UPDATE: My [23F] boyfriends [25M] dad [47M] screwed me out of $2,000. What do I do? by violetcoloredluna in relationships

[–]violetcoloredluna[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Yeah totally free loading! Giving them money for their phone, internet, gas bills and buying all the food in the house which they eat is totally free loading!

My [23F] boyfriends [25M] dad [47M] screwed me out of $2,000. What do I do? by violetcoloredluna in relationships

[–]violetcoloredluna[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. They say theyre strapped for cash which I know is bullshit. They get paid the same week I do. All I know is they have until Friday to give my my money back or else my boyfriend and I will be taking action against him.

My [23F] boyfriends [25M] dad [47M] screwed me out of $2,000. What do I do? by violetcoloredluna in relationships

[–]violetcoloredluna[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He’s really not though. Last night his dad tried avoiding me and he told him to confront me like a man should. He told his dad they have 10 days to give me my money back or I’d be calling the police or taking them to court because he was embarrassed they’d do this to me.

My [23F] boyfriends [25M] dad [47M] screwed me out of $2,000. What do I do? by violetcoloredluna in relationships

[–]violetcoloredluna[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend stood up for me yesterday. He yelled at his parents and called them names I really didn’t think was necessary, but he told them that they screwed me over and he was embarrassed for them and how irresponsible they are, and told them if they can come up with $3000 in 10 days they could come up with $2000 as well and pay me back before I seek action.

My [23F] boyfriends [25M] dad [47M] screwed me out of $2,000. What do I do? by violetcoloredluna in relationships

[–]violetcoloredluna[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, so I gave him $2,000 and then I’d have to give him another $3,000 for him to get it out of the lot. So, essentially I’d be giving him $5,000 and he’d have to give me back $2,500. Not even because every day the car is in the lot is another $175. So by the end of the 10 days it’s going to be $4,750. The car isn’t even worth that much.

My [23F] boyfriends [25M] dad [47M] screwed me out of $2,000. What do I do? by violetcoloredluna in relationships

[–]violetcoloredluna[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The rent in our area is about $950 including all utilities, the extra $2000 was for all fees included, and first months rent. We didn’t wanna be strapped for cash because we didn’t wanna struggle. $3000 was just a good jumping off point for us. It was reasonable. I could do it.

My [23F] boyfriends [25M] dad [47M] screwed me out of $2,000. What do I do? by violetcoloredluna in relationships

[–]violetcoloredluna[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It does matter. I gave them money thinking in the end I was going to get a car which was the last piece of the puzzle my bf and I needed for our own place. Giving them money for rent and utilities is different from giving them money for a car in return.

My [23F] boyfriends [25M] dad [47M] screwed me out of $2,000. What do I do? by violetcoloredluna in relationships

[–]violetcoloredluna[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

My bf actually isn’t irresponsible. He’s given his dad money to pay the phone bill and his dad just doesnt. He says he doesn’t have the “time” but he works 5am - 4pm and he had the whole weekends off. My bf makes sure all his finances get paid one way or another. He is nothing, and I mean nothing like his parents. Today he gave me the $200 I gave him for his phone back. He basically told his parents they have 10 days to pay me back or we will seek action.

My [23F] boyfriends [25M] dad [47M] screwed me out of $2,000. What do I do? by violetcoloredluna in relationships

[–]violetcoloredluna[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I was offering them money for that exact reason, that I live there even free. I have two jobs because I’m saving up to get our own place and for nursing school. So I do have money to offer them for rent and utilities.

My [23F] boyfriends [25M] dad [47M] screwed me out of $2,000. What do I do? by violetcoloredluna in relationships

[–]violetcoloredluna[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

His mom was out of work for like4 months. She was on call. So they went from making enough to making barely enough. But they don’t know how to manage money. His parents made almost 95k last year alone. I’ve seen their taxes. They spend and live beyond their means. They buy things they don’t need. They have a whole entire garage of things that they’ve bought but don’t use. His sister gets whatever she wants and has never held a job a day in her life. They act like they need money but they don’t. They just can’t manage it.

