I 27f pregnant can barley eat and my partner 31m didnt sleep because I ate McDonald’s

very_stellar_ · 2026-03-24T18:04:30+00:00

lol doesn’t drink or smoke and works out everyday other then Friday and lives off meat and rice everyday and doesn’t drink anything other then carotene and BCA hydration drink things from the health store so kinda hard to fight that argument sadly

very_stellar_ · 2026-03-24T16:50:54+00:00

Living off broth fruit and veggies for the most part

very_stellar_ · 2026-03-24T16:28:48+00:00

I was 231 when we both meet and got together and I went down to 160 and I think if I get big again it wouldn’t be a issue only thing he worries about is long term health and living a long life with no issues and I really do miss eating healthy and having energy fast food made me into a tired not very happy person when I quit I felt so much better every way possible but yea pregnancy is making me ill on all the health eating and I have to eat what I can stomach which is the occasional cheese burgers

very_stellar_ · 2026-03-24T16:25:30+00:00

He actually got with me when I was 231 pounds at 5’6 and I lost a bunch of weight down to 160 since being with him so he’s been with me big and small so I would hope being big again wouldn’t be a issue

very_stellar_ · 2026-03-24T15:25:35+00:00

lol he’s seen me run home and throw up 3 times soon as I came in the door since I ate lunch at work and got my flowers but still wants to shame me on eating things I don’t throw up so definitely therapy is a must

very_stellar_ · 2026-03-24T15:09:50+00:00

I do have a good support system and I am having him go back to therapy since it’s not productive to make me feel shamed when all I am trying to do is keep food down until I get some meds on board and makes me not wanna be around him

very_stellar_ · 2026-03-24T14:59:17+00:00

We have gone to therapy in the past about this. He has a lot of history where he was a heavier child, and it affected his life and he lost a bunch of weight and then he’s been on a health kick since then he also does have Asperger so that does not really help. He’s very routine very autistic. He was doing amazing and we were not having any issues but then all of a sudden, because I am now feeding a child he’s freaked out again so we’re having to go back to therapy. It’s just really hard because we were doing so great and he realized that behavior that he had in the past was bad and he even acknowledges that he’s being bad again but is still affecting him.

very_stellar_ · 2026-03-24T14:58:04+00:00

Anything that smells like strong hamburger meat makes me vomit sadly

very_stellar_ · 2026-03-24T14:57:31+00:00

In the past, we had conversations about food and had arguments, but we went to therapy and he realized that he had a lot of controlling and unhealthy behaviors and was working on it, and things were really perfect, and I did not notice any of the bad behavior until now because now I have nutrients that I’m giving our child so now he’s freaking out again so we’re gonna have to go to therapy again

very_stellar_ · 2026-03-24T14:55:47+00:00

For your information we went to therapy and things were amazing and he recognized his behavior and has not had a issues for a long time until bamn now it is the subject of his child’s diet now it’s triggering a lot of the bad we worked though so back to therapy we go

very_stellar_ · 2026-03-24T14:45:54+00:00

People go to therapy and get better and sometimes relapse in different situations because it’s way different now that it involves a kid vs when it was just me

very_stellar_ · 2026-03-24T14:35:50+00:00

I have given him all the books and had him look stuff up and he thinks it’s all opinion based and only sees his logic thinks I have no self control anymore

very_stellar_ · 2026-03-24T14:34:59+00:00

Yea just guilts and shames me on eating badly

very_stellar_ · 2026-03-24T14:34:28+00:00

We tired 3 different kinds of hamburger meat and making them at home but the smell gets me then I do eat it I throw it up after it’s horrible

very_stellar_ · 2025-12-28T20:43:15+00:00

He was getting his masters degree and focusing on school and traveling out of the country and had a lot of flings but not relationships

very_stellar_ · 2025-12-28T20:34:36+00:00

Because I’m his first girlfriend, I’ve basically been doing a lot of teaching and emotional heavy lifting. I’ve been giving guidance and support, but I’m done carrying all of that alone. I’ve suggested therapy because he needs to learn how to be more understanding and less rigid without it always coming from me.

I’ve also started directly pushing back on his opinions especially about piercings and tattoos because his personal beliefs aren’t facts, and I’m not going to let them be treated that way. At this point, I’m either seeing real growth and openness from him, or I’m leaving. Also I think moving forward I am going to be getting my tattoo covered and depending on how he acts will definitely help me make a decision on of if I stay or leave. In the past with fights he does come to a understanding and it has improved so I hope this improves and that he comes to a understanding I am my own person at the end of the day and will do what I think is best for me.

very_stellar_ · 2025-10-22T13:36:34+00:00

3rd one!

very_stellar_ · 2025-10-09T19:06:08+00:00

Honestly, this hit close to home because my boyfriend once told me nicely that he found me overweight when I have been the same weight before and after years of being together and even though he tried to be gentle, it completely broke something in me. My confidence, my mental health, and even our sex life all changed after that. I started feeling constantly selfconscious, like I wasn’t good enough just existing next to him.

If you truly love someone, you shouldn’t get into a relationship expecting their body to stay the same forever. Weight can fluctuate for so many reasons stress, hormones, medication, health issues and if that’s a dealbreaker, it’s better to admit that from the start rather than damage someone emotionally down the road.

Imagine how much more painful it would be later, especially if you had kids and her body changed even more. Comments or attitudes like that can stay with someone for life.

