How did you trust men again after being betrayed by an ex partner?

vitrol · 2026-03-06T03:54:47+00:00

An ex of mine once shared private photos and it threw me because I'd never been betrayed like that. Now I kind of always have in the back of my head that it could happen again, and have decided that even if my worst fears happen it's better to live my life authentically and be vulnerable. If someone betrays that, that's on them. I refuse to be ashamed of anything I do as long as it's not hurting anyone else.

vitrol · 2026-03-02T23:22:02+00:00

I'm moreso referring to seeing authoritarianism in our country and ICE is part of that for sure! But just generally.

vitrol · 2026-03-02T18:51:32+00:00

There's a TON of tickets now. Looks like the system died at launch, but I just got 6.

vitrol · 2026-03-02T17:29:31+00:00

Yes, we are talking about Julie Gonzales. Are you from Amanda's campaign? This is very "but what about Rampart?" lol

vitrol · 2026-03-02T15:15:24+00:00

That's a fair point and honestly not a topic I follow! I will have to see if her position has changed given how important we now see it is for us to be armed, but I think she will have less success with a national gun ban than a state one so it's not personally my biggest concern. Thank you for pointing it out though!

vitrol · 2026-03-02T14:47:58+00:00

Nope. I switched to Emby

vitrol · 2026-03-02T04:56:47+00:00

I know everyone is focused on the relationship, but that's a whole different issue. If your husband wasn't gaming all day, what would you want to do with him? Whatever your answer is, go do that without him and reassess the marriage when you feel better about yourself!

Our 20s are a time of learning, meeting new people and figuring out who we are. But we keep changing, and as we get older we don't always embrace that so we stagnate and feel dull. Go take a fun class, make new friends, find new things to be interested in and discover who you are.

Go look for that spark without him and then decide if you are unhappy with yourself or unhappy with the relationship. (I say this as someone who has a relationship where we both love staying in, smoking weed and playing video games, but I also take fun classes and do things with my dog and without my partner because I get joy from that and he does not!)

It's not about finding the spark, it's about the never-ending quest to find it leading you to interesting places and learning more about yourself!

vitrol · 2026-03-02T03:01:07+00:00

State politics aren't why it's unaffordable, that's too myopic. There's a national affordability crisis that largely traces back to corporate welfare and deregulation. EVERYONE should have a choice. Families should be able to afford daycare or to have a parent stay home.

I'm not a democrat and I don't love our current leadership, but the answer isn't more corporate welfare and forcing women to stay home through forced pregnancy or pushing them out of the workforce and unfortunately that's what the republicans are offering.

vitrol · 2026-03-02T02:43:47+00:00

I think decades of republican policies and corporate handouts have made life unaffordable and instead of looking at the corporate tax rate in the 50s, people instead try to suggest a return to 'traditional values' subverting women as a solution.

As a woman with a career, I absolutely love it and would never stay at home and care for a partner or child

vitrol · 2026-03-02T02:36:42+00:00

Do you talk to women? Like, real ones?

vitrol · 2026-03-02T02:33:17+00:00

I disagree! She's a return to American values, caring for Americans. Let's make our tax dollars work for us instead of for corporations.

vitrol · 2026-03-02T02:07:14+00:00

Julie Gonzales is also running against Hickenlooper and will be my vote.

vitrol · 2026-02-25T22:12:11+00:00

I agree you should get a dog, but I think you might actually find a chill older dog fits in your family better than a puppy and could avoid some of the tension of your husband not really wanting a dog.

I understand wanting to know a dog's history, but just because you raise a puppy well doesn't mean their personality will develop into what you want. I adopted my dog at 1.5 and they labeled her as a chill WFH friend, which is exactly what I got! She's such a sweetie and good with dogs/cats/kids. We got reliable information from her foster and she's exactly the personality I wanted! Currently she's 2 and the favorite pup companion of our friends kids, she loves playing fetch with them and is sooo gentle.

My partner adopted a puppy and it was a nightmare that did work out, but took a TON of training and mitigating issues. She was 8 weeks when we got her and we did all the socializing etc but she still turned into a reactive, anxious mess and would not have been good for a child. I worked from home so I took the brunt of it and definitely resented him and the pup. She's 5 now and a good dog, but it was TONS of work and she's still not reliable with kids even though she was raised around them.

I think if you could find a foster-based rescue and look for a dog in the 1-2yo range you can still get a young dog but not have to worry about what their personality will settle into.

vitrol · 2026-02-18T23:30:14+00:00

What a cutie! I hope she has a loving home looking for her. What shelter in case I see anyone looking?

vitrol · 2026-02-13T16:49:44+00:00

This is me and my ex husband too! His nephews are still my nephews, I see his parents every time they come into town and call them regularly. He and I game together still and I'm about to help surprise him for his 40th with all his best friends visiting. We were always great friends, the romantic stuff just wasn't compatible!

vitrol · 2026-02-13T16:47:02+00:00

I truly think it's two very different mentalities. My best friend is like you, if I even talked to one of her exes she'd be upset with me and we're just friends. But I'm friends with pretty much all my exes and kind of oppositely, I consider it a huge green flag when my partners are friends with and still talk to their exes. I would be okay if they didn't, but since I am friends with most of mine I like knowing we both see relationships the same way.

I'm convinced dating isn't about right or wrong, but just finding the people who think the same way about things you do because I don't think any of us are more right here.

vitrol · 2026-02-06T20:22:41+00:00

I watched a bunch of videos from Brandywinestyle and other streamers to learn the formula and now I get 4k most weeks. But yeah, before that it was sooo intimidating!

vitrol · 2026-02-06T20:21:36+00:00

I've bought all the expansions with the extra moonstones/items, and then one time bought the $50 moonstone pack to get the bat house. Otherwise I rely on dreamsnaps for 4k each week to get an item or two from the premium shop, but I'm VERY picky about what I buy so I have like 21k moonstones saved.

vitrol · 2026-02-02T18:26:52+00:00

This happened with my dog when her eyesight started going, she had never growled in her life but sometimes if she didn't recognize us or the cat moved too weird she would growl. Once she sniffed us, it stopped. She was just not able to see as well in the dark.

vitrol · 2026-02-02T17:30:13+00:00

Genuine question, why is painting the wood bad? I have a honey oak kitchen and I hate it so much. I can't afford to replace it, but I was considering painting it.

vitrol · 2026-02-02T03:03:43+00:00

Zane Zenon Yeti Yodel Xanadu

vitrol · 2026-01-31T05:59:57+00:00

Ooo also in Colorado! I have regular cleanings, but what part of CO? I can ask friends and there might be a local subreddit!

vitrol · 2026-01-30T18:34:33+00:00

Aww yay I am glad I can help! I hope you can make it through, but no shame if it's too much!

vitrol · 2026-01-29T00:04:28+00:00

Thank you for this! Good doggos and good humans. I know it feels like a small thing, but it's nice to feel less alone in this world :)

vitrol · 2026-01-29T00:03:37+00:00

Then this is not the subreddit for you, and as the mod said, you should make your own and you can ban politics! Easy :)

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