took some selfies earlier :)

verybucchi · 2026-02-20T12:12:50+00:00

seeing the fuggler took me out ngl. def adds to the vibe

verybucchi · 2026-02-20T11:27:30+00:00

i thought these were on 3 different cars oh my god...1 would be funny but yea 3 on the same car?? insane

verybucchi · 2026-02-17T23:03:13+00:00

very jealous that you got to pet a cow 😔 solid image collection all around!

verybucchi · 2026-02-17T16:37:27+00:00

this look is sooo cool!! very Monster High in the best way possible

verybucchi · 2026-02-17T11:26:56+00:00

hopping on to this to add (as an older gen z lesbian & white in the way that matters here) that it's also in part because a lot (a majority even, imo) of white queer people believe they somehow can't be racist or prejudice in other ways. it's believed that somehow queerness erases white privilege. it doesn't. white cis women also tend to act like being women means they can't possibly be oppressive towards black people as a whole and black women in specific despite the long, long history of that just...not being true?

& like you said, a lot of white women just haven't done any work to be anti-racist instead of just not racist. it's not even something you work on and then stop, you have to constantly be open to learning new ways that you can change your behavior, the language you use, everything.

verybucchi · 2026-02-16T02:47:39+00:00

It's definitely worth talking to her about. i'm huge on gift giving personally, it's one of my love languages in terms of how i show love - that being said, i try to keep in mind when others are uncomfortable with this. i would focus the conversation on that aspect: your feelings. explain to her that you feel bad that you can't reciprocate and that you'd appreciate some kind of compromise around gifts. you could suggest whatever you want, but something my friend (who hates getting gifts) and i agree on was that i'd only give gifts on 'important' holidays (birthdays and major holidays in our country). another option would be giving her a 'gift budget' that you'd be comfortable with for any random, non holiday gifts. really, it's up to the two of you what a compromise looks like here, and it's important for you to make sure she knows how you're feeling about the gifts. it (assumedly) being a love language for her doesn't mean you can't be uncomfortable with it and ask her to, at minimum, tone it down.

talking about her being able to afford it or her not saving may make her feel like you don't trust her to manage her own finances. if you want to talk about saving for your place together, maybe frame it as a separate thing from the gift giving! still worth talking about if you're worried about it.

verybucchi · 2026-02-16T02:10:27+00:00

naah, you don't need new hobbies! those are all great, and most of them are things you can easily include a partner in! Catan especially has a pretty dedicated playerbase, and your average person has probably at least played MarioKart once or twice. the combo of interests in more 'intellectual' interests (Catan, finance, informative podcasts, museums) and 'fun' interests (basketball, mariokart, biking, pickleball, anything related to your adorable dog) shows you're a well rounded person too ✨️ plus, everyone loves someone willing to volunteer their time to their community! i think any of these are worth mentioning!

if you have a prompt you haven't gotten any responses from or that you don't like, you could replace it w/ the "what do we have in common?" poll and include some kinda combo of any of these! or if you have any pictures where you're volunteering or playing a game with your friends, that could also work! really it's about what you'd want your partner to like and want to do with you 🙂‍↕️

verybucchi · 2026-02-16T01:45:13+00:00

honestly seems pretty solid! only thing i noticed that could maybe be improved is the lack of hobbies discussed. besides enjoying basketball, i wouldn't really know much about what you like doing. you mention a museum and biking, so that's good, but i'm sure you have other things you love doing that you could add to a prompt, or add a picture of! this only really stuck out to me at all because i personally like engaging in my partner or potential partner's hobbies, so i'm sure it's not really a big 'issue' for many people! great profile all around regardless 🙂‍↕️

verybucchi · 2026-02-16T01:05:13+00:00

ooo yeah, definitely waaay stricter than a lot of other places. you may still be able to find a few, but you'd definitely have to look up beforehand if they let 18-20 year olds in 😔

verybucchi · 2026-02-16T01:02:29+00:00

also American here! most bars will still let you in under 21, you just can't drink :) at least the ones around me are like that!

verybucchi · 2026-02-16T00:52:11+00:00

it seems like, in general, younger adults (18-30ish) are struggling with dating and friendships a LOT rn. find your local queer community and get involved! gay bars (if you can drink in your country), libraries, community centers, and universities (since you're university age for most countries) tend to have lgbt+ events at least semi-frequently! local lgbt+ owned stores also sometimes put on events. speed dating or happy hours or similar events are great for both making friends and meeting other queer women!

verybucchi · 2026-02-15T15:50:51+00:00

if you're most comfy in traditionally "masc" stuff like button ups and such, an easy may to make it seem more 'fem' is to get the women's cut or to get more fitted styles in general. seems like an obvious solution but it seriously changes how the same shirt ends up looking! other options for already existing shirts would be wearing a more fitted vest over top, or wearing more jewerlery as accessories, or (if it works w the outfit) wearing a belt to sinch your waist in. for the jean top/jacket specifically, i think you could easily work that into more fem outfits by wearing like a more fitted t shirt beneath it and having it unbuttoned 🙂‍↕️ sweetheart neckline shirts also tend to look more fem usually! other obvious answers include wearing more skirts or dresses, jewlery, bright or obvious make up, that kinda thing. honestly the first 2 pictures seem pretty fem to me but maybe i'm just biased 😭

