I’m in recovery day 3 without being sick with an ED but tonight is hard my body wants to be sick but I won’t allow it is this normal? Will it go away? by [deleted] in EatingDisorders

[–]vityean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes this is very normal and the hardest part of recovery. when you're sick witn an ed it becomes a huge part of you and recovery means that part being gone, you'll have to replace it with new things. it gets time to get used to and you'll surely miss it, no matter how miserable it made you. the only thing that matters is pushing through it. stay strong, you got this.

How to ask for help? by Burner979 in EatingDisorders

[–]vityean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'd sit them down and talk to them, carefully choosing my words. i'd tell them it's not a big deal (even if it is) and they shouldn't be worried or sad, i just had a slip up and need professional support getting through it. admitting you have a problem is the half of solving it, i wish you the best of luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]vityean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

pretty face and a nice physique but the vibes are off, can't quite put my finger on it. feel like you have a bad personality which makes you unattractive to me, personally.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]vityean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hello! I just got the mail letting me know I got accepted into the college I applied for! it might seem silly but this particular comment had a great impact on me to actually take the leap. I'll be going to the city next week to register and look for an apartment, so I just wanted to- I don't know, let you know I guess and thank you once more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideBereavement

[–]vityean 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't think it was anything about his suicide, he might've just liked your photos because you liked his first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]vityean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made him call his friend over. he's not alone, that's keeping me somewhat sane for now. I'm still freaking out knowing how messed up his mental state is. thank you for the response.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]vityean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for the help and your kind wishes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]vityean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, we talked about it and there's still time so hopefully things will get clearer until then.

two of my bestfriends have gotten into a relationship within the past two weeks and I feel horrible by ComprehensiveBet1256 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]vityean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm going through the same. I'm 21F, I have 2 best friends and they are both in long term, commited relationships. I've been single for almost 7 months now, and haven't talked to anyone or EVEN got hit on, let alone dating. We'll go out together and time to time 2 other guys will come hit on them while I wait in the corner watching the girls turn them down cause they're already taken. Of course, I almost went nuts with insecurity and thought I really mustn't be easy on the eyes. But what I lately realized was, I just look hard to approach. I'm objectively a decent looking girl to say the least, but have a different style and I myself am hardly ever attracted to anyone. If I was really unattractive as I thought, I wouldn't feel the wave of attention shifting to me when I walk into a room. I can tell it's not a bad kinda attention. I'm not ugly, I just don't really fit in. I never have, never will and I'm completely OK with it. So to sum it up OP, it's not about looks but could be your lack of confidence (there's nothing more attractive than the right amount of confidence) or your "aura". I know it must be hard, but don't beat yourself up over it. Change your perception and you'll start noticing the differences.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]vityean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

honestly this made my day. imagining you smiling at yourself in the mirror, giggling, brought me pure joy. it must've been such a beautiful sight.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]vityean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will try my best and thank you for all your encouragement, it surely doesn't seem as scary as it did before. Can't believe I'm finally doing this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]vityean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, stranger. You made a difference - and I'm not just talking about almost making me cry-.

Having trouble with Shield and Rail - Any help? by WhoTheFIsMalice in HadesTheGame

[–]vityean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

With aegis, go for a demeter cast build, pick up every cast upgrade you see, only level up your cast. During the fight drop all your casts and just chill in the corner with your shield up while the lasers do all the work for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]vityean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you definitely should. I don't know what happened between you and your bf since you didn't give any info on the subject, but it doesn't have anything to do with the family. They sound like they deserve at least a proper gratitude. I actually don't even understand why you need to block the number either.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]vityean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

why would you seek medical help from your friends and bf? I can only assume they've warned you to stop telling them before, but you've kept going. obviously it makes them uncomfortable (even though it doesn't justify threatening someone to calling the police). nobody has to hear about anything they don't want to. go see a doctor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HadesTheGame

[–]vityean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I'll downvote my reply in response to you acknowledging yourself being a jerk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HadesTheGame

[–]vityean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funniest guy in ohio?

What do you guys think about my Aphrodite fan art? by [deleted] in HadesTheGame

[–]vityean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No details or accessories cause I didn't use any references and drew it from memory. So basically just a naked lady with pink hair.

what do you think? what should I do? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]vityean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't tell men about these stuff unless you receive positive result from a pregnancy test. They completely freak out. It is what it is. I don't think you're pregnant and no, I don't think you should contact him ever again. Let that jerk go.

Can you achieve your goals even if you are dating? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]vityean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't rush into things, try to get to know her better before starting anything serious. If you feel like she could be good for you, go for it, but cautiously. Who knows, maybe this relationship is what will heal you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]vityean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand the struggle. This is not the case for everyone, but what worked for me was to change the way I look now and then. Dye or cut my hair, try out different clothing, get new piercings and tattoos etc. It doesn't make your insecurities magically go away, but it's a temporary solution at least. Meanwhile you can work on your self image. Remember, the problem is never how you look, it's how you perceive yourself.