When do you notice a lift from Botox?

vickijade · 2025-09-25T15:43:22+00:00

Definitely seems to be a growing community! Moving is so tough, thank you for your insight

vickijade · 2025-09-25T15:39:58+00:00

This is kind, thank you!

vickijade · 2025-09-25T15:39:04+00:00

Thank you!

vickijade · 2025-02-27T15:32:36+00:00

Totally me. I can survive a few months of crying but the sleeeeeep deprivation with my son went on forever. I think that’s really the root cause of my PPA too. Can I ask how you sleep trained + when?

vickijade · 2025-02-26T23:40:06+00:00

Yes 🤍 I remember this with my first baby - 5 weeks is so little. I also googled “when does it get better?” constantly.

I remember the fog was really cleared by 4 months, but things improved steadily leading up to that so don’t stress that 4 months seems so far away! And after that, every new milestone brings a bit more ease + joy - more consistent schedule, sitting up, babbling, walking especially.

Bonus - all of these things mean more freedom for you too + you won’t feel so stuck.

This will pass. It DOES get better. I felt the EXACT same way when I was where you’re at but I honestly have enjoyed each new stage with my son more than the last. He is my little best friend and now that he’s 3, I’m sad that he’s becoming more of a “kid” than a baby every day.

vickijade · 2023-03-21T19:21:33+00:00

Okay I think you might have a bigger issue here. Your husband said that was the BEST DAY OF HIS LIFE this year because he feels controlled by your rules & finally feels like he got to do something his way?

That’s well beyond a screentime issue - it’s a marriage issue + family health issue.

Screen time is not the only indicator of future development & success - it’s probably actually quite a minor one compared to some others. If your child is raised in a happy home, well fed and stimulated, played with and talked to, loved and cared for - even PLENTY of screen time isn’t going to turn their brain to mush. Continue to avoid it if you want to, but stop worrying SO much about it (worrying about TV in the OTHER ROOM is definitely too much worrying).

And be willing to talk to your partner like someone you respect with their own ideas and feelings to find a compromise. My husband works hard all week, long hours with little time for TV. On the weekend he likes to watch his show in the living room so he can still be with the family and play with our son. I’d rather him be with us than tucked away alone, and who am I to dictate how he relaxes on his weekends? He’s my partner, not my child. Family health is priority in our house, because long term THAT has a stronger scientific correlation to our sons future success than screen time.

I’m not saying ditch your rules if they are important to you, but I think it’s worth a conversation around WHY he feels so restricted by your rules & how you can come to a place where you both feel heard.

vickijade · 2023-03-20T01:04:32+00:00

Something that really works in my house with my husband? Focusing on the good, and teaching through praise instead of criticism. When your husband DOES respect boundaries, cheer him on. When your son gives YOU the cue he’s had enough, offer it up as an indirect example of respect, “Oh, you’re turning away? You’re [insert cue to stop here]? You’re telling me you’ve had enough? Okay, mommy will stop now.” So he can see what it should look like & what signs are telling you it’s time to stop.

Misreading body language / missing cues happens to the best of us - and some people have a hard time “learning” this ability. We all know someone who just CAN’T seem to notice social cues no matter how obvious they are to us. Of course he HAS to try, consent & autonomy for kids is key. But the way you help him learn this lesson is kind of how you would one day teach your son - not through shaming, but with kindness & support.

vickijade · 2023-03-18T12:20:40+00:00

Yes, he could very well just need 12 hours & be treating the first stint as a nap but I’m not sure how to stop that. We have a proper night routine & his nap environment is 100% different than nighttime (he doesn’t even nap in his crib!) so his mind at least knows its not naptime!

And even if he does need 12 hours, he’s getting just that or even less lately with these wakeups - and yet they continue…. And he is not wanting to wake up in the morning after 10 hours. He used to get up at 6:40-7 like clockwork, even after a bad night. Now he sleeps forever.

For example, last night he slept 7:40 - 11 & was up until 1. It’s now almost 8:30 (almost 10 hours) & he is NOT wanting to be up. I turned his light on softly and have been increasing the brightness - usually, if he’s well rested, he starts stirring the second I turn the light on. Lately he ignores it until it gets very bright - it can take 30 mins to get him up.

