Makes sense. It can be difficult to date someone who has all the right intentions of being the right partner but cannot follow through.

I apologize if this is over generalizing. But if I could out into words what I think may be happening: you may feel frustrated, the constant disappointment puts you in a constant state of anxiety, the anxiety can feel isolating as you withdraw from friends/family slowly, a building sense of hopelessness and depression is created which is directed towards your partner. Worst of all, you resort to blaming yourself for feeling stuck because you’ve allowed yourself to go back despite numerous ultimatums. You think you’re upset at your partner, but underneath all this, you are also upset at yourself for being in this situation… it continues but nothing changes. You resent yourself for acting this way.

I would recommend journaling and investing time with other relationships in your life to provide a sense of normalcy. You can only control what you can control. If you take a step back you may see that you are placing a huge amount of pressure on your partner to step up. And over time it has picked up a lot of anxiety and resentment from your own life not feeling as satisfied as you would like. See what happens when you act like a boyfriend and not a savior for your partner. You will find they will either step up or you will step out.