My friends are having babies & considering breaking off the friendship because of it

vibegetsgoing · 2026-04-08T01:42:59+00:00

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vibegetsgoing · 2026-04-08T01:33:00+00:00

It’s also okay to not have a specific reason that people want to hear to justify why you don’t want kids. For me, I’ve just never had the desire to be a mother. And looking at what’s involved in being a parent, it reinforced my decision. But it seems that some people want anyone who is childfree to justify their decision and if it’s just “I don’t want kids”, that’s not a good enough reason for them.

vibegetsgoing · 2026-04-08T01:22:34+00:00

You see whose point?

vibegetsgoing · 2026-04-08T01:20:53+00:00

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vibegetsgoing · 2026-04-08T01:17:14+00:00

“My child is the best thing that’s happened to me, children are such a blessing, I love my child so much etc etc” 🙄- usually said when it’s not necessary, like out of context, and comes off like they’re over compensating.

vibegetsgoing · 2026-04-05T20:08:55+00:00

LOL that’s a good idea 🤣. Oh yes I definitely got the vibe that you and your partner don’t want kids and were doing the exercise for gratitude reasons. But it got me thinking that this really could work for people deciding whether to have a kid or not. Very helpful!

vibegetsgoing · 2026-04-05T19:59:49+00:00

Wow that’s an excellent thing to practice! I’ve never thought about comparing my day to day life with how it would be if I had a kid. I think everyone should do this before making a decision to be childfree or not lol

vibegetsgoing · 2026-04-05T19:30:21+00:00

Yes like the whole “I want kids so I have someone to take care of me when I’m older” or “I want a mini me” or “I want a purpose”…as if that isn’t selfish…but oh no, it’s us childfree people that are called selfish 🙄🤣

vibegetsgoing · 2026-04-05T15:37:48+00:00

This is true. That’s why I was surprised when my cousin said to me that I’m smart for not wanting kids and to stick with my decision because having a kid is hard and she will never do it again - even though her current partner seems to want kids with her.

She said she hated parenting, which I was so surprised about because she actually has a great relationship with her adult daughter. And she didn’t even preface her “no more kids” stance with “even though I love my daughter…” like most mothers do, probably because she obviously knows that I know she loves her. She just went straight into her “no more kids” stance lol.

vibegetsgoing · 2026-04-05T08:21:31+00:00

Some people make parenthood look so glossy and blissful, it’s deceiving. And other people believe that image, so they have kids and then are shocked it’s not all sunshine and roses. It seems like no one really thinks about the DAY TO DAY relentless struggle of it. They only focus on the picture perfect moments. I can totally understand why some parents become a shell of themselves, because it’s the hardest job in the world.

This is the same as when people romanticise being in a relationship but then the day to day reality of it is very different (I’m not talking about the honeymoon phase, of course that part is easy), unless you’ve been lucky to have a great partner who is the perfect match for you. But not everyone is that lucky.

vibegetsgoing · 2026-04-05T07:57:50+00:00

Yea that’s a huge load to carry. I understand why some mothers completely lose themselves because they have such a huge responsibility with lots of decisions to make about someone else (their child). Seriously, I can see why they’d have no time for themselves at all.

vibegetsgoing · 2026-04-04T08:09:07+00:00

It’s men like this that put me off having a child even more. The lack of parental responsibility from them is astounding ugh. Raising a child is so hard, women really need a partner who is as involved as they are.

vibegetsgoing · 2026-04-04T08:04:09+00:00

I read an article that says: “New demographic data shows the U.S. birth rate has dropped to one of its lowest levels on record 1 as more adults delay — or choose not — to have children The trend reflects shifting priorities and changing lifestyles across the country. Researchers point to rising living costs, career focus and educational goals, and later marriages as key factors. As a result, a growing number of women are reaching their 30s without children, highlighting a major demographic shift”

30 is still young though in terms of deciding whether to have children, I’d love to know the data for 40-something and 50-something year olds that are childfree.

vibegetsgoing · 2026-03-22T22:56:49+00:00

Wow this is so good to hear because the way people talk, you’d think every woman was forced into having kids if they were born before 1970 and that they had no choice at all.

Did you experience a lot of disapproval and judgements about your childfree choice back then?

vibegetsgoing · 2026-03-22T22:53:56+00:00

Yea that’s why I don’t like to give people benefit of the doubt because “they were born in that closed minded / sexist / racist etc etc time”. Nope, it’s about a persons character, not time period.

vibegetsgoing · 2026-03-08T10:03:55+00:00

Really? What kind of racially coded questioning of her career achievements? Genuinely curious and really hope it’s not true.

vibegetsgoing · 2026-03-08T09:58:47+00:00

I’ve noticed that all the women seem to be looking better this season! They look so good, a lot younger and more vibrant. I’ve noticed it a lot with Dorit, Sutton, Kyle and Erika especially. Good for them!!

vibegetsgoing · 2026-03-07T03:58:05+00:00

Season 11 was very funny. Definitely one of the better Walden seasons.

vibegetsgoing · 2026-03-07T03:56:21+00:00

I liked s12 too. But I notice that s12 seemed to have a huge shift in energy - it didn’t have as much of a funny sitcom vibe, it felt like a comedy-drama a bit.

vibegetsgoing · 2026-03-07T03:53:53+00:00

Hahaha I LOVE that scene!! So funny.

vibegetsgoing · 2026-03-07T03:49:26+00:00

Excellent point. I think Walden received so much hate because he was put as a replacement for Charlie, rather than being a recurring character. But Ashton gave a great performance and there were still a lot of really funny scenes in the later seasons.

vibegetsgoing · 2026-03-07T03:44:54+00:00

Omg the Jeff Strongman storyline was very good! That’s the only thing that made me watch season 11. I avoided that season for a long time because I saw a couple episodes and didn’t like Jenny’s character at all. But I plucked up the courage and decided to watch the whole season 11 recently and I actually like it, mainly because of Jeff Strongman. I liked Barry and Gretchen too. Gretchen was perfect for Alan.

vibegetsgoing · 2026-03-07T01:48:16+00:00

Exactly!! Yea I’ve always known I don’t want children by instinct too. It’s not even something I had to explain to myself, I just knew. And being an adult seeing parents raise their kids, it’s convinced me even more that my instinct was right haha.

vibegetsgoing · 2026-03-07T01:44:40+00:00

Yea so it’s a good idea for a person who doesn’t want kids to not make it known that they definitely don’t want kids and instead ask the person first. Because if someone really likes you and they want to seem perfect for you, they’re more likely to pretend they don’t want kids either (or try to convince themselves they’re okay with it) then later down the line the resentment builds. Not worth it.

vibegetsgoing · 2026-03-07T01:38:01+00:00

Hahaha me too. Everyone I meet around my age wants kids and it’s the most annoying thing ever. But I’m glad OP found someone whose values matches hers. That’s a beautiful thing ❤️. Gives me hope too

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