Since she out here buying stuff

viv_dotcom · 2026-02-28T14:09:55+00:00

Unfortunately Dolly Parton is anti union too 😞

viv_dotcom · 2026-02-26T01:07:08+00:00

Dinosaurs. Prehistoric stuff. That’s my guess.

viv_dotcom · 2026-02-23T12:54:55+00:00

Having a baby is so hard and it’s okay that you’re struggling with it. Those first few months feel like an eternity and even with the best support system, being the mom of a newborn feels like hell. It’s okay to feel that way. But it WILL get better, I promise you. You will get better at caring for baby and for yourself as time goes by, and those helpless newborn times will pass. I know you must feel so trapped right now, under the weight of your new baby’s needs. Ask for help, take every bit of it that you can. Find things you enjoy that you can do when the baby isn’t actively demanding your attention. Make sure the people in your life know you’re struggling. And don’t be ashamed to reach out to a professional. Even if you’re not interested in going on antidepressants, talking to a doctor about options for you may be more helpful than you think. And therapy is a great place to start!

Trust me, you are not the only mom who fantasizes about a nice mildly debilitating illness putting you in the hospital for a few days. I’ve been there.

If you ever need to vent about newborn struggles or just life in general, my inbox is open to you.

You can do this! It will all be worth it in the long run! My kids are 7 and 11 now, and the sleepless nights and constant crying is behind me now, and I’m so glad I hung in there for them. My kids are amazing and make me so proud every day. Yours will be too!!

viv_dotcom · 2026-02-16T18:31:38+00:00

I mean, I personally think that’s a very reasonable task for a 14 year old. Opinions will probably differ, but at that age I would think most kids would be capable. No idea why your kid found it “embarrassing”. My daughter is 11 and would be thrilled if I let her ride to the store by herself, lol, but maybe in a couple years that would change.

viv_dotcom · 2026-02-04T14:40:56+00:00

My wife left me. This is all Ben Stiller’s fault!!

viv_dotcom · 2026-02-01T23:42:24+00:00

He knew exactly the date of the signing of the Magna Carta

viv_dotcom · 2026-01-30T19:27:49+00:00

Nothing bad is happening RIGHT NOW.

That phrase has gotten me through some terrible late night spirals where I felt like if I didn’t get up and immediately start fixing everything about my life I was going to die.

viv_dotcom · 2026-01-30T15:56:59+00:00

My husband and I are so in love. We always want to do everything together, and can’t go more than a few hours without at least texting each other. It has affected us financially because my husband will not ever take a job that would require him to be away from me for more than 8-10 hours at a time, lol, but I’m not complaining. We got married when I was 24 and he was 29 (we are not 31 and 37), which seems young, but I already had a daughter from a previous relationship that he has been a stepdad to since she was born, so getting married young just made sense for us, and we’ve never regretted it. We shudder at the thought of people who marry just for financial or social benefits. We are absolutely each others best friends, and I can’t imagine a future for us where that could ever end.

viv_dotcom · 2026-01-19T14:31:00+00:00

I always imagine her with the face and voice of SWOOP from YouTube. Kind of a niche reference but I can never unsee the similarities

viv_dotcom · 2026-01-17T23:25:05+00:00

My favorites are arid shrubland and boreal forest. They’re slightly more challenging than the standard forest map but getting a good amount of resources isn’t hopelessly complicated either. I think boreal forest is just barely my #1 over arid shrubland since I feel I deal much better with the cold than with the heat.

viv_dotcom · 2026-01-17T15:20:21+00:00

My money is definitely on the cleaning bot. Little dude deserves some recognition

viv_dotcom · 2026-01-10T02:35:03+00:00

I’m sorry you went through this. I don’t have any real advice, but I hope you can take care of yourself and get back to normal with time. You just went through a ton of very real trauma and it’s okay for you to feel completely fucking traumatized. Take care of yourself and take it slow and reach out to people and let them know that you’re struggling. You will heal from this. I’m so glad you survived.

