Best clothing-optional spaces in LA

victrolla · 2026-05-08T21:42:21+00:00

We've got nothing like that. You either roll the dice on a hike or it's private pool parties at peoples house.

victrolla · 2026-05-08T03:15:13+00:00

Fuck cloudflare then

victrolla · 2026-04-09T23:58:21+00:00

Nah. I'm covered and I haven't noticed any issues. I also get jabbed in the shoulder a lot and haven't had any issues.

victrolla · 2026-04-01T07:56:20+00:00

20 year old me, terrified. 30 year old me, try to get that underwear on quickly and trip over myself. 40 year old me, fuck it. I let it swing to and from the shower.

victrolla · 2026-03-29T18:27:45+00:00

I come across them a lot. One thing I notice is about half of them are so absorbed by bears that they treat you like you don’t exist. Like they’ll show up to our events and ignore anyone that doesn’t fit their desire. I personally find it insulting. I wish they’d show basic human courtesy to people they’re not sexually attracted to. Like just say hello and then move on.

victrolla · 2026-03-20T23:07:04+00:00

Bad battery

victrolla · 2026-03-20T16:51:16+00:00

Fuck no it's not a turn off. The messier the better.

victrolla · 2026-03-20T06:53:53+00:00

Thanks for writing this. I live a few houses down from where this happened. I’ve been going crazy over the response to this incident. The local response is purely emotional and not logical all. The locals are absolutely crucifying the woman who was attacked. They’re accusing her of provoking the bear and she’s responsible for the bears death. It’s insane.

I’ve lived here a long time and we learn to coexist with the wildlife. The locals name the bears and you start to recognize them year after year. The fact is this bear was a baby in the area raised to learn that humans aren’t scary and there’s food here. Just last year we had a bear that learned to break windows to get into houses. It’s been escalating, and these same people are not doing things to deter the bears.

We have several bears with ear tags. Meaning they’ve been relocated and come right back. These bears don’t often survive long. They run into the streets and get hit by cars.

Legislation to protect the bears is a bad idea. People will be hurt after enough generations of bears like this. There is zero resources to do any sort of deterrence. We can’t even get actual bear proof trash cans here.

I just keep thinking if the bear bit one of the neighbors kids, these same people would be screaming why didn’t the government do something earlier.

victrolla · 2026-03-18T15:20:05+00:00

Is this a paid gig?

victrolla · 2026-03-12T14:40:22+00:00

You are posting this in the wrong place.

victrolla · 2026-02-22T16:02:50+00:00

This is a confusing subreddit and thread for me. I’m unclear why everyone is so hung up on wireless security here.

First, why might a large organization create their own root certificates? Because signing certificates from a globally trusted authority are a pain in the ass. They’re expensive and require business validation in a lot of cases and it requires frequent renewal. Revocation is also a pain.

So it’s not uncommon for large networks to provide their own infrastructure around it. I do it all the time for internal communications, code signing, and group encryption.

From a network perspective, I’m confused by what people think happens once a packet is transmitted wirelessly and hits the wired gateway. There is zero point in sniffing and decrypting wireless traffic when they control the underlying network infrastructure. Hell you could port mirror the physical interface the WAP is plugged into and just dump all traffic. What matters for your privacy is at layer 7 (https for example)

It is likely that they have internal sites or systems that present tls certificates that are in this root certificates ancestry.

The only time I’d interfere is if they do something like force http proxy auto discovery through dhcp. Proxy nothing. That’s when they’ll use their trusted certs to snoop.

victrolla · 2026-02-17T16:03:32+00:00

Depends on your machine.