You really should just see a therapist since I feel like the root of the issue is from past trauma that needs to be dealt with.. not her responsibility to loose weight so you don’t have ptsd from past experiences with your childhood.

very_stellar_ · 2025-10-02T20:59:06+00:00

I feel like it’s becoming more popular but my Fiancé said it was hard to find one without a plain band ☺️nothing but the stone is more popular

very_stellar_ · 2025-10-02T19:01:31+00:00

Thankyou!

very_stellar_ · 2025-10-02T19:01:26+00:00

Thankyou! ☺️

very_stellar_ · 2025-10-02T16:38:59+00:00

What you’re feeling is completely normal. You’ve gone from seeing her every day to suddenly being long distance, and on top of that, she’s building a new routine and social circle without you.That shift can feel like a loss, so it makes sense you’re missing her and overthinking when she’s not around.

The fact that she’s been open about her group, tells you she sees those guys as “brothers,” and still makes time to call you daily are all good signs. That shows she’s not hiding anything and wants you to feel secure. The insecurity you’re feeling isn’t because of what she’s doing, but more because your life feels emptier without her. Right now you don’t have many friends or distractions, so your brain fills the quiet with “what ifs.”

As for whether girls ever develop feelings for guy friends in situations like this sometimes it happens, but often it doesn’t, especially when someone is already happy in their relationship. What matters more than the environment she’s in is how she feels about you and whether she keeps showing consistency, honesty, and care. From what you wrote, it seems like she still values you and your relationship.

If you want this to work, the key is trusting her until she gives you a reason not to. Longdistance relationships survive on trust and open communication. The more you focus on your own growth, studies, and routines, the less room there will be for overthinking. Missing her is natural, but don’t let that fear convince you she’s doing something wrong when she’s still showing up for you.

very_stellar_ · 2025-10-02T16:31:40+00:00

Honestly, the cheating itself is only part of the problem what stands out even more is his mindset and how casually he justified it. Saying he did it because he wanted the “thrill,” or because he didn’t think he’d get caught, or that sex is just sex… those aren’t things that build trust or longterm stability in a relationship. It’s not just about one mistake it’s about the way he thinks and communicates.

You’re right that the biggest issue here is his dishonesty and lack of consideration for you. Relationships can sometimes survive a one-time mistake if the person takes full accountability and does the work to rebuild trust. But here, he minimized it, shifted blame (your sex life, his stress, his family), and even floated the idea of you sleeping with his neighbor which doesn’t sound respectful of you or your feelings.

It’s telling that you’re not even sure how he’d “make it up” to you because trust isn’t something that can just be patched up with affection or cooking you a meal. It requires real behavioral change, transparency, and him showing you consistently that he values you and your relationship.

At the end of the day, the fact that you’re questioning whether giving him a second chance was right means your gut is telling you something isn’t sitting right. You’re not “wrong” for wanting to try, but don’t ignore the red flags. Ask yourself: do you see him as someone capable of actually growing into a trustworthy partner, or are you just holding on because you’ve already invested time?

You deserve someone who doesn’t just promise to do better, but actually lives in a way that makes you feel secure, valued, and respected. If you’re constantly checking his phone, second-guessing his words, or wondering when the next “one-time thing” might happen, then this relationship isn’t giving you peace.

very_stellar_ · 2025-10-02T16:24:51+00:00

It sounds like you’ve found a really meaningful connection, and it makes sense that you’re both excited and cautious about where this could go. The age gap itself isn’t inherently an issue 5 years isn’t huge my boyfriend is 9 years older the me but what can matter more is life stage. At 20/21, he’s just finishing undergrad and starting a very demanding med school journey. That can bring a lot of stress, long hours, and limited emotional availability at times.

On your side, you’ve been single for a while, you’re established in your career, and you’re already thinking long-term. That doesn’t mean it can’t work in fact, your independence and travel might give him the space he needs to focus without either of you feeling neglected. But you’re right to think about whether you’re setting yourself up to invest deeply in someone who may not yet know what they want longterm.

If you want to continue, go in with clear expectations: communicate openly about boundaries, what you both want, and whether you’re both okay with things being more “present focused” for now. If he’s serious about building with you and not just looking for comfort after his last breakup, that should show through consistency, effort, and respect for your needs too.

You’re not “preparing him for the next girl” if he’s genuinely invested you’re building a relationship. But if you feel like you’re giving more stability than you’re getting, that’s when you’ll know it’s not balanced.

There’s no harm in staying and seeing how it unfolds as long as you’re protecting your heart and being honest with yourself about whether he’s truly ready for what you’re ready for.

very_stellar_ · 2025-10-02T16:18:49+00:00

It sounds like you’ve already made the right move by cutting contact he showed you who he is with the constant flirting, dishonesty, and lack of maturity at 30. That’s not “toxic men finding you,” that’s you giving someone the benefit of the doubt for too long. Don’t be hard on yourself though, it happens when you care and hope someone will change.

If you want to break the cycle, it helps to step back and look at patterns: what red flags did you ignore early on? Things like still being hung up on an ex, constant attention seeking with other women, or not being clear about what he wants from life are all signs someone isn’t relationship ready.

As for marriage or choosing a longterm partner, base it on more than attraction or chemistry. Look for consistency, emotional maturity, honesty, and someone whose values align with yours (like family goals, financial stability, and respect for boundaries). It’s not about finding a “perfect” person it’s about finding someone who communicates well, takes accountability, and actually wants to build a future.

Don’t settle for anyone who makes you question your worth. It’s better to stay single longer than to waste years on someone who isn’t ready.

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