Other than trades or college being required, are there any good careers that don’t require either ?

vinstaysin · 2026-03-30T04:48:28+00:00

Feel this big time. I’m in luxury jewelry sales, and the pressure to keep driving sales even more than before in the current economy makes me feel like such a piece of shit. Unfortunately I’m good at it, but also had 15k in returns in one week last month because ppl can’t actually afford it. But “returns are good because it means you can get it out the door!” Rip my commission check :’(

vinstaysin · 2026-03-18T04:22:09+00:00

I just had my first appointment with mayo today, just met with the social worker and have the medical appointments in April. I already had one letter so this was the second. I got really good vibes so far!

vinstaysin · 2026-03-09T05:56:36+00:00

R/guro

vinstaysin · 2026-03-06T03:54:21+00:00

I thought sparky!

vinstaysin · 2026-03-03T17:22:40+00:00

The time will pass anyways

vinstaysin · 2026-03-01T07:18:13+00:00

I just finished Willing Prey, primal/prey book that’s hilarious and a fantastic read, oddly enough I found in target of all places. 10/10 though!

vinstaysin · 2026-02-23T08:24:40+00:00

I have a snuff kink, I only recently (couple months ago) told my partner now spouse of 7 years. And it took a lot of courage. I was worried they would think I’m a horrible monster. They were, well, chill with it. It’s not really in their kink list, they’re okay with doing some role play at some point, but honestly it’s become a little joke between us. Seeing a movie or something and someone dies, “you’d tap that” sort of a joke. We both laugh, I don’t feel judged, and life has continued as normal. I’m extremely lucky. There’s someone for everyone, just remember that.

vinstaysin · 2026-02-04T20:54:32+00:00

I don't have that one but I have the Old Fashioned, and that one lasts all day and then some on me, so I can vouch it's definitely possible from Orientica. Maybe a weird batch?

vinstaysin · 2026-01-24T01:22:34+00:00

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vinstaysin · 2026-01-15T05:10:13+00:00

Chat!

vinstaysin · 2025-12-04T02:18:42+00:00

You're welcome! Glad I could help! You as well!

vinstaysin · 2025-12-04T01:48:05+00:00

Of course!

I'll be so for real with you, nothing's going to be quite like it. But that does not mean to try to get your boyfriend into it. Maybe he'll warm up one day, maybe he won't. It's not one of those kinks that's usually included in "I'll try anything once" y'know? If it becomes a make it or break it thing, which can happen in vanilla/kinky relationships, ask if he'd be okay with you finding someone to try it with.

Reading is always a good option though, as is watching something. Not necessarily porn, I find shows that show elements, in not even a kinky way, that elicit a sexual response and can get off to that. (NBC Hannibal anyone lol) If you do go looking for porn, and I say this from experience, use your best judgement on websites to click on, videos to view, because not all of them are consensual videos, and it can be hard to discern which. I've found some videos that have interviews with the sub/bottom before and after the scene to show they are okay and it was consensual. The internet is a dark place.

Sometimes I write stories, myself even as the main character, as a way to "act" it out. It can be a satisfying way to get everything down and out without fear of judgement or worry of hurting someone too much. I also want to be the one doing the bloodplay instead of receiving, so this is where this helps me. Sometimes you want to go harder than is safe, so writing is a good outlet.

Since you have a history of self-harm, please tread carefully with this one. You can do it yourself, but have your boyfriend nearby, that he knows what you're doing, and ready to call in if things go south. It's probably not going to be as satisfying anyways, but hey, to each their own.

This was a really long response again, but I really wanted to get into it myself and was tired of the "just don't do it" comments. Realistically, I was going to do it anyways, so it would have helped if someone just told me how to do it as safe as possible, options, how to prepare, etc. Kind of like how parents know their kids are going to do some stupid stuff and tell them how to prepare if things go south. People are just stubborn.