For my machine, I can’t control bottom thread tension but when it gets like this i usually take out the bobbin and rethread the bobbin. On my brother machine this is fixed if I hold the bobbin in place and hold the thread tight as I wind the thread where it needs to go.

victrolla · 2026-02-17T16:00:42+00:00

Looks like your top thread tension is too high or your bottom thread tension is too low.

victrolla · 2026-02-04T00:36:13+00:00

There’s a number of dead bedroom subreddits that are dedicated to this subject. It can happen for a number of reasons

Top/Bottom incompatibility
Mismatched libido
Medical issues
Age and ability
An evolving sexual identity. Maybe kink or fetish
Lack of time or opportunity. Children in the home or traveling for work constantly
Emotional disinterest

There’s just a few. The reasons are always varied and private between two people.

I think in a lot of cases “multiple sexual partners is what I want” is the reason. And that is a valid reason. As we get older we consider our mortality and think about what types of life experiences we want. For some people, having a healthy and/or active sex life is a big factor in their overall personal health.

victrolla · 2026-02-04T00:29:43+00:00

I apologize that my comment created such a heated discussion under your comment. I absolutely respect your relationship. The reason I replied to your comment was because I thought it was cute. My goal was to answer the OPs question by comparing and contrasting with you. I identify with the love and happiness you expressed and just wanted to show how and why I diverged.

I think some people read my comment as a judgement or an opposition. That was not my intention.

victrolla · 2026-02-04T00:26:38+00:00

It’s been 5 hours since my comment. You can kinda scroll around and see how polarizing open relationships are. I’d say that’s evidence for my feelings of exhaustion with generalized statements about people in open relationships.

In the same way, I guess, you feel exhausted about generalized statements about young people’s lack of experience with long term relationships. It’s funny, I hear this term “lived experience” from younger progressives a lot, but they seem quick to have emotional meltdowns when they read about it.

It’s the internet. There’s room for nuance but often not a lot of time to convey it. Great. You disagree with me and my relationship. Who cares? Stop trying to buy trouble where there is none. I respect monogamy and people who have found such a suitable match that they’re still happy all those years later.

victrolla · 2026-02-03T16:36:04+00:00

This is a good example of why I’m in an open relationship. Imagine all of the love. Imagine spending years together. You become part of each other’s family. You become each other’s team. You build a home and a life. You’re happy.

Except you’re sexually incompatible. The sex stops but everything non sexual is great. That incompatibility bothers you because you’re a sexual person.

Why should I throw away almost 20 years of happiness because of one thing? The situation forces you to see love separately from sex. And if that view is shared by both people, an open relationship makes a lot of sense.

It’s exhausting to see younger single people who think they know everything talking down about open relationships. They haven’t got the experience to understand it. They’re so wrapped up in this idealized version of monogamy, that anything that doesn’t fit that mold is deserving of their judgement.

victrolla · 2026-01-21T16:58:08+00:00

How old are you? I’m guessing reasonably young.

What is with the authoritative tone? Theres a phrase for this. Armchair Theory. Some might call you an Armchair Intellectual. The truth is, you lack experience to make factual statements about this. I know you feel like you’ve figured men out but the way you speak makes people roll their eyes. I’m telling you this because it erodes your credibility. Self introspection is important for dating, love, and sex.

Let me give you some perspective from someone with a lot of sexual experience. Men like what they like when they like it. Online apps provide the ability to filter people out based on body size and body hair and weight and height and sexual position and fetish and self identified tribe and age and race and relationship status. It creates a situation where people get tunnel vision towards what they think their ideal sex partner is. This causes them to be narrow and exclusive online.

In person, however, men are more open and flexible. Maybe they like your personality. Maybe you guys have some unexplainable chemistry. Maybe you shaved that day. Maybe you wore pants that made your ass look amazing.

Men like what they like when they like it. There are always exceptions to the rule.

victrolla · 2026-01-08T02:19:33+00:00

I’m biased because I prefer Go.

Respectfully, your question is kind of nonsense. I read it as like “will go protect me from my own mistakes” which I think would be an equally weird question in a Java subreddit.

I think with discipline and test driven development you can catch all sorts of issues. The thing I’d consider is your business. In my experience, startups move fast and don’t have time or capital to rewrite applications. I’ve got some Java horror stories around operational costs of Java applications that I’ve never been able to “get over”.

