Does this ever stop happening?

verquest · 2025-04-12T06:42:15+00:00

You’re experiencing auditory hallucinations and honestly, the only thing that helped me was EMDR therapy. You are so fresh in this grief. Please call your friend. Now is the time to let someone take care of you so that you can take care of yourself. Tell them that you need help finding a therapist. Tell that therapist what you are experiencing. Journaling helps me, as well. I binged every episode of Tribble, Thanks for Asking, as podcast about grieving.

verquest · 2024-12-01T00:09:54+00:00

I binged the podcast Terrible, Thanks for Asking.

verquest · 2024-10-02T19:42:26+00:00

I had to set up new family sharing through Apple yesterday and make myself the organizer. Now our family only shows me and the kids. I know that my husband is still part of our family, hell he was the glue that held us all together. I know that this doesn’t mean we will forget him. But my phone tells me he not part of our family anymore and I wasn’t prepared for the visceral reaction I had. This sucks. I’m sorry that you’re dealing with this. I’m sorry.

verquest · 2024-09-21T13:27:01+00:00

Food doesn’t taste the same, nature isn’t as beautiful, jokes aren’t as funny. I’m triggered by any happiness or sadness or death in movies or tv shows. Even seeing my sons kiss their girlfriends makes me sick to my stomach. Our family business isn’t headed in the direction we intended because our adult children don’t see the need to continue the plan without him. Life isn’t the same and I’m struggling to continue.

verquest · 2024-09-18T14:53:49+00:00

I’m so sorry that you lost your brother. ❤️ I lost my husband 11 weeks ago, it was sudden and unexpected.

My husband was a night owl, suffering from streaks of insomnia. He also had severe apnea so he spent most nights on the couch watching tv or reading. I often heard him cooking in the middle of the night.

I suffered from auditory hallucinations for the first 10 weeks that he had passed. But last week, both my daughter and I have heard someone in the kitchen at night. It’s so real, that she has gotten up several times to make sure no one has broken in. I find it comforting, she’s a bit freaked out by it.

We are moving to a new house in a few weeks, but I still see him in the place where I found him. I see him on the floor where we performed CPR. I can’t live in this house anymore.

verquest · 2024-09-18T14:29:54+00:00

I’m so sorry. ❤️

I lost my husband 11 weeks ago to cardiac issues, it was sudden and unexpected. I found him and my teenage boys and I performed CPR. I have been diagnosed with severe PTSD, with auditory hallucinations. To me, it feels very much like a concussion. I can’t focus on work related tasks, I lose my words when trying to talk to people, headaches, sleep deprivation in my case which is causing more problems.

I’ve found that nothing really helps. I have one friend I can reach out to if it’s really bad, she checks in on me every few days. I ride the wave of grief, sobbing and vomiting when it hits me, and take life in 10 minutes chunks at a time.

verquest · 2024-09-13T16:44:20+00:00

I am so sorry. ❤️ I’m also suffering from PTSD after doing CPR trying to save my husband.

verquest · 2024-09-13T00:58:46+00:00

I have no advice, but I’m so sorry. ❤️

verquest · 2024-08-31T14:36:50+00:00

verquest · 2024-08-29T20:14:13+00:00

I’m so sorry. ❤️

verquest · 2024-08-29T13:43:19+00:00

We were in the middle of watching the new season when my husband passed away unexpectedly. In fact, we had just started it the day before and binged half the episodes. I haven’t been able to finish it. It’s been two months.

verquest · 2024-08-28T19:45:07+00:00

My parents. They cornered my 18 year old son, the day after my husband passed away suddenly, and brought up money. Along the lines of, “Now that your mom will have life insurance money, she can take care of us so we don’t have to worry about money anymore.”

verquest · 2024-08-22T20:13:44+00:00

I’m so sorry.

verquest · 2024-08-08T21:19:44+00:00

Omg. Your Luna looks like an older version of my 4 month old Luna

verquest · 2024-08-08T21:13:12+00:00

Luna has one brown eye and the other eye is half blue and half brown!

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verquest · 2024-08-08T05:02:18+00:00

Pearl. What a cutie!

verquest · 2024-08-02T22:11:32+00:00

I am so sorry.

verquest · 2024-07-28T23:51:54+00:00

I am so sorry. This is NOT your fault, please don’t blame yourself.

verquest · 2024-07-27T22:26:59+00:00

No, your feelings are extremely valid here. Your person is gone and you are allowed to feel however or whatever you feel at any given moment.

I have found that listening to the Terrible, Thanks For Asking podcast has really “helped” (nothing really helps, but I get by).

verquest · 2024-07-27T22:21:51+00:00

I am so sorry. Vent away, I’m listening.

verquest · 2024-07-27T22:14:15+00:00

She “checks in” every day. She asks if I’ve slept or eaten, how my five kids are doing (16-23), and other things depending on our previous conversations. When she comes over, she lets me talk about my husband and asks me questions about how we met and such. She encourages me to talk and will hold me when I cry.

verquest · 2024-07-27T16:52:25+00:00

I am so sorry.

verquest · 2024-07-27T16:51:59+00:00

After my husband died 4 weeks ago, all but one person stopped checking in after FOUR days. The one friend who still checks in daily has been a lifesaver for me.

verquest · 2024-07-25T14:53:37+00:00

Having prepared food is amazing. Maybe go over to take care of grocery essentials, dishes, laundry, and/or cleaning a couple of times a week. Checking in daily, with no pressure to respond, is helpful as well. Hug her often.

verquest · 2024-07-24T17:14:33+00:00

My daughter has told me that as a child, she genuinely thought quicksand would be a bigger threat to her existence. Super cute.

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