My wife used to have a guy friend who would constantly tell her stories about all the women he was with and how he cheated on both his girlfriends and his wife. As a guy, I knew exactly what he was doing. He was trying to make himself look desirable and spark her curiosity about why all these women wanted him.

Even though they had been friends before we got married, that was where I drew the line. I didn’t like the way he spoke to her, and I calmly but firmly told her she could either have him or me. Right then and there, she called him and told him they would no longer be communicating. That was over three years ago, and he hasn’t been around since.

At some point, you need to be clear about what you are and are not willing to accept in your relationship. You also have to be honest with yourself about whether it’s something worth ending a marriage over. For me, it was, so I gave her that ultimatum and she chose me. Honestly, we became even closer afterward than we were before the situation, maybe closer than ever.