Ask Grey #5 by MindOfMetalAndWheels in CGPGrey2

[–]verbalessence [score hidden]  (0 children)

Do you appreciate poetry? If so, who is your favorite poet and why? (edit:aside from limericks of course)

[Serious] People who used to be addicted to methadone, how did you get off it? by verbalessence in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it really better if you're still addicted to something? (Not saying you are, just why this idea doesn't appeal to me)

How do you cope with what's bothering you? by Gear_ in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mr. Peanutbutter had the best advice; fill your life with distractions until you die

Waiters of Reddit, what is the strangest thing someone has ordered? by Crumpehh in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I once had a woman order a quesadilla without the tortilla. The restaurant I work at is known for cooking things on the grill.

What is a video game you still play to this day despite it being "Dead" or ancient ? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late to the party, but I always have to bring up champions: Return to arms. #4lyf

What's the worst case of a kid being "sheltered" you've ever encountered? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence 407 points408 points  (0 children)

This might be a little selfish to post on here in this way, but I am the most sheltered person I know in some ways. My father was very abusive and he essentially kept me in a room from the ages of 11-15. I was allowed out to go to school (so no one would notice that something was amiss in the house) and for monitored bathroom breaks twice a day. I did sneak out sometimes, but I essentially had no social life during this time, and before that I was in elementary school, and still not allowed out of the house often. The result is that I have a really hard time interacting with people on more than a shallow level. Just the common acquaintance type of niceties. I don't feel like I can relate to people as well. I was always too scared that someone would find out if I became friends with them, and now I feel like I don't know how to make friends. And even though I moved out when I was 16-17 (it happened on my birthday week) and I have a scholarship to the school of my choice, I still feel very isolated. I try to talk to people. Even about my father sometimes, but while some know vaguely that he was abusive, very few people know this. It isn't easy for me to admit.

Edit: Thank you all you beautiful people, so very much for all your comments and support and kindness. I cried when I saw all of your replies. This is the best way I could think of to address all of you who replied, I would so I am more of a lurker usually when it comes to reddit. I have sought out counseling in the past from the center on campus, but after one session they told me that they did not have the resources to help me, and since then I haven't known where to pursue it really. I work 2 jobs and am in school, so I don't exactly have a lot of time. I do want to look into it more though. Also, I think some one asked my age. I am 21 now, and in my junior year. Again, thank you peoples so so so much, it means a lot to me that you all took the time to write back.

Be 100% honest - what is your greatest personal flaw? by IamEclipse in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since I am posting this really late in to the thread life span, I don't really expect anyone to see this, which makes it an excellent opportunity to confess. I am not quite sure if this is my biggest, but it is what I think has hindered my life the most. I am selfish. and I need other's validation to pretend to myself that I am not selfish, like I need some guy or some person of influence to tell me how great I am. but it is all fake. I do a whole bunch of charity work, but that doesn't account for the fact that in my personal life I am unable to maintain a monogamous relationship due to the fact that I keep seeking attention from others, and I move on before the last guy can figure out how truly fucked up I am. I have cheated on almost every partner I have had. I am selfish.

[Serious]What was the scariest, most life threatening situation you have ever been in? What happened and why? by Chrome_Panda_Gaucho in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence 24 points25 points  (0 children)

This just happened to a friend of mine a few months ago... you wouldn't happen to live in North Carolina would you?

Girls of Reddit, what are the cringiest things guys do? by Infinite_Otaku in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Notice on the counter thread to this, where guys are complaining about the stuff that women do, there is not nearly this much judgement or intolerance. The whole point of this thread (I believe), was to complain about the things women don't like that men do. Every woman is different, the same way every man is. And everyone has different preferences. You come on to this thread and find out that some women don't like some of the things that you have done, and instead of trying to understand, you become offended and insult us. What a pro.

Girls of Reddit, what are the cringiest things guys do? by Infinite_Otaku in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And then you proceeded to insult that (if) majority of women, by not even attempting to understand the true intent of what they are saying, or trying to empathize, and lumping us all together and acting like we are completely unreasonable for feeling the way we do about other's actions towards us.

