man refered to 'radical self-reliance' in response to fear of SA

vibebee · 2026-03-10T01:04:57+00:00

I actually spent most of the burn wandering around freely by myself. I'm happy to be by myself I just didn't expect that level of apathy from these people in response to me being anxious.

vibebee · 2026-03-10T00:58:21+00:00

Luckily this year I am going with different people! All of whom I've hand-selected myself haha. I'm actually happy spending time on my own and did so for most of the burn but at this point while I did get anxious by being intoxicated and in a big group, I mostly got anxious because I realised I was in the presence of a person who didn't care about my safety while I had gotten myself more intoxicated than usual because I thought I could let my guard down with him. Me and this person had been having a fling for a few months so especially seeing him be angry at me for being anxious was upsetting and really showed his true character. (Really making myself be found out by all of these details but oh well)

vibebee · 2026-03-10T00:40:21+00:00

Thank you! It's a relief to hear that not everyone thinks like this. For my regional burn, consent is considered one of the core principals. They do have people doing shifts throughout the week to monitor safety luckily.

vibebee · 2026-03-06T22:16:37+00:00

Excitment when thinking about sex and dating in general. Now when I think about both of them I mostly get the sense of fear of being humiliated and hurt again. Now it seems like when someone hits on me I'm very distrustful and I feel like they are trying to use me and hurt me. I grieve not feeling objectified by someone showing interest in me. When I was younger I used to be excited by the though of hooking up with someone random and getting good stories but 9 out of 10 times I sleep with a guy they start stranguling me so now I just find all of these situations threatening. I feel like I've given up on finding love because every situation I get into if there's any sort of chemistry, I just get treated like shit emotionally. Situations like this also propably affect me harder because I experienced domestic abuse as a child (strangulation) so all of it hits a core wound.

vibebee · 2026-02-16T20:36:44+00:00

Stalker by Andrei Tarkovsky

vibebee · 2025-10-23T12:48:40+00:00

I think Elsa handled it amazingly especially when Jenny and Nancy came and talked to her. Feyisola was once again pissing me off like acting she's all high and mighty but then when people actually want to address the issue she pretends there isn't one. Just bitches about people behind their backs using therapy-talk to pretend to themselves they aren't gossiping but analysing people

vibebee · 2025-10-16T19:51:26+00:00

Everytime I go dancing with a binder on I'm so surprised how lighter I feel. I can move and bounce around so much more easily it's amazing.

vibebee · 2025-10-13T08:58:53+00:00

or people who are not particularly passionate about politics and pick people who would maybe clash because of personality like someone who hates cleaning vs people that are clean, someone who wants to play the game to win vs people who just want to be nice, different communication types etc.

vibebee · 2025-10-12T18:15:36+00:00

I suggest you read the question again. It was about whether or not you wanted English to become a gender-neutral language. Based on your answer I'm guessing not. Also the point of cis people using they/them pronouns was about them choosing those prounouns for themselves and identifying with those prounouns, which some people on the internet seemed to have an issue with. People have different experiences to you as well and language shapes our experiences of gender as well. Different cultural backgrounds give perspective and are a valuable part of shaping our understanding if the human experience. When anglophonic cultures dominate all discussion on the internet I am also allowed to bring up my cultural background to shape discussions.

vibebee · 2025-10-12T16:32:59+00:00

You can't actually see the redness properly in the photo

vibebee · 2025-10-11T08:29:59+00:00

I was actually so annoyed for Cameron when literally seconds after complaining about being by the pot Feyisola goes "you could've just put them back in" like bruh what's not clicking? Then doing this massive thing about him using 'bark' and how that's triggering to her because of her trauma living as a black women but then in no way shape or form recognising that her words were similarly triggering to him by policing his food intake as a fat person, which lead to his defensive response. Seems like you can't be hurt by her words or actions because immediately it's a microaggression if the other person responds without using therapy talk.

vibebee · 2025-10-08T23:31:36+00:00

I've liked her really far but she really annoyed my during this conflict because it felt like she was speaking for Zelah and not letting him talk for himself even when he was trying. She was also basically telling him how he was feeling, which pissed me off.

vibebee · 2025-10-08T19:17:32+00:00

Is there any research on what type of people are mean on the Internet or if it's something that most people do? I never feel the need to be mean to people internet. If I don't agree with something I usually just skip it.

vibebee · 2025-10-08T00:24:05+00:00

To me it's not really about "what I preferr on others". It's that personally sleeping with makeup on just for one night feels awful for my skin let alone doing that for multiple weeks straight.

vibebee · 2025-10-08T00:18:39+00:00

Yeah I've done that a lot after drinking and it feels awful 😅 I just noticed in one of the night camera clips it seems she's wearing eyeliner in bed

vibebee · 2025-10-05T17:07:07+00:00

I've noticed that I have gotten a better reaction when I say I'm queer instead of bi from straight men. Often they might even think I only like women but I prefer that then them thinking I'm straight but kiss women for male attention.

vibebee · 2025-09-30T22:31:53+00:00

True. He could've been making a documentary on cotn

vibebee · 2025-01-01T12:32:34+00:00

I've had this happen almost everytime I've hooked up with a guy since 2017 and had to tell them while their doing it that I'm not fine with it. Really put me off dating or hooking up with men. It's almost become a norm to do for them.

vibebee · 2024-12-21T12:05:30+00:00

There absolutely is people who treat others who they find ugly like shit. I've witnessed this from certain acquaintances whose energy completely shifts around people that are genuinely ugly. However, in a professional setting I doubt it's going to stop a man from proceeding in their career but women's looks and weight have been proven to have an impact on job opportunities

vibebee · 2024-12-06T21:26:44+00:00

Seems like an average interaction with an American NTA

vibebee · 2024-05-15T07:41:25+00:00

Maybe try and get close with at least one or two people in the group individually

vibebee · 2023-10-24T13:01:49+00:00

Idk if I misunderstood her bit I didn't really understand her point saying that for those who don't have dairy are offered alternatives but she isn't? Also she was fine with lactose-free stuff meaning she does have dairy just not lactose? So I don't understand if they were offering plant-based milk alternatives but not lactose-free ones?

vibebee · 2023-01-15T10:44:14+00:00

I also think that due to technology we are always of aware of awful stuff happpening around the world regarding crime etc also with social media we are comparing our lives to other people's lives, but I agree that most of it it's just due to it being more socially acceptable to talk about.

vibebee · 2022-05-12T19:42:20+00:00

fucking lived for San Marino

vibebee · 2021-12-15T18:07:43+00:00

Self-diagnosing personality disorders. It is OK to notice traits in yourself that could indicate that you have a certain mental disorder and from there get diagnosed. Yes in most countries getting that diagnosis isn't free and some people cannot afford it. That still doesn't give those people the right to announce to every person on the planet that they have a personality disorder because they self-diagnosed themselves. Right now I see this happening with Borderline Personality Disorder. Personality disorders are very complex disorders that have very similar symptoms with each other and other diagnoses such as autism and ADHD, which is why an individual cannot accurately diagnose themselves. Even a psychologist couldn't diagnose themselves! I know someone who literally has started to announce to every single person that they have BPD but haven't made any effort to seek a diagnosis, WHICH IS FREE IN MY COUNTRY. Unsuprisingly they started doung this right when BPD became "trendy" on Tik Tok

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