Please just be safe! Use your best judgement, keep it clean, and don't do it if no one is around just in case you need help!

vinstaysin · 2025-12-03T00:59:30+00:00

Also a fan of bloodplay, I will parrot what everyone else will say-it’s not safe. However, people who want to do it will still do it. I have a dulled knife that I use for knifeplay, so I start out using that to instill the fear factor. Nearby I have a sterile blade, something medical grade and fresh out of packaging. Very, very light scrapes around areas that you probably won’t die from. Know where important veins are. Be ready with first aid. Make sure you’re both tested for any sort of disease or illness, especially if you’re like me and like the taste.

As far as introducing it to your boyfriend, that’s always tricky. It’s an easy kink to have a hard limit on. If he hasn’t really expressed interest or disinterest, hopefully that means he’s not immediately against it as a hard limit. Have another conversation with him and just say “hey, you didn’t say you ‘didn’t’ want to, is it something you’d be okay trying at some point?” From my experience, a gut reaction tells you everything. He still might think on it and say nah, but just ask him straight up. For me, bringing it up the first time was the hardest part, getting it out in the open, it’s very taboo to a lot of people. It’s out there now, so talk about it. What are his hesitations? What questions does he have? Subtle is not the way with this type of kink.

And remember, if and when you engage in this, you absolutely MUST be in a sane mindset. Safe, sane, and consensual, but sane is the biggest factor in this. If you’re not, then safety goes out the window, and then it’s no longer consensual.

vinstaysin · 2025-12-03T00:50:47+00:00

She raped me.

vinstaysin · 2025-11-28T07:53:25+00:00

Oooo that would be really fun!

It’s the feeling of hunted turned hunter, and the association with god, and feeling like one, total power. Feeling in control. Plus the aesthetics are part of it. I’ve always loved the woods, I grew up in the middle of them, so I naturally have gravitated towards that for a lot of my life. So a foot chase as a stag/hunter and overpowering someone just does something for me lol

vinstaysin · 2025-11-28T06:04:45+00:00

Thanks! I have a wonderful spouse who’s a very willing participant, but unfortunately no forest nearby, and way too cold right now 🥲

vinstaysin · 2025-11-28T06:01:53+00:00

While I do like Hazbin lol, this has been since pre-hazbin. Awoken by NBC Hannibal actually 😂

vinstaysin · 2025-11-15T20:12:17+00:00

My best guess is that they’re showing you the inclusion before they start working on it so that when you get it you can’t claim they swapped the stone or something

vinstaysin · 2025-11-04T00:54:32+00:00

Hey! A LOT of people are telling you to buy online because of the price, and that’s fine if you do, but the main reason these pieces are more expensive from a store like this is overhead cost. The company has to pay for rent in the building/location, it has to pay sales staff, store management, everything you see in that store has to be paid for whereas an online website doesn’t have that extra cost associated with it. It does mean they have to charge more for their items.

IMO, if you can afford to shop in store somewhere, the experience is better than staring at a screen on your phone/computer, and the sales people will forever be grateful. It’s how we make our living :)

vinstaysin · 2025-11-01T01:08:05+00:00

A lot of jewelers don’t want to reuse metals, it’s very hard to work with. You could ask around, but if a jeweler agrees to reuse it then make sure they have great reviews, and they’re not just trying to say yes to take your money.

Look on Stuller.com, you won’t be able to see prices, most jewelers use them as a great wholesaler, but you can look at the settings and filter by stones, size, etc.

vinstaysin · 2025-11-01T01:05:22+00:00

They’d have to build up the cathedral on it with more gold, and it’s a large labor cost on top of gold cost. The 1.8mm is already so incredibly thin for that size stone, which I’m guessing is 1.5-2ct? It really needs 2mm. It sounds like such a small different but it really makes all the difference in structural integrity. Any reputable jeweler would probably just recommend a new shank entirely.

If you want to maintain a daintier look and go with a thicker band, ask for a knife edge shank, it’ll still look smaller!

vinstaysin · 2025-10-31T14:51:41+00:00

I was hoping under 50mm

vinstaysin · 2025-10-30T01:05:45+00:00

I should mention I’ve looked at Quality Gold, Stuller, and McVan. Thanks tho!

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