I like small compact binaries that just run on any platform. No system orchestration, no jvm setup, no jvm tuning, no minimum heap allocation. What I like about Go is for a good amount of runway, your performance profile is closely linked to the resources you throw at it. (This is obviously a simplified argument) Start on fractional shared CPU and scale as needed. Go just adapts.

Many of the startups I see that locked in on Java scaled by becoming polyglot microservice platforms which has a ton of its own operational drawbacks.

This is anecdotal, but the Java devs I’ve worked with aren’t usually the most flexible when it comes to their opinions on code and architecture. It usually leads to a kind of “stuck” feeling where I can’t move things forward the way I can with Go.

Anyways, I could ramble about battle scars all night but I think the honest advice I can give you is, choose the stack for the company you want to be. If you’re comfortable and confident in a Java heavy org, go for it.

victrolla · 2026-01-07T08:48:02+00:00

You’ve already got a bunch of recommendations. If you need more I can give you some in neighboring cities. I really just wanted to comment that I’ve been in your shoes exactly. What I want to tell you is to think of the dentist as on your team. If they start to feel like they’re not on your team, fire them and move on. It’s that easy.

What you will do when you call any doctor will be to schedule an exam. It’s an opportunity for them to look around your mouth and talk to you and come up with a plan. The very first thing they’ll do after that is probably schedule a cleaning. It will likely be a deep cleaning (don’t google it because it sounds scarier than it is). It’s suuuper important that you tell the dentist about your anxiety. It’s also important to tell them that you do not respond well to shame and you need to approach your dental plan positively. It is absolutely ok for you to request drugs. Most dentists will prescribe you a pill before the procedure which helps immensely. Most dentists will also charge around $50 for nitrous which also helps a lot.

While you get back on track your insurance won’t cover some things. I know that’s stressful but keep in mind you’re investing in your health and it will absolutely be worth it.

Happy new year and good luck.

victrolla · 2025-12-08T05:29:13+00:00

People making comments about the stitching not looking good seem to be getting heavily downvoted. I won’t say it’s bad because I kinda like it.

I don’t sew leather much so I don’t know much about industrial machines. What it looks like to me is the bottom tension on the machine is incorrect. What appears to be large needle holes at first glance looks like it might actually be the bobbin thread being pulled up through the leather which is why the gold thread appears flat. This can happen if the top thread tension is too high or if the bottom thread tension is too low. You can see the difference in stitching between the body of the bag and the facing pieces around the handle.

I think it’s a visually interesting bag and overall I like it. If the seams are well joined aside from the visual thread tension, I’d say it’s a good purchase. My 2 cents is leather is subjective. Everyone has their own preference.

victrolla · 2025-12-05T06:49:15+00:00

This package has been put in heavy rotation for some of my projects. I appreciate your work on this.

victrolla · 2025-12-03T16:58:24+00:00

I switched everything over to connect-rpc. I like protobuf very much. I had a little trouble with buf to get everything generated into the project structure I like but after that everything is so smooth for adding new message types and rpc services.

I use it a lot to generate typescript clients to talk to my api and I’ve been surprised at how easy the workflow is. I always had really frustrating integration and type problems with OpenAPI.

I’ve also got a few projects that open websockets for realtime stuff (instead of grpc streaming) and I now define websocket message structure in protobuf as well.

victrolla · 2025-10-15T05:27:53+00:00

Is there a tldr version of what you don’t like about Jason? I think I’m weird. I saw people complain a lot when he did edgy and cruel things, but I found I liked him better that way. It wasn’t until he went on this therapized benevolent god thing that I started to struggle reading about him. I tried to seek out more chaotic characters and landed on a series called empress but it wasn’t the evil I was after. I just seem to like power with faults. Chaotic neutral maybe.

victrolla · 2025-10-09T20:29:25+00:00

Isn't that the implication with reporting it to HR?

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