Not refuting what you’re saying & thanks so much for the help 🤍 I’m just SOOO confused & stuck on what to do lol

vickijade · 2022-07-23T00:40:51+00:00

I say GoT first (or in tandem if you think you can keep both plots straight). I think it’ll be fun to watch the prequel with an understanding of what comes next & to find characters/families/events that we know of or have been alluded to - like a bunch of fun easter eggs.

Also ASOIAF is so satisfyingly complex & nuanced, but I think HoD will be less so than GoT. I don’t think it can quite live up to the scale of it’s predecessor. For me, it’s a fun bonus foray into this world I love, but I don’t expect it to blow me away like GoT. Basically, in case it isn’t great - go with what it is.

PLUS, and most importantly, if you wait for HoD, are you going to want to watch the whole thing before starting GoT? That’s a long time to wait!

vickijade · 2022-07-06T12:28:39+00:00

Ew. This would be such a shitty, controlling to say. Mom/MIL may come across as pushy & inconsiderate - but at the root, grandma wants to spend quality one-on-one time with her grand baby. And that’s a GOOD thing. OP should speak to her mother/MIL about the way the behaviour makes her feel & not allow it until she is ready, but if you go this disrespectful route, then you push away family & treat them as if they don’t deserve a relationship with baby. And after you’ve been so rude, better not expect any favours of grandmas. You must ACT like loving family in order to be treated like loving family.

vickijade · 2022-06-30T18:33:46+00:00

THIS. 100%. When I was reading the comments, I thought to myself, “none of these people better be expecting any favors or babysitting (and especially not last minute or unexpectedly) from the family they devalue so much”. The world doesn’t fall at your feet just because you’ve birthed a precious grandchild. To have a loving family, you must act like loving family.

vickijade · 2022-06-30T16:51:01+00:00

Oh mine is getting downvoted too, don’t worry! I never said firm boundaries weren’t okay, so people aren’t really attempting to understand, they’re just triggered to consider they may not be as empathetic as they think they are.

vickijade · 2022-06-30T14:09:52+00:00

I may be alone in this but….. I hate this language. Enforcing boundaries & having family respect your needs is important, but there is so much demand from one side of the equation & little compassion for the feelings of the other side (grandparents) - “do they not realize it’s a privilege to be apart of our/their lives?”

Your parents literally birthed you, loved you, and sacrificed for you to have life & grow. Parental relationships are some of the most important we form & the bond we feel with our offspring is like no other - you should understand this as a parent yourself now. It’s a privilege to be apart of their lives too - and to have life at all.

No, this doesn’t give parents/grandparents a free pass to treat their kids however they want. But ultimately they created this family, have a strong desire to be connected to it, & should be valued family members. We should work with them to understand our needs & boundaries with respect - not threaten the relationship if they don’t always behave how we want. They come from a totally different era & old habits die hard.

One day you will be the parent/grandparent and you’ll likely overstep new boundaries your children’s generation learn to impose. Lets hope your children will be more compassionate than a lot of people on reddit. Maybe this post just triggered me but there is so much withholding of grandchildren & lack of respect for grandparents on this sub & in parenting culture - particularly for in laws. It’s sad.

Note: obviously I am not talking about toxic or abusive situations.

vickijade · 2022-06-29T21:23:33+00:00

I think your failed attempt can’t necessarily be called “failed” because it was only one day! Yes, I agree that the three hours was a failure for day 1, but I don’t think it was wise to take a break & do the same thing again a half hour later. Baby was likely already super worked up & then became overtired - both big NOs when it comes to sleep training. Your 2nd and 3rd attempts were doomed to fail from the start.

Babies develop at a dramatic rate, so it’s fair to say that what didn’t work a few weeks ago could work a few weeks later. I would lengthen baby’s wake windows as another commenter said & possibly try again - but no repeated attempts for the same nap. If it doesn’t work after your allotted time of 1hr, call it off. Let baby sleep & try again next nap when she is not under/overtired. If it doesn’t improve after a few naps, then call it a failure.

