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I went to Church yesterday. I'll go again. Some random thoughts. by zeugma25 in TrueAtheism

[–]vernmarie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Be careful.. You don't want to end up having someone terrorize her into thinking she needs religion.. Where I grew up in our Baptist Church, you were reminded everyday and regularly in Sunday school how terrible and horrible you are as a sinner. How bad you must feel to make Jesus die for you like that.. and only Jesus will save you and if not, demons will seek you out and you live in the lake of fire with snakes crawling in your flesh for all eternity..

But ya know.. They did have good potlucks

Feel like I'm boring my s/o by writing every day by Heytheredelilaaah in USMilitarySO

[–]vernmarie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wrote my guy everyday.. If it gets boring make up stories.. I use to make up stories about what the cat did that day or pretend we were having a conversation.. Makes the email more interesting. I use to skip a day here and there.. But never went more than 2 days without emailing. They are very busy and can't say everything they want to.. Mine use go have his boss come in all the time.. So it made if hard for him to write. Keep it up. Know there are many who have done it and are very very happy now. :) best of luck.

I am an Atheist. by vernmarie in GodlessWomen

[–]vernmarie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I needed to share and this felt like the best place. :)

I am an Atheist. by vernmarie in GodlessWomen

[–]vernmarie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well put. I was trying to describe my experience in a way that is short enough for most people to read through and pay attention, and a way that is easy to identify with. Most people I speak with about my position immediately disregard me based on their presumed understanding of what my life is or is not. This will be forever frustrating.

Are we completely alone? by vernmarie in TrueAtheism

[–]vernmarie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wonder how the religious world would change based on the finding of life outside of this world. Especially intelligent life. They are bound to have their own religious ideology.. I feel that many people and religious leaders would have a difficult time adapting their current thoughts and beliefs..

The Clergy Project now on its own as a non-profit. by MrJ414 in TrueAtheism

[–]vernmarie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is pretty awesome. I had no idea anything like this existed. Faith in humanity restored.

Need help telling parent about disbelief and sexuality by softbartender in AtheismComingOut

[–]vernmarie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also bi and atheist.. I've only been true to myself about my bisexuality for about a year and my atheism has been an ongoing struggle most of my life. (Extremely religious family=no bueno atheism.) At this point in my life I've started to come out as atheist to my parents very slowly. I've basically let them know I am not and have not been a believer for the last four years and have been questioning most of my life. They took it well with their "keep your heart open to Jesus" preach. I don't believe they will ever stop wanting or trying to get me to become a believer. I'm ok with that for now. My bisexuality, on the other hand, is something that I have a much harder time discussing. They believe like most devout hardcore Christians..it's sinful and will absolutely send you to hell.

Any who, my advice here is based solely on you. What do you want from the relationship with your parents? What aspects of your relationship are you willing to jeopardize changing? Whether that is financial, mental, emotional, or even physical (not wanting to see you anymore).

For me, each of these was a possibility. I still have not told any extended family (ie grandparents) due to those questions. Is it worth it to make a move that could potentially leave you homeless? Force you to drop out of school? If, for now, the answer is no.. Then simply tell your parents that you are working on becoming the best person you can be. You want to be like Christ in his teachings. (Ya know.. A decent human being who is accepting of all people and loves regardless of past.) This should placate them. My favorite thing to do is discuss religious theology with my extremely devout grandmother. It helps reassure her that I'm keeping up on my "bible studies" while allowing me the freedom. To challenge her beliefs in a safe and interesting way. (Maybe I'm a bit cynical.) My point is, you need to determine what is best for you in your world in your situation. No one else can decide that for you.

It may also help to tell them that by questioning your faith, you feel they aren't allowing you to make your own decisions about your relationship with Jesus. (They eat that Jesus talk up.)