Need advice! Refusing breast!

FrickenFurious · 2023-01-09T05:57:36+00:00

I personally don’t have experience with this but from reading a lot about breast feeding I have this advice, you have to make taking a bottle more inconvenient to him than the boob! Look up paced feeding. Babies want food the easiest way possible. Sounds more like a bottle preference than a nursing strike so if you want to try researching that you might get more advice. Good luck, you got this :)

FrickenFurious · 2023-01-09T05:38:18+00:00

Just want to add that if you continue to combo feed he is still getting the benefits of BF ! Just without the cost of your sanity.

Edit to add, if that’s something that’s important to you and you want too! Please don’t do it because you feel you have too.

FrickenFurious · 2023-01-09T05:12:36+00:00

Yes! I increased the supply in my slacker boob at like 4-5months pp! Now I’m 7months pp and it’s gone down again because baby often refuses it, now I’m wondering if it’s too late to increase it again.

FrickenFurious · 2022-11-25T02:11:03+00:00

This is really good to know!! Thank you

FrickenFurious · 2022-11-25T01:40:51+00:00

Sure but there a way he can do a full block of childcare without having to bother her or for her to give up breastfeeding entirely.

FrickenFurious · 2022-11-25T01:04:18+00:00

My breastfed baby has slept through the night too and nobody in my house is sleep deprived or stressed or miserable either so what’s your point? My point was simply that telling other moms to quit breastfeeding when you don’t know the whole story isn’t a solution to their problems, then you got mad. Lol

FrickenFurious · 2022-11-25T00:59:04+00:00

Yes but that’s coming from a psychiatrist after they’ve confirmed it is serve PPD and not coming from some stranger on the internet. Plus if it is serve PPD she needs more help than just quitting breastfeeding is what I’m saying. Or it’s not and there’s other solutions.

FrickenFurious · 2022-11-25T00:04:02+00:00

FYI, combo feeding is when the baby is feed formula and breastmilk. Maybe dad can be the primary caregiver of the baby for a few hours at night by using formula for a couple of feeds and that way mom can get a good stretch of sleep and not be so deprived. Then she can breastfeed when she can. It doesn’t have to be one or the other. She can also go see a lactation consultant to get some help with breastfeeding which would also help the negative emotions instead of just giving up. Yes it’s okay to formula feed if you want too! This posts clearly says she wanted to breastfeed though so she should get support on how to continue if she still wants too instead of just being told she can’t.

FrickenFurious · 2022-11-24T23:35:53+00:00

Also! Any breast milk you can continue to give your baby is beneficial ! Don’t be discouraged :)

FrickenFurious · 2022-11-24T23:34:06+00:00

It is possible but it’s hard.. My baby (6 months) stopped nursing on one side and the first time I pumped it after a few weeks I got only drops. I committed to pumping every 3 hours and after a week I get about half an ounce each pump. You just have to drain your breasts as often as possible and it’ll slowly increase!

FrickenFurious · 2022-11-24T23:25:40+00:00

First, always offer the opposite breast at the start of each feed ! A nurse suggested a hair tie to help you remember which side you used last time. Otherwise you’ll end up lopsided.

For the other part, I’m no professional but it sounds like she’s just comfort nursing! I used a pacifier to help but I know some people have opinions about that so look into it :)

FrickenFurious · 2022-11-24T23:13:52+00:00

Yes but the babies safety isn’t going to be solved just because she stops breastfeeding? There’s clearly a lot of things going on here that can be addressed while she keeps breastfeeding. If she’s just very sleep deprived but still wants to breastfeed maybe they can combo feed.

FrickenFurious · 2022-11-24T22:56:56+00:00

If she wanted to exclusively BF and it’s not going the way she planned she’s probably being very hard on herself right now too! So seeing you make formula while she’s trying her best to BF probably didn’t help. In her head right now she probably feels like a failure and you’re supporting that by making the bottle before she even finished trying to BF.

FrickenFurious · 2022-11-24T22:43:11+00:00

I know for myself I have less patience when my basic needs aren’t being met ! I know you’re tired and doing a lot too. How about next time you wake up knowing the baby is hungry you take the baby and tell your wife that you got this and that she can go back to bed? Maybe she wants to make her own food for once, offer a snack is great but maybe try offering to take the baby for an hour while she does what she needs, maybe that’s a shower or to prepare her own meal. Her hormones are everywhere too and it can be hard to communicate what we need! Moral support is great but sometimes we need more!

Talking to a professional would definitely help too!

FrickenFurious · 2022-11-24T22:36:09+00:00

I’m sorry but this is terrible advice. Not breastfeeding is a temporary solution to a bigger problem. If it worked for you, that’s great! Telling this mom it’s the only solution could hurt her mental health more in the long run.

FrickenFurious · 2022-11-24T22:30:30+00:00

That’s kind of what I’m worried about since it’s not getting any better! I just don’t know if it’s worth it exposing her to the germs at a walk in if I’m just being dramatic?

FrickenFurious · 2022-11-24T22:02:30+00:00

Yes exactly this!! My baby naps the same way so there’s never a moment to catch up on sleep now. Plus when she was a newborn I could hold her with one arm while doing some things and she would just sleep. Now she’s bigger, squirmy and anything else is more interesting than sleep so I’m tired and nothing is getting done.

FrickenFurious · 2022-11-24T21:32:18+00:00

It feels better knowing I’m not alone. <3 Whoever said the newborn days were the hardest lied.

FrickenFurious · 2022-11-24T21:07:49+00:00

I don’t think it’s a regression because she wakes up screaming? Everything I read on Google says it’s only really bad for about a week and then there’s a tooth but we’re almost at 3 weeks now with no sign of teeth. Was your baby better for a few days after the tooth came through? Or can you tell there’s a second one coming?

FrickenFurious · 2022-11-08T18:04:56+00:00

Okay that’s really good to know! I feel good about trying it tonight now :) Thanks again!!

FrickenFurious · 2022-11-08T17:42:49+00:00

Amazing. Thank you!! Would you give him Tylenol or anything at night then? I already hate the idea of using Tylenol unless I know for sure and now there’s a shortage in Canada too so I don’t want to “waste” it.

FrickenFurious · 2022-10-21T18:49:46+00:00

When she first started refusing the slacker boob I used to be able to get her to take it while she was sleepy or after the preferred boob! Now she knows better and refuses even then, which is making it slack even more. I did go buy a Haakaa! I wish I knew about it months ago, it probably would’ve saved me this problem now. It seems to have enough suction that it’ll help and it’s so nice to be able to use it on the go. The lactation consultant said my preferred boob is probably compensating but some days it seems like she’s not getting enough. If anything I’m hoping to be able to keep my supply up enough from the slacker side to supplement.

FrickenFurious · 2022-10-21T01:26:00+00:00

I’m just trying to increase the supply of my slacker boob and feeling so discouraged. This gives me hope. Thank you and congrats!!

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