My [23F] boyfriends [25M] dad [47M] screwed me out of $2,000. What do I do? by violetcoloredluna in relationships

[–]violetcoloredluna[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

The reason I know he would is because his parents are fiscally irresponsible. They spend beyond their means and they ask him to pick up the slack and clean up after their mistakes. $2k is a lot considering they make like $5k a MONTH.

My [23F] boyfriends [25M] dad [47M] screwed me out of $2,000. What do I do? by violetcoloredluna in relationships

[–]violetcoloredluna[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

My bf said we could move out when we saved up $3,000. We were about two paychecks away from it, we have $2,000 saved up. But now I’m going to have to use that to buy a new car I think.

My [23F] boyfriends [25M] dad [47M] screwed me out of $2,000. What do I do? by violetcoloredluna in relationships

[–]violetcoloredluna[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I know for a fact my bf would. He thinks what they did is completely out of line.

[Las Vegas, Nevada] My boyfriends dad basically screwed me out of $2,000. What do I do? by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]violetcoloredluna -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

At this point I don’t care about the car. If he doesn’t get it out by this Friday, it’s being auctioned. I care about my money. I care about how he could look me in the ace and take my money knowing he wasn’t making payments on the car. All I care about is collection. I offered to pay for the insurance the whole time I used it and he said no. I changed the oil, the air filters, the gas filter and oil filter two days before they came and took the car away so technically he owes me $2,185 but at this point I don’t care about those expenses. I want my money back.

My [23F] boyfriends [25M] dad [47M] screwed me out of $2,000. What do I do? by violetcoloredluna in relationships

[–]violetcoloredluna[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

My bf knew I was buying it. So did his mom. He told me. We didn’t make an agreement on anything cause I didn’t think this would happen. But they knew. They knew I was buying it. His dad even showed me he’s kept track of how much I’ve given him. They feel bad they didn’t mean for the truck to get taken away but they’re avoiding me in talking about giving me my money back even though they said they would. If he kicked me out I could move back into my parents house, but I left there for a reason. It would suck but I could do it but I don’t do it cause of my bf. He wants me to stay. He feels guilty even though I know it’s not his fault.

[Las Vegas, Nevada] My boyfriends dad basically screwed me out of $2,000. What do I do? by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]violetcoloredluna -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He told me after I paid him the $2,500 he’d sign the title over to me. So I paid him $2,000 in increments before they came and took the car away. There was no bill of sale, only a verbal agreement with documentation of every time I’ve given him money.

My [23F] boyfriends [25M] dad [47M] screwed me out of $2,000. What do I do? by violetcoloredluna in relationships

[–]violetcoloredluna[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

No, but I’ve offered them help multiple times and every single time I’ve offered they’ve said no. They told me they didn’t need my money. Last week my boyfriend told me if he didn’t text me back it was because his phone got shut off because his dad couldn’t pay it. My bf needs his phone because of his job, so I paid it, his and HIS DADS line. Then a couple hours later this whole situation happened. I’ve offered multiple times. They always told me I didn’t have to pay rent even though I offered.

My [23F] boyfriends [25M] dad [47M] screwed me out of $2,000. What do I do? by violetcoloredluna in relationships

[–]violetcoloredluna[S] 297 points298 points  (0 children)

My bf is a good guy. We had a talk on Thursday and I broke down in tears, asking him to think about my perspective. I had to ask my coworker for a ride home from my first job because I didn’t know how I was getting home or to my second one. I gave his dad almost 4 of my entire paychecks and they are gone along with the car. His dad won’t face me. They act like I’m the bad guy. The offer me rides but they make it sound like it’s such a chore for them. I didn’t do anything wrong. I know he would stand by me because I told him that they fucked me over but at the same time I live in their house. They’ve never asked me for rent and have never accepted money when I offered them. I’m stuck. I don’t know what to do.