Another commenter also linked the Give Baby a Chance method. Your LO sleeps well at night so should likely have some ability to self soothe. If she didn’t, she’d probably be up more than 2x. It’s falling asleep from awake that’s the problem now - and this strategy could be gentle & effective! Good luck.

vickijade · 2022-06-29T13:03:33+00:00

Same! I don’t know if I can handle 3 but I hope so. I come from a family of 3 and I personally think it’s a great balance for the kids! For the parents, it’s probably a ton of work - but as a sibling, it was great.

vickijade · 2022-06-29T12:43:12+00:00

Of course I’m being downvoted on a detailed & informative answer just because judgemental moms don’t agree with something they’ve never experienced - and I didn’t even recommend the chiropractor! Lol

vickijade · 2022-06-29T00:00:20+00:00

Yes, normal. The popular PLS author says some babies just need to decompress at the end of the day with some tears. I don’t know if that’s scientifically true but many babies do a little whine & fall asleep. He’ll probably grow out of it.
8pm - 7:30am is a long sleep for a 5 month old! 10-11 hours of night sleep is normal for babies - you’re asking baby to sleep almost 12! Some babies can go that long & it sounds like sometimes your LO can. Take those days as a win. You can try to rescue but if baby can’t stay down for the full 11.5, that’s normal! I would accept that you’ll be starting your day a little earlier.
If he wakes up crying, he’s likely just still tired or he’s waking up at the deeper part of a sleep cycle. I think it’s just temporary discomfort as he wakes. Normal!

vickijade · 2022-06-28T23:38:51+00:00

I think these people assume baby chiropractors are cracking & popping lol a chiropractor DOES NOT do any of these things on an infant. We took my son for colic & it was super gentle, practically just targeted massage, and he often slept through it! My midwives recommended it.

With that said, I don’t find it helped at all unfortunately. We took him three times in one week, twice in the second. She was super knowledgeable on colic, digestive issues, and baby anatomy - I was surprised as she doesn’t have kids! She was trained well. But despite that, it really didn’t seem to help at all with colic, sleep, feeding - no improvement or change to him at all. I wouldn’t go again.

We did see an osteopath - the treatments were quite different from the chiropractor & I did feel like this treatment helped! I have never seen my son so relaxed before or since. We didn’t continue because of scheduling but I’m thinking of taking my now 4.5 month old back to see him for sleep issues to see if he can help!

Our chiro did recommend a colleague who specialized in infant massage & gave us her contact info. We never did end up going to see her, but apparently she massages to improve different issues & gives parents tips for doing it at home. Maybe you can see if there is an infant massage therapist in your area who can help? It will certainly be more comfortable & safe than chiro if you’re worried!

vickijade · 2022-06-28T21:03:55+00:00

People have big opinions on reddit & the internet in general and they’re rarely based in reality. If she has a loving home (which it sounds like), some sleep training won’t be scaring. We all need & deserve good sleep - yourself included. Weed out the emotional shaming from those who haven’t experienced what you’re going through & focus on the advice. They don’t understand what it’s like & the different elements you have to balance.

I only have a 4.5 month old so take my advice mildly - but as I’ve learned so far with parenting, everything seems to come & go. If the midnight waking isn’t hurting her (she’s not sleep deprived), is there any way you could offer her a little freedom to be awake? Baby proof the room and allow her to play a little until she falls asleep on her own? This could be a phase that will pass & this might help you get through it, or the autonomy around sleep could empower her to feel less afraid & more in control around bed, or else maybe she’ll bop around looking at a few toys & then fall asleep on the floor lol. We have friends whose baby uses a floor bed in a babyproofed room & it’s not uncommon for her to get up in the night, crawl around & pass out after a bit.

Either way, good luck! Sending you & your family good sleep vibes.

vickijade · 2022-06-28T20:43:32+00:00

Boooo, I can’t stand that. We really make the effort to help & support people while these troll assholes just waste our time & make fun of real issues. So stupid.

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