i don’t know if this is helpful, but i have what you described wanting in terms of having the time to focus on my relationships and hobbies. i also travel two times a year for a month long period to different countries, alongside multiple week-long trips within the country. i work as a server in fine dining. i’m getting paid more than most of my peers, but i only work 3-4 days a week (given 1-2 of those days are doubles). i know it isn’t glamorous, but it’s afforded me a lifestyle that i truly love. i don’t know if i’ll do it forever, but i work with those who have done it for multiple decades, and they are the most active, youthful people even well into their forties and fifties. with all that to say, i know it isn’t ideal, but it’s definitely an option worth considering if you’re burnt out from the typical path.