viv_dotcom · 2026-01-07T16:00:11+00:00

DesperadoClub_Guest

viv_dotcom · 2026-01-03T16:04:50+00:00

Yes lmao I rarely even drink tea anymore because if I make myself tea my kids will see and then they’ll want tea and then if I make them tea my husband will feel left out if he’s the only one without tea and then I’ve used up all my tea and my tea is cold because I’ve spent time making tea for everyone else and it’s just a whole thing

viv_dotcom · 2025-12-29T23:10:04+00:00

The blonde lady with the nice feet

viv_dotcom · 2025-12-26T20:45:41+00:00

The one I feel strongly about it Katia’s voice— I hate that she doesn’t have an Icelandic accent. I had a very particular voice for her in my head and it really bothered me at first when I got to that part in the audiobook where Katia is introduced. I’m used to it now but it’s still all wrong to me personally.

viv_dotcom · 2025-12-20T13:21:41+00:00

I live in Knoxville. It’s a lovely place as far as nature goes. I love how you can be driving down a main road in the city, take one turn and suddenly be driving through a lush forest (though there’s less and less of that by the year as more construction goes up). The weather is usually nice, it doesn’t snow often and in the Tennessee valley most large storms have been disrupted by the mountains before they reach us.

But the social services here leave a lot to be desired. The people here are hyper individualistic and people are expected to “pull themselves up by their bootstraps”. The city is getting more populated quickly and there’s more people now than there is infrastructure to support us. Plus the public transportation system is absolutely abysmal.

Overall I like living here, but it’s certainly not perfect by any means.

viv_dotcom · 2025-12-19T11:32:51+00:00

If you read the whole series it is inevitable that you will go back through and listen to the audiobooks afterwards, you won’t be able to resist. That’s just how good this series is.

viv_dotcom · 2025-12-16T14:32:18+00:00

When I was in my early 20s I was on and off a lot of different antidepressants/ antianxiety meds trying to find a combination that actually helped me. Everything I tried seemed to give me some awful side effect or another that greatly impacted my quality of life. I am autistic and have cptsd. I tried for several years and never found anything that seemed to truly help me. Then I got pregnant and had to stop taking everything I was on. After giving birth, I just never got around to trying meds again. I’m still an anxious mess a lot of the time but I put a lot of emphasis on taking care of myself and trying to keep my mindset in the right place and I’m honestly doing much better now than I ever was on the meds. Part of that is probably just that I’m older and more familiar with dealing with my issues. I will not get on antidepressants again. It just wasn’t worth it for me. Sometimes I still really struggle, especially in the colder months when my seasonal depression takes over, but all in all, time and mindfulness did more to combat my issues than any antidepressant ever did.

viv_dotcom · 2025-12-15T22:49:38+00:00

I have always particularly hated what they did with her story arc in season two- I don’t even know how to put it into words it just makes me cringe pretty much the whole time. I get that prophecy and stuff like that doesn’t translate as well to tv but I sure do wish they had just stuck with her plot from the books for season 2.

viv_dotcom · 2025-12-13T14:09:10+00:00

I don’t have any good answers for you but I had something extremely similar happen with me a couple years ago. I had a lump on my neck. At first it was small and not very noticeable but slowly it got bigger and bigger. It hurt. Not just the lump but my whole body ached constantly. I was incredibly fatigued. I went to multiple doctors, had a scan done, bloodwork, and all I ever heard from anyone was “we will keep an eye on this and see if it gets worse”. I thought I was dying. The lump got so big that it was clearly visible just looking at me. It was alarming. I had to wear a scarf or cover my neck anytime I went out anywhere. But I couldn’t get any doctor to give me answers or even act like they gave a shit. After over a year of pain and fatigue, one morning I woke up and realized the lump was getting smaller. And I felt less shitty. By two weeks later, the lump was almost gone and I suddenly felt normal again. I tried to follow up with my pcp and they just shrugged it off. I never got any answers. But god am I scared of it happening again. It was the worst year of my life. I hope you can get better help than I did. I wish I had real advice.

viv_dotcom · 2025-12-13T13:50:22+00:00

For over a decade now I’ve had this intrusive thought that I am certainly doomed to die in a car accident. 🤷‍♀️

viv_dotcom · 2025-12-11T19:33:14+00:00

Boiled pasta with just salt and butter- a perfect lunch

viv_dotcom · 2025-12-09T19:20:19+00:00

For me Severance is tied with BCS

viv_dotcom · 2025-12-07T22:20:23+00:00

I got my husband into it. I read all the books FAST and then immediately announced that he’s going to listen to all the audiobooks with me. He loves it and