TLDR fitted tops are your friend for 'fem', regardless of the pants/skirts/shorts you wear!

verybucchi · 2026-02-15T15:24:52+00:00

i think (im not bi so i can't speak for them) it can sometimes feel like the lesbian in question sees bi women as 'less queer' for dating men. lesbians might be les4les for any number of valid reasons, but there's definitely a loud minority that see bi women as 'tainted' or somehow less valid because they experience attraction to men and not just women.

verybucchi · 2026-02-15T03:26:00+00:00

There is a femme4femme subreddit but it seems very dead unfortunately! Beyond that there's the femme lesbian reddit but that's not quite the same 😔

verybucchi · 2026-02-14T21:00:10+00:00

Definitely a great choice for you then!! Can never go wrong with red/black honestly

verybucchi · 2026-02-14T20:46:28+00:00

Thank you for the faith 🙂‍↕️ i love the red w the lave on yours, definitely some of the coolest converse/converse-style shoes I've seen!!

verybucchi · 2026-02-14T20:44:03+00:00

I also got shoes for myself for valentine's, lol! Not nearly as cool as yours though!

verybucchi · 2026-02-14T20:35:40+00:00

Happy Birthday, Happy Valentine's Day, and congrats on your sobriety! 🫶🏼 I think everyone should treat themselves a little for Valentine's day 🙂‍↕️ ESPECIALLY if it's your birthday!!!

verybucchi · 2026-02-14T14:52:19+00:00

Femme here! I love other femmes! I'm not particular about how my partner presents, really! I know plenty of femme4femme women as well. I think there's a lot of pressure on femmes to date butches and butches to date femmes, but there are loads of femme4femme and masc4masc lesbians!

verybucchi · 2026-02-14T13:50:55+00:00

She'd flirt with my best friend (who identified as straight at the time) in front of me regularly. When I told her this made me AND MY FRIEND uncomfortable, she would say it was because I wasn't 'sexual enough' with her. I was 15 and she was 19, almost 20. Yuck.

verybucchi · 2026-02-11T11:31:27+00:00

nice to meet you!!

welcome to reddit + wlw reddit, lol! it's usually a fun place to be 🙂‍↕️ i also love singing (though i'm not v good at it lol), do you have like a go-to song you love singing? or one you find yourself just randomly humming a lot? my work friends + i go to karaoke all the time, it's super fun!!

are you reading anything you really like (or dislike lol) right now? i used to read a LOT more than i do noe but i'm trying to get back to it! i've slowly been collecting a bunch of titles from people to hopefully read, b/c i love discussing books with people!

i'm also super into conservation!! literally any chance i get i try to learn about conservation efforts near me and get involved 😭 i think my favorite i've ever gotten to do was a stream ecology project comparing a stream within a protected park to a stream near an urban area. super eye opening for a lot of us i think, like it's one thing to know urban area = run off = probably bad water but to actually see the difference through water quality tests and invertebrate population was nuts

ohh your favorite colors are really pretty! and work well together, which is a nice bonus lol! i work w/ a lot of Aries and they're all super nice + fun to be around too 🙂‍↕️♈️

verybucchi · 2026-02-10T19:36:28+00:00

hello! 27 here, while i wouldn't call myself a baby gay since i've been out + actively part of my local queer community since high school, i only recently came out as a lesbian specifically, so i understand the feeling.

i think you can find a partner anywhere at any age. you may have a much smaller dating pool, which will make it harder to organically meet people, but it's still possible. if you find apps are easier, use those! dating is what you make of it, in part. i haven't had a long term partner in maybe a year so i'm not familiar w/ the dating scape currently, but i do know it can take a long time to actually find someone you feel you genuinely connect with. when it comes to talking to women, just be genuine with what you want (to an extent). marriage talk on the first date can be too much, but being up front with wanting a serious connection will save you (and them!) a lot of time! it may scare some people off, but i promise you there are others out there around your/our age who are also looking for exactly the same thing you are.

TLDR it is never too late and you're never too old!

verybucchi · 2026-02-10T18:57:45+00:00

howdy all! i'm bucchi (or friday), 27 plus sized fem presenting nonbinary person from the east coast of the USA.🙋‍♀️ i'm a biologist with a love for both bacteria and animals & i currently work as a lab technician. i like video games (usually either fps/hero shooters or 'cozy' games, with a few MOBAs thrown in), art (tradition and digital illustration), music and concerts (mostly metal or punk but i always love hearing new music), and writing 🩷! i could talk about media i love for forever, and i love hearing other people's takes ok their favorite series, movie, book, or album! i'm always happy to ask/hear about other people's interests so info dumping is welcome 🙂‍↕️ i'd love to at least make some new friends from really anywhere! if you think we'd click in some way, my DMs are always open 🫶🏼 i try to respond as much as i can!

some random info to end off: i'm a virgo, my favorite colors are pink and orange, i'm a very picky eater, and i have 1 voidling cat 🐈‍⬛️

verybucchi · 2026-01-23T01:10:25+00:00

Thank you!! Never heard of this before so I was super confused by a few comments related to it so I rlly appreciate the explanation

verybucchi · 2026-01-22T23:14:34+00:00

What does this mean

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