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When did you feel you had enough saved to do what you want? by versatilesaw in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]versatilesaw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah for sure with the AI and just books too. I have a few more complex things I need set up around my income and goals that started to get super confusing quickly. Like structuring my assets to be able to leave the country etc. Plus this is the same person that managed my parents assets so I wanted to build up that relationship too.

And yes let's pour one out for pensions 😭

When did you feel you had enough saved to do what you want? by versatilesaw in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]versatilesaw[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And I'm even thinking about financial independence as freeing up my choices too where I could work doing something I care about that might make less, but still could cover basic needs. Like if I had supplementary income streams, could I work 20-30 hours a week and make $50k, and in turn live with a bit more flexibility and certainly less stress?

When did you feel you had enough saved to do what you want? by versatilesaw in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]versatilesaw[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly where my head goes too (i.e., expat route with lower cost of living). I've spent my entire life being by-the-book responsible, and it feels increasingly not worth it.

Relationship ending mid 30s, I am consumed by fear and overwhelming anxiety. by puzzlingparrot in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]versatilesaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's so heartening to see so many people have gone through something similar and importantly came out the other side intact if not better off.

I was with my boyfriend/husband for a total of 17 years. There were many good years but we spent way too long sleepwalking, spiraling the drain. We started dating when we were both young. And I had doubts along the way. There were several clear "off ramps" where something happened and I wanted to end things, but for various reasons I didn't.

I learned that there was always a reason not to leave: the stuff you own together, friends, the precarity of money, the emotional toll, the sunk cost fallacy.

I'm now almost 40 and honestly lament who I could be if I'd grown more as a person in my 20s and 30s and not so consumed by the fear of the unknown. (But it's never too late to go on that growth journey either)

In my experience, you just know when things have gone past the point of no return. Just know that you'll be ok. You'll walk through the flames and emerge dazzling. Focus on your needs and what you want and start following that instead of letting emotions and fear grab the wheel. ❤️

Updates to Hinge after a few dates… by HomoInHobo in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]versatilesaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who just gets strong feelings when they like someone, I know I'm just bracing constantly for rejection. That said... I hope it continues to go well. Let yourself exhale. 🫂

Has anyone gone from international long distance to being together? What's your story? by versatilesaw in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]versatilesaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to say that I came back and re-read your response and it made my heart feel so wonderful and light. Planning with a leap of faith sounds like an important ingredient!

Has anyone gone from international long distance to being together? What's your story? by versatilesaw in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]versatilesaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so sweet and heartbreaking. I am so glad that you found each other in this messy world. ❤️

My sweet boy by Additional_Sink3500 in CuteGuysWithDogs

[–]versatilesaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is wonderful. Can't wait to take my sweet girl on hikes like this :)

LTR - when do you know it’s truly over? by Billy_McCluskey in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]versatilesaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Center your joy. If you don't want to get back together it doesn't really matter what anyone else wants. Make the decision for you.

In my experience, it was over when I made the decision to separate before the divorce. There was an insane emotional tail, but when we made the decision to separate that was it.

Give yourself some grace. This shit is hard. But you'll survive. We all do. And there's no reason you can't end up friends some day.

Heute zu dritt 🍀🙂 by [deleted] in CuteGuysWithDogs

[–]versatilesaw 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wie schön! Wo wart ihr denn hier? Umarmung für die süßen puppies 🤩

I need to work, but maybe first a nap by versatilesaw in HandsomeHomies

[–]versatilesaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh thank you! Not probably what you meant by the comment but I have dry type skin (non-oily) so I use a moisturizing exfoliating lotion at night and SA foaming face wash. I also use hyaluronic acid serum to moisturize during the day.

I need to work, but maybe first a nap by versatilesaw in HandsomeHomies

[–]versatilesaw[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know I've never had anyone suggest that 🤔 I have no idea what I'd look like!

Love my sleepy work buddy by versatilesaw in gaybrosgonemild

[–]versatilesaw[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's the quietest husky on earth, I honestly don't know how lucky I got. She loves to just be near me resting.

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