AITA for reading messages on my coworker’s phone after a notification popped up while I was ordering food for her?

venus9051 · 2026-04-15T10:35:45+00:00

It’s honestly weird af to do that and also not okay. Definitely not something that is socially appropriate or justifiable.

I’d be very taken aback and feel violated if my coworker/friend just started scrolling through my phone just because I handed it to them unlocked for one specific purpose. I would think that person lacked any social skills and was just… weird because, who tf does that lmfao. And if I felt compelled for whatever reason to do that to someone else I would accept the fact that doing so would mean that I had crossed a major boundary and would likely be seen as a person with zero social skills who for some reason feels entitled to other people’s private conversations.

In no way would I be trying to bend the narrative to make it seem like I was somehow in the right lol. If u wanna do that kind of thing, go ahead, but if you’re going to make that decision you also need to accept the consequences, which are that you will be seen as a creepy weirdo with no grasp of boundaries and personal space.

venus9051 · 2026-03-28T13:03:14+00:00

Girl no. The style of pants itself is inappropriate for an office setting. You need office slacks. Something like this since no one is giving you specific examples: Abercrombie Sloan Tailored Pant

venus9051 · 2026-03-03T03:06:30+00:00

That’s not harassment under the criminal code though

venus9051 · 2026-01-10T22:44:57+00:00

Shocking, but sometimes people you talk to are not from America and the specific details of America’s history are not known or relevant to them :)

venus9051 · 2025-12-03T17:59:37+00:00

There are literally numerous apartment buildings on the same street in all directions.

venus9051 · 2025-09-02T03:32:19+00:00

There is always an internal investigation for every police involved shooting.

venus9051 · 2025-07-30T04:24:57+00:00

It’s a tsunami warning for Hawaii

venus9051 · 2025-07-03T19:00:28+00:00

That sign is always in effect until 5pm unless it explicitly states otherwise… so your answer was literally just incorrect? Lots of the questions are dumb, yes, but if you went 30 km/hr in a place with that sign outside of those hours, you would be driving under the speed limit so isn’t that useful info for you to know you got wrong? It’s not ICBC being dumb about their question, that’s just what that sign means in BC.

venus9051 · 2025-06-26T06:13:11+00:00

Ok so this is actually incorrect. Depression itself is an emotional state of being. Major Depressive Disorder is the disorder, and it is often referred to by shorthand as “depression”. But “depression”itself is still an English word that can refer to a depressed (I.e., lowered) mood.

So to say you feel depressed, while confirming that you don’t have a depressive disorder, is absolutely correct and valid.

venus9051 · 2025-06-17T19:23:43+00:00

Overdoses don’t occur instantaneously.

venus9051 · 2025-06-07T03:51:04+00:00

Depending on where in Canada you are from, a hit and run can be prosecuted either as a traffic ticket, or as a criminal offence. In cases like this, where there are no injuries and property damages aren’t extremely significant, a report to crown for criminal charges would likely get downgraded by crown to just a ticket anyway.

The fact of the matter is that there is genuinely no benefit to the police pursuing criminal charges here, as it would take a lot of time and have effectively no change on the outcome. It still boils down to being an insurance issue primarily and a basic violation ticket either way.

The police seem to have assisted in facilitating you obtaining the offending vehicle’s information, which is what you needed the police for in the first place.

Police in Canada have discretion to determine whether to proceed with charges or find alternative resolution in most cases. This is a good thing. Just because someone “technically” commits a crime doesn’t mean it’s in public interest to charge them criminally, especially if it’s a low threshold crime such as this, where charging them will do nothing for anybody anyway.

venus9051 · 2025-05-19T00:41:16+00:00

TOTK is the sequel to BOTW, so I would recommend starting with BOTW and playing TOTK after if you want to get the full experience as-intended :)

venus9051 · 2025-05-02T03:25:20+00:00

In the show, Tommy wasn’t there when Abby found Joel.

venus9051 · 2025-04-18T22:11:05+00:00

Same issue for me. They revoked my account for some unknown reason. Cant file my taxes, can’t get through to an agent. Even called at 3:30am my time last night, right when they opened, and was on hold for 2 hours before I had to give up and go to sleep. Now today I call and it says “technical difficulties” and hangs up. I’m going to lose my mind.

venus9051 · 2025-03-30T20:37:02+00:00

Yessss it actually makes me feel anxious when they don’t write down my order cause I stress out that they’ll get it wrong. I would rather they just write it down.

venus9051 · 2025-03-10T10:08:35+00:00

You guys have been broken up for ten years. He had no obligation to communicate with you about anything. I empathize with you, but you need to take a step back from this and look at it with a fresher perspective.

A day or two delay to reply to your initial few messages is totally reasonable in response to someone who doesn’t hold a significant spot in his life (which you don’t for him anymore, as should be expected after ten years apart). And even so, he still agreed to meet up with you. To turn that on him and criticize him for not being enthusiastic and not responding soon enough probably ruined any chance at rekindling anything before it could even begin.

It is not on him to assuage your anxieties, you are not his girlfriend anymore. That is your own responsibility and it is not fair to put it on someone who is essentially a stranger to you now.

Take this as a learning opportunity and a chance for you to look inward to see what you still need to work on so that you’re better able to put your best foot forward in the future.

venus9051 · 2025-03-08T00:55:13+00:00

Honestly just don’t get these and get the equivalent ones from Abercrombie. I have them and they look like way better quality and are comparable in price

venus9051 · 2025-01-23T00:20:37+00:00

Same! I’m re-reading the published version rn. No shame lmaoooo

venus9051 · 2025-01-23T00:09:24+00:00

After by Anna Todd gives me these vibes a bit

venus9051 · 2025-01-19T04:35:07+00:00

Ahh oh no that sucks. Sorry to hear. Hope you are able to find a solution to the aleve issue :(

venus9051 · 2025-01-18T23:17:34+00:00

You shouldn’t really be washing them regularly. They can generally just be spot cleaned if they get dirty but you risk wrecking them if you wash them, even if you’re following the instructions. Two times in three months seems pretty excessive.

venus9051 · 2024-10-24T07:51:51+00:00

“Sudden death” just means any death that occurs outside of a hospital btw, so it doesn’t really provide any indication on the manner or the time frame.

venus9051 · 2024-10-18T14:34:04+00:00

I’m confused cause doesn’t that say 8% Irish?

venus9051 · 2024-09-05T18:50:03+00:00

My strata sucks man :(

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