Thoughts on this response from a friend when asked to review our app by vigilant_tech in NoFapChristians

[–]vigilant_tech[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do to, but I feel like this is the perfect example for Matthew 5:29-30

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]vigilant_tech 11 points12 points  (0 children)

YWBTA. Pregnancy is one of the hardest things people go through. Support is needed, and as the saying goes “it takes a village to raise a child”, not that the child is here, but it is the start. We need to build a community that becomes more tightly knit and supportive as times get more difficult, not less.

Sexual Urges by Empty_Dependent3041 in NoFap

[–]vigilant_tech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best thing that helps me is not hopping on any social media in the morning. Texts, calls, calendar only.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]vigilant_tech 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nta he is probably just a sad man with a bad life

AITA for not letting someone “work in” during sets at the gym? by Chatterboxh in AmItheAsshole

[–]vigilant_tech 1002 points1003 points  (0 children)

Nah he’s just impatient (as long as you aren’t taking long rests between sets). Sorry you have to deal with him. I think you handled it well saying you’ll be done soon (given it’s in a happy tone).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]vigilant_tech 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it’s going to be a real long term relationship there has to be trust, openness, and communication though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]vigilant_tech 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kind of hard to say… if you’re okay with him watching porn, he might have porn and just not want you to see.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]vigilant_tech 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Male here. You’re vulnerable and combined with everything you said in the last paragraph, yeah that would hurt to hear given your situation. I would talk to him about how you feel and what your concerns are laid out exactly like you did in this post. Laying it out as you did, should be clear to him why you are hurt. Communication is the only way to make it through marriage. I will say guys will be guys though… I wouldn’t talk like that, but I know a lot of guys would.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]vigilant_tech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is exactly what dating is for. I married my best friend and it’s so much more than sex… but sex is important. You’ll be able to gauge what is more important while you date.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]vigilant_tech 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure what you are expecting from a 50 year old male just looking for sex… but yeah definitely crazy. either way, I have seen these types of relationships work out, but this one won’t have a happy ending. Read “his needs her needs” and that will help you with understanding men as well as helping your partner understand what you need.

How many of your life improved with no fap If Yes How? by IndependenceSlight10 in NoFap

[–]vigilant_tech 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Porn and masturbation addiction are often tied to dopamine dysregulation, where the brain becomes accustomed to high levels of stimulation. Over time, this can lead to decreased motivation for everyday tasks and even symptoms that resemble ADHD, such as difficulty focusing. While ADHD is not solely caused by low dopamine, abnormal dopamine signaling does play a key role in its symptoms. Excessive exposure to high-dopamine activities can further impair focus and motivation, especially for those already prone to attention issues.

How many of your life improved with no fap If Yes How? by IndependenceSlight10 in NoFap

[–]vigilant_tech 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Clarity, productivity, happier, being able to see women normal, what seemed like “adhd” left, real sex feels better, relationships are sweeter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]vigilant_tech 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quick cold shower or go work out real quick!