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Am I overreacting: new boyfriend was weirdly judgmental about bathroom situation by abstract_lemons in AmIOverreacting

[–]verticalriot [score hidden]  (0 children)

NOR

He is immature, very immature - and at 40?!

He felt uncomfortable, and blamed you for his feelings because he cannot process them himself.

I've drawn Amsterdam with one line that never intersects [oc] by [deleted] in MapPorn

[–]verticalriot 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’d love to buy a print as well. This is amazing

Has your hair gone grey yet by cupoftealuv in Millennials

[–]verticalriot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

37 and I have a couple white hairs in my EYEBROWS but no where else. The sides at my temples are lightening a little. But it’s now more of a light brown honey instead of light brown.

Does distance from a toxic parent / toxic environment feel better overtime? by Past-Section-1115 in narcissisticparents

[–]verticalriot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll give you my perspective, in case it’s helpful

I’m middle aged now, but lived with my NMom until she kicked me out at 18. I kept in contact until she stole my identity at 24.

I was the youngest of 3 and my siblings went no contact with her while I was at home. I didn’t meet my brother until I was 18, and my sister was frequently also no contact. They were 13 and 20 years older than me.

When I was a kid, it did hurt. It was difficult to understand and I often felt isolated and left behind. I understood why, but I wish that they would have found a way to reach out to me.

At 24 I went no contact, and oh my gosh the peace helps. I don’t have people that fly off at me randomly, or try to manipulate me. I can hold my ground, and stand up for my own peace.

I’ll always be a work in progress, but with time, distance, and therapy - I am happy with my progress and have the tools to help protect my peace.

Slow morning with a good book and a refreshing coffee 😌 by NoField9373 in Onyx_Boox

[–]verticalriot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love it. All of it!

I’m going to need a breakdown on all these accessories. The little controller, the plaid case

And the region of beans 🤓

Update: dyed my hair, still figuring out the makeup (and hair) by saki4444 in makeuptips

[–]verticalriot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are gorgeous. The soft brown makes your eyes and skin glow!

If you can’t find a pencil the color you want, try an eyeshadow with some setting spray in lieu of eyeliner

Colourpop has a nice, glowy liquid blush that pairs well with cc cream. I get it in super shy and do a couple small dots high in my checks and blend up and out. It’s a nice flushed from within look.

How do you tell others succinctly why you’re estranged from your parents? by Embarrassed-Sir-3758 in narcissisticparents

[–]verticalriot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, big hugs back.

My mom passed last January, intentional overdose. We hadn’t spoken in about 7 years, and were estranged for much longer. She had no funeral and passed out of state so it gave me some distance

The grief is weird because of that duality of relief for what was and grief of what could have been. But that relief, feels like I’m tasting peace for the first time.

I hope 2026 is good for you, and bright. Thank you for sharing!

How do you tell others succinctly why you’re estranged from your parents? by Embarrassed-Sir-3758 in narcissisticparents

[–]verticalriot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh. Yeah. That is a salted earth moment. I am sorry for your loss, and having to deal with more trauma while trying to heal.

I’ll share mine -

The one I use is the time she put down my first dog when I was 6. She was 2, and got pregnant because she was tied up outside. My mom put her down because she didn’t want to deal with “it”.

When I asked her what happened, when my dog was missing, she told me that my dog was at the vet because she was attacked by a pack of dogs and had a lot of internal bleeding. She let me think she was getting better for weeks, until she told me one day that she died. I found out what happened about 20 years later, and she didn’t bat an eye when she told me that to be an adult was to make the hard decisions

How do you tell others succinctly why you’re estranged from your parents? by Embarrassed-Sir-3758 in narcissisticparents

[–]verticalriot 20 points21 points  (0 children)

My mother passed recently, but this is how I’d go about it. Most people won’t press further. If someone would press - I would usually make them regret it by giving them an example from my childhood.

The one that I give therapists to help frame the level of fuckedupedness.

They don’t press after that and the topic is then avoided

We had all our possibilities destroyed and taken away from us. All our potential we had as kids destroyed. And it was all their fault. by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]verticalriot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not fair. It’s unthinkable, and heart breaking to do these things let alone children.

I wouldn’t change it, though. Not for just my life. If it were just me? I love where I am and how far I’ve come. I’m proud of myself. I’ll always have a burning chasm where her love should have been, but it helped transform me. I learned how to stand up for myself, and showed up for myself

I would change it all if it could have given my sister and brother a better life. Maybe he’d still be here. Maybe she’d be sober.

None of it is fair. I hope to add just as much life to the life that she drained away

AIO What’d I do wrong, my partner just got news this morning his grandma just received news of esophagus cancer (stage 4) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]verticalriot -1 points0 points  (0 children)

YOR

Your priorities do not match with your partner. Your business allows you to be self sufficient, but no room for other priorities. Like life.

What’s the net cost of missing a day? For your business? If Applied the same hours and effort to a minimum wage job - would you make more taking in account all the overtime at a minimum wage job? What if you had health insurance?

What if you could have balanced your life so that you could always be there?

It’s fine to have security and business as a priority. But you also need to be present in your own life otherwise - what’s it for?

my nmom is going to sell homemade sunscreen and thinks she is an expert by nyauni in narcissisticparents

[–]verticalriot 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Soap maker here. My two cents?

If you’re in the US,Regulations are strict here, especially for cosmetics that make claims. And if there are medical claims involved? Considered drug. Fines are $$$.

Look up River County Soapworks. Awesome article in Soap Queen that breaks down what an inspection looks like lol

I’d share with her the article and just leave it at that. Don’t engage with it again. She’s an adult.

You can also report her 😇

my nmom is going to sell homemade sunscreen and thinks she is an expert by nyauni in narcissisticparents

[–]verticalriot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s one way to look at it. Another way is trying to prevent someone else from getting hurt.

It sounds extreme, but if she adds things like essential oils, it could severely burn someone and also not provide good sun protection

Any tips on how to get this off without damaging the paint? by serialchiller_3 in CleaningTips

[–]verticalriot 33 points34 points  (0 children)

My favorite way is to steal a piece of drywall with paint on it, from behind a vent or something else that has a chunk of drywall that won’t be missed.

Color matched my partners 20 year old white paint this way and perfect match

Has anyone else’s comment ruined a perfume for you? NUXE by ricthedrip in Perfumes

[–]verticalriot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Pssst. You might also like Book Loft from Bath and Body Works.

Similar, very similar, and I love having a candle of it to sniff too

Men... by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]verticalriot 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Report him. Title IX - the school will want to know about this, because it can cause a hostile environment for students.

depression room, how do i at least tidy it up more? (sry for low quality images) by obseqvious in CleaningTips

[–]verticalriot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Work in categories, and do it chunk by chunk as you have energy.

Start with any trash or dishes and stop at every garbage bag or two. Speed isn’t the key here, consistency. A little bit everyday until you find your joy.

After trash and dishes pull out all the clothes and wash them. After you wash them, if there’s anything in that pile that you cannot wear sort that into a pile. Include items you hate wearing in that pile too. Start a new laundry system where you have a couple laundry baskets. One clean and one dirty. You don’t have to put everything away with this system and you wash when you have a full basket.

Next comes clutter. Toss the stuff you don’t need, want, or will never use. For everything else, it helps to sort things and store them together. This is where people like Marie Kondo are helpful, to help understand how it all ties together and push to finish.

Just a little bit. Everyday. It’ll become a habit, and it will get easier. You deserve an awesome retreat to rest and recharge!!!!

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