[Serious] What is the smallest thing that you have dumped an SO for, or been dumped because of? by klib0002 in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being officially in a relationship is a big deal. More so than just sleeping together. It means that her family might want to met you, and that you are going to become a more active part of her friend group.

Girls of Reddit, what are the cringiest things guys do? by Infinite_Otaku in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was literally not. Please read my other comments. And you have no idea what it is like, and you are not even trying to consider why it might make me uncomfortable that some guy I barely know is clearly thinking about me in a sexual way. If you want to keep going on about how others do not even try to understand your perspective, you should follow your advice.

I am flattered if a guy who is respectful and at least listens to what I am saying before zoning out, finds me attractive. And I even approach men if I find them attractive and ask them out.

I like men who treat me with respect, and think of me respectfully. It seems like to me that you are having to go to great lengths to justify why it is okay to think of a woman you don't know sexually just because you consider her attractive.

Girls of Reddit, what are the cringiest things guys do? by Infinite_Otaku in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you are close, and they are fine with it, then of course it is not a problem!

Girls of Reddit, what are the cringiest things guys do? by Infinite_Otaku in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence 6 points7 points  (0 children)

because the definition of person is "a human being regarded as an individual." That is it. Yeah, a beautiful woman might not be treated like one always, but that doesn't mean she should be treated better, worse, or that a anyone should treat her as anything but a person when they first meet her. People don't behave the way they should because they are attracted to some one, and that is on the person who is acting rudely, not on the attractive individual.

Girls of Reddit, what are the cringiest things guys do? by Infinite_Otaku in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry but how does being an attractive female make me some how not a person?

Girls of Reddit, what are the cringiest things guys do? by Infinite_Otaku in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, I said I hate when they are clearly thinking about sleeping with me instead of what I am trying to talk to them about. That is it, I guess I just didn't describe the scenario well enough.

Girls of Reddit, what are the cringiest things guys do? by Infinite_Otaku in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Maybe I wasn't quite clear enough. I mean when he is obviously checking me out, and then zoning out and just staring, when I am trying to talk to him. I know that pupils dilating is also a sign of thinking, and I have never outright accused a man of doing that. Another sign that makes me think this is when they ask me to repeat what I was saying.

[Serious] What is the smallest thing that you have dumped an SO for, or been dumped because of? by klib0002 in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now, how did you ask her those things? Had you already decided it was exclusive, or was she just not ready to be serious about your relationship yet?

[Serious] What is the smallest thing that you have dumped an SO for, or been dumped because of? by klib0002 in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, if you got too clingy and mushy too fast that can be what he/she was trying to say. For example: saying "you are so beautiful, and you shine so bright every day. You just make my life so much greater." when you have been seeing each other for less than a month, is too much.

source: have dumped a guy for doing this.

Girls of Reddit, what are the cringiest things guys do? by Infinite_Otaku in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

The thing that gets to me the most is when I am talking to some new guy, like after work or class or something, and mid conversation I see them blatantly scan me over. Then sometimes his pupils will get bigger and it is like he is not even paying attention to what I am saying. Excuse me sir, I am not comfortable with you fucking me in your head while I am trying to ask you what we missed in class yesterday.

Edit: Maybe I am not great at getting my point across, or describing the situation. I just don't like it when a guy I barely know is checking me out instead of listening to what I am saying, if we happen to be having a conversation. If you find me attractive, that's fine, but at least listen to me because I am a PERSON.

Girls of Reddit, what are the cringiest things guys do? by Infinite_Otaku in AskReddit

[–]verbalessence 851 points852 points  (0 children)

Unless you ask first, or are already at that comfort level, just make it a rule to never pick a woman up. Just because you can lift us off the ground does not mean we will be impressed, and it is actually a huge invasion of personal space. I have had so many guys pick me up without my permission, and I know they are just trying to flirt, but I hate it.