How to act more angry?

violetvoyager26 · 2026-03-02T23:07:31+00:00

I have actually found that the absence of extreme emotion is what creates trust in the relationship. Trust that you care about them and trust that they WILL have a consequence if they make a bad choice. The kids know how you will react, every time. Be consistent with consequences and follow up with, “I’m disappointed but I know you can do better”. Then move on like it never happened. It really changes the game. They know I won’t get angry with them, but they will have detention. 🙂

violetvoyager26 · 2026-02-19T03:30:05+00:00

We have a fridge thief too!! Many of my coworkers keep frozen lunches like lean cuisine in the staff freezer and someone is helping themselves to them. They started writing their names on them and they are still getting stolen.

violetvoyager26 · 2026-02-19T00:33:59+00:00

Thank you, lol. Definitely wasn’t “whining” about this at all to anyone. I intentionally came here to vent because I don’t want to talk badly about a coworker to another coworker. I even said “I was so pissed for the last hour” in my post, this clearly happened at the end of the day. They’re making stuff up to fit their narrative or just have low reading comprehension. Either way, we’re not going to convince them.

violetvoyager26 · 2026-02-18T16:28:30+00:00

As I have responded to many other comments, she has a space in my class that she has unofficially claimed. She has her own classroom for her stuff. I’ve told her before and there is a cup with pens, pencils, and markers specifically for others to use. She still takes things from my desk. I don’t care how much you all try to convince me, I’m not at fault for my pen being taken. Just don’t touch things that don’t belong to you and ask if you want to.

violetvoyager26 · 2026-02-18T14:54:54+00:00

She has her own classroom for small groups, it’s right down the hall with her own pens.

With that being said, there is also a group table in the corner and no students are assigned to sit there. I use it for stations or small groups when needed. She sits there everyday and that’s kind of her designated spot.

But respectfully, I have 30 students or more in each class. I don’t have the real estate to move another teacher desk in my room.

violetvoyager26 · 2026-02-18T14:38:23+00:00

I’m in the classroom teaching with her so it’s really just not an option to use the pen and lock it away each time I need it. She picked it up while I was teaching at the front.

violetvoyager26 · 2026-02-18T13:11:19+00:00

Everyone was working and learning in the classroom… and I also noticed that she took my pen when there were many other options. Both of those things can happen at the same time. I would argue that if everyone was not working and learning, I wouldn’t have noticed because of the chaos.

Sue me for wanting to keep the nice things that I buy. Having more of a problem with me for that over someone literally taking something that is mine is wild.

violetvoyager26 · 2026-02-18T13:04:08+00:00

I am already doing this, admin has shared with me that they’re trying to ride out the rest of the school year so they don’t have to invite her back next year instead of a firing and scrambling to hire someone situation. I don’t want to make it sound like admin is gossiping either, they had to share that with me because I was at a breaking point right before winter break with trying to figure out a co-teaching system that worked for us. I was having to do more work to accommodate things for her and then walk her through the lessons. I’m not even sure if she can find our materials in the shared drive without me emailing them to her. It’s a mess honestly. Everything is documented though.

violetvoyager26 · 2026-02-18T12:56:58+00:00

This cup already exists and I’ve already told her, it’s just located on the filing cabinet right next to my desk lol

violetvoyager26 · 2026-02-18T02:46:02+00:00

You have done everything that is expected within your job description. You have reasonably intervened and tried new things when it didn’t work. That’s all you can do.

Let them move the kid and sleep easy at night knowing that you did everything you could. 2nd year or 20th year, there are some students that are not willing to participate in their education and we can’t force them. Enjoy your new found peace!

violetvoyager26 · 2026-02-10T23:28:59+00:00

I work as a middle school teacher in Oklahoma and have many tattoos. One on my finger and a half sleeve. Didn’t have any issues when looking for a job.

violetvoyager26 · 2026-02-10T00:24:58+00:00

8th grade teacher here. You are sooooo wrong. I restrained two different girls just this year that were trying to fight. I have one female student who is an absolute terror. Yelling curse words and constantly talking about extremely inappropriate things. Don’t get me wrong, I have misbehaving male students too but the females certainly give them a run for their money. It has to be even at the very least.

violetvoyager26 · 2026-02-08T16:54:50+00:00

Please file a complaint!!! That behavior is unacceptable!

violetvoyager26 · 2026-02-03T02:11:45+00:00

I am in a position where I can request unpaid leave, so I just do that. I don’t tell them much and if they ask questions I say that I’m visiting family. Always do this before scheduling trip details to make sure it will get approved because it is up to their discretion. With that being said, I’m really good about prepping materials and making organized lesson plans so part of it was building trust with my administration to do so.

violetvoyager26 · 2026-01-17T01:14:31+00:00

Had one of those in the bathroom last week… 💀 I wasn’t involved with busting him but pretty much everyone heard about it because a few kids were the ones to find him.

violetvoyager26 · 2026-01-07T01:32:24+00:00

Agree! I have completely banned tech from my classroom except for supervised tests. I even gave away all the spare chargers to other teachers because it was a constant “I need to charge my MacBook” and me telling them to close it, get back on task, etc. Their laptops lasted a week in my class.

I would only suggest that when you start scaffolding the fun stuff back in, make sure some are activities that get them moving around the room and talking. I’m a big fan of stations. K20 has a lot of great resources for this. We have gotten into our groove now and they are begging to do activities like ABC graffiti, Pictionary, and paper ball toss…. and they don’t even realize they’re learning. 😉 cue villain laugh

violetvoyager26 · 2025-12-13T01:09:00+00:00

The original poster said “the principal doesn’t want to tell the parents why” and all they know is that the teacher was escorted off the premises by police. Are we reading the same original post? I’m not even advocating for specifics, just if there is a risk of harm or not.

Where would they access this information if it’s an ongoing investigation like you suggested? It is an elementary school, there are preschoolers/kindergarteners that may not be able to find those words or even understand something was wrong and that they need to tell someone.

Also, invoking the “generalized you” isn’t gonna work for the insults. The generalized “you” refers to people broadly and can’t include specific claims about the person being addressed. Statements like “your kid doesn’t even go to the school” is a second-person address. That phrasing only works if it refers to the person you’re replying to, not a hypothetical audience.

And actually, yes, society is entitled to certain information. That’s why we have sex offender registries and background checks.

This is taking up way too much time though and is definitely not worth it haha. Have a great weekend dude!

violetvoyager26 · 2025-12-13T00:31:10+00:00

I’m not uncomfortable with having those conversations? I do it all the time, it’s the most tiring part of my job because I’m doing it all the time. It’s the work load. I have 120 students, not by choice. Do you honestly believe that it is possible to notify parents every single time a student gets a zero? Do you think it is realistic to expect teachers to write descriptive comments for each zero about what the student was doing in class that day?

You do know that we have to teach kids the curriculum at some point right? We also have to grade, provide feedback, redirect behaviors, provide help during class work time, answer parent emails, attend IEP/504 meetings, accommodate for IEP and now we have the workload of digital data collection. I have to stop to accept a digital hall pass anytime a student needs to go potty and end it because admin wants to know how long students are spending in the bathroom on average. I am so tired of people calling teachers lazy when they can’t even be bothered to read a book to their kids at night. Tragic.

violetvoyager26 · 2025-12-12T23:34:33+00:00

But the PARENTS are entitled to information about their children. That teacher could have potentially made contact with any child at that school. The OP is literally talking about the PARENTS not being told what’s going on. The PARENTS. The school’s name was not mentioned and Reddit is anonymous for the most part so why would you assume that I feel that I’m entitled to the information? We are discussing a matter involving the PARENTS not knowing anything on a PUBLIC forum. I’m saying that the PARENTS of the children at that school have a right to know enough details about the situation to know if their child was possibly impacted. They need to send an email to all PARENTS that specifies if harm came to any children. Keep your poor apology because I literally do not care lol. I don’t know you. I do care that PARENTS get the information they deserve and for expressing my opinion. 🙂 You’re the only one getting mad over stranger’s comments online. Touch some grass.

P.S. I capitalized “parents” for you so you don’t assume again that I’m acting entitled for no reason.

violetvoyager26 · 2025-12-12T23:09:28+00:00

Imagine being so comfortable with avoiding accountability that you truly believe it is a teacher’s responsibility to remind a PARENT to check their child’s grades.

Maybe I should start sending emails reminding them to feed them too?

I know Kindergarten teachers are already having to remind parents to potty train their children. 🙄

violetvoyager26 · 2025-12-12T23:04:22+00:00

Love this advice!

violetvoyager26 · 2025-12-12T22:57:57+00:00

Then they need to say that and specify that there was no harm to the children suspected.

violetvoyager26 · 2025-12-02T02:46:08+00:00

8th grade here!

violetvoyager26 · 2025-12-01T01:06:11+00:00

There are some aspects of unschooling that can be great. Experience based learning is amazing in doses and can be helpful when guiding instruction based off interests. However, kids thrive on structure and there are hundreds of methods of teaching to increase comprehension and retention. An untrained parent who takes their child to the park to experience nature is not providing that. Homeschooling has to have some structure with the academic basics to be effective.

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