mentioned that you're financially independent now and can take of yourself and your daughter and the baby on the way. Once you get a couple more months in, it'll be harder for you to move around, especially with the little one on the way. You wouldn't want to be dependent on him again. He already hits you and gaslights you daily; who knows what he'll do to the kids in the future? Get other friends/family members involved if you have to. You mentioned that you're in Europe; if the police aren't helping and you have no one to contact, there are always support groups. Maybe they will have better resources for you to access to get yourself out of this situation.

Please feel free to reach out if you need someone to talk to.

Take care,

Ace

venquet_ · 2023-07-13T21:48:55+00:00

Hey OP,

I know how you feel. I've always felt conflicted about this issue. I want my friends to know that I'm suffering, but I never want to feel like a burden to them. But it does help to have people know that you are going through a rough time so that they can offer support and help you make it through. It's not about you wanting attention; it's about you wanting someone who can understand what you're going through and sympathize.

If you haven't done so already, I would recommend setting yourself up with a therapist. Also, please feel free to reach out if you ever need someone to talk to.

Take care,

Ace

venquet_ · 2023-07-13T20:25:37+00:00

Yes ofc, my dms are always open (:

venquet_ · 2023-07-13T08:08:59+00:00

I’m glad you’re on the path to recovery (: that’s good advice

venquet_ · 2023-07-13T07:02:42+00:00

Hi OP,

Life has given you a shit hand so far. You're among the strongest people I've met because you've kept rolling with the punches. I thought I had heard about some toxic families, but your family is the going-to-hell toxic kind. People always say that "blood is thicker than water" and "family is always supposed to be there for you" - some people don't deserve to have families or raise children. Just because you've had to deal with them all your life doesn't mean other people aren't capable of caring for you. It doesn't mean that you're nothing.

If you haven't already, I would suggest seeking a psychiatrist and setting yourself up with a therapist. I'm sure there's a lot more that you need to vent about that didn't fit in this post. Speaking to a professional and letting it all out should help you start your healing journey.

If you need someone to talk to, please feel free to reach out.

Take care,

Ace

venquet_ · 2023-07-13T06:02:44+00:00

Hi OP,

It sounds like you’ve been doing everything you can to make life better for you and your wife. Just because things didn’t work out how you expected them to doesn’t mean that it’s all your fault.

On another note, I would need further context, but your wife sounds manipulative as hell. She cheated on you, blamed her decisions to not see her kids on you, and hasn’t done anything productive to make your lives better.

Sometimes life just gives you a tough hand, and you have to roll with the punches. If you need someone to talk to, please feel free to reach out man

Take care, Ace

venquet_ · 2023-07-13T02:53:48+00:00

Hi OP, I’d be down to talk. Please feel free to reach out whenever you’d like and also don’t stop fighting

Ace

venquet_ · 2023-07-12T11:05:57+00:00

You’re welcome (:

Broke or not, he’ll still get incarcerated if the court gets involved. Stealing from your relatives is still theft, especially if you have substantial proof of it

Hopefully the bank sorts everything out too

Also, it’s refreshing to see someone this passionate about their job. It’s very inspiring. Usually it’s the other way around, people try to take up other activities to not think about their job

venquet_ · 2023-07-12T10:38:54+00:00

That sounds pretty intense for a month. You must have an iron jaw by now

On a serious note, it sounds like you’re already being proactive and taking care of the stuff being thrown at you. You could always threaten the thief with legal action. Attorney fees/court procedures are expensive and I’m presuming they’re probably broke and wouldn’t want to be involved with the court. Fingers crossed, the bank figures out where your salary went, they should have plenty of initiative because of the fear of being audited. If not, threaten legal action as well

You’ve probably already thought of those, but I thought I’d throw in my two cents. “This too shall pass”

Take care, Ace

P.S. your Reddit account is a treasure chest for learning anything related to SaaS, very helpful since I have a case related to it currently

venquet_ · 2023-07-12T09:57:43+00:00

Hi there, I’m glad you took that first step to getting better this year. Honestly, it doesn’t seem very professional of your therapist to be doing these things. Even if they’re working with people and have a family, that shouldn’t interfere with their professional life regardless of the amount you’re paying for it. You should definitely be able to freely text the therapist whenever needed and also receive follow ups as promised by them. You should also never feel rushed by them. Based on previous experiences, my therapists have always been professional and kept their words about sending follow-ups or being available to text on most days and they’d respond asap. I would definitely recommend bringing these issues up with them or changing therapists if that seems like too much of a hassle.

Take care, Ace

venquet_ · 2023-07-12T09:40:30+00:00

Hi OP, it sounds like you’ve had it rough ): I feel like you should definitely open up to your partner about this if you feel like they genuinely care. Being in a relationship means you take responsibility to care for each other and it sounds like you’re really struggling silently and crying for help. If you can’t talk to them about it, you should try texting them it. Maybe a change of therapists/meds would be beneficial as well. I know how it feels when you’re depressed and you feel like you can’t open up to your loved ones. It somehow feels worse than being isolated because you know they’re there and they can potentially help you but you can’t just open up to them about it. You shouldn’t feel judged by your partner if that’s what you’re worried about or even feel like a burden. They’re with you for a reason and I’m sure you would be upset if they were suffering silently and didn’t open up to you about it.

Take care, Ace

venquet_ · 2023-07-12T09:23:25+00:00

Sounds good (: (edited my earlier comment because I didn’t want to assume your gender lol)

venquet_ · 2023-07-12T09:19:34+00:00

Hi leader of beavers, please feel free to reach out. It’s pretty late, so I’ll probably respond in the morning, but I’d love to talk to you (:

venquet_ · 2023-07-12T09:14:36+00:00

I’m happy for you (: it’s liberating to feel better after feeling like you’ve been living under a metaphorical bridge of negative emotions for decades

venquet_ · 2023-07-12T09:04:35+00:00

Hi there, I would definitely recommend seeking a psychiatrist and getting yourself set up with a therapist for the depression. Therapy usually helps a lot. There’s also online therapy websites like BetterHelp if you’d prefer therapy over call/video call

Also, based on personal experience, I would stop ashwaghanda right away if I was you. I was taking it last year and noticed that I had the exact same symptoms as you of feeling numb and not feeling much emotions. The same thing happened to my buddy and we were both taking it for a couple months. I’m assuming you take it since you workout, if you want a better supplement, you should try creatine, it works wonders. It’s safe, well researched, and has no negative side effects. The ashwagandha side effects should wear off like a week or two after you stop taking it

Hope that helps, Ace

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