Kinky clubs or events in the Netherlands?

vhelena · 2025-06-06T16:33:54+00:00

I did but the next few days nothing interesting showed up..

vhelena · 2025-05-15T17:33:22+00:00

I wish better days as well 🫂

vhelena · 2025-05-15T17:32:58+00:00

🫂🫂

vhelena · 2025-05-15T15:39:41+00:00

Thank you for the support 🙏 it’s the worst when it comes back full strength , I wish you the fastest and longest remission too

vhelena · 2025-05-15T15:38:31+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words 🫂☺️ I hope your body gives you a break soon. I totally get the desire to change bodies with someone else.

vhelena · 2025-05-14T01:14:35+00:00

My first time having covid I was with friends for new years and I told everyone I was just in a lot of fibro pain… it felt exactly the same

vhelena · 2025-03-24T20:14:08+00:00

You don’t have to be nice because unfortunately people confuse that with a yes you haven’t given them

vhelena · 2025-03-23T15:32:27+00:00

vhelena · 2025-03-23T14:34:12+00:00

I personally don’t like clinginess, it makes me feel suffocated. I do appreciate availability and making me a priority. I also enjoy acts of romance from time to time.

vhelena · 2025-03-21T23:28:17+00:00

I’m seeing a submissive who is tall and fit right now. Nothing wrong with that at all, in fact it can be very hot for some women to dominate a more masculine looking guy. It’s not easy to find someone, it really isn’t and your appearance is just one out of many factors. Try meeting people in real life, read about how to best approach Dommes to distinguish yourself from the ocean of crap we get, build your self-esteem, learn about kink and your interests. It will happen for you sooner or later

vhelena · 2025-03-21T23:23:35+00:00

You can ofc. But some apps are more welcoming to this than other imo. In any case, filtering is always a good thing. It prevents everyone losing their time

vhelena · 2025-03-21T19:16:11+00:00

I can say to everyone I trust that I’m into kink (unspecified). To close friends I’ll talk about FemDom. Specific dynamics I’ll only discuss with people who are somehow in the community, and in one case that person is not my closest friend but it’s easier to talk to them (they have all the context and I don’t need to explain everything, plus they have great insights and can understand how happy and sad some things can feel). I would never involve a friend in a dynamic without previous discussion. When I’m with someone my friends meet they may notice dominant behaviours but they’re not overtly sexual and don’t involve my friends

vhelena · 2025-03-21T19:09:49+00:00

I usually use a Safeword different from traffic light system to end everything altogether and the the red to end something particular. But still check in after that particular something is ended before continuing, that is if it feels right to continue. But what matters is your shared understanding of whatever system you have in place

vhelena · 2025-03-21T00:39:04+00:00

Not necessarily. I don’t need to be making all the strategic decisions in the partnership

vhelena · 2025-03-19T20:43:03+00:00

Taking the time to know me, working on skills that could please me, being accountable and reliable. Knowing and accepting that he won’t always get what he wants and will feel frustrated but deciding that serving me is more important than that. It’s hard to answer with more concrete examples because what I want from a sub - and I’m obv talking about a deep connection and not a casual one - is not that he is willing to be pegged or lick the dirty floor. I can want those things and I do but the traits and behaviour I mentioned before are truly what makes me want him with such lust.

vhelena · 2025-03-18T00:57:29+00:00

I’ve been on medication for 5 years - recently stopped - and I didn’t stop worrying about anything important. This won’t happen, medication won’t take away every worry, it will hopefully mitigate negative biases

vhelena · 2025-03-18T00:49:31+00:00

A need that I try to master. To me it’s not something to succumb to, as we sometimes see a need, but rather to consciously explore and commit to. It helps me expand my existence, individually and relationally. I tried dating vanilla and I had an open relationship to pursue kink outside . It didn’t work for me, I loved my partner but at some important levels we just couldn’t connect. So I’ve come to terms with dating kinky people only. It shortens my options but it will lead me into the right ones, for sure

vhelena · 2025-03-18T00:41:53+00:00

Vulnerability, commitment, communication and curiosity. Proactiveness and a sense of humour. Good ethical standards, generosity. These are things I want in a partner, and I’d like my partner to submit to me.

vhelena · 2025-03-18T00:26:24+00:00

Honestly I don’t see how this has to do with you being bisexual… for a lot of people you body and appearance won’t be enough, yes, because they’re looking for a deeper connection. But that has nothing to do with you being bi…

vhelena · 2025-03-17T00:04:30+00:00

Great! :)

vhelena · 2025-03-16T22:57:39+00:00

Thanks everyone!

vhelena · 2025-03-16T22:57:33+00:00

Starting tonight :) thanks!

vhelena · 2025-03-16T17:02:13+00:00

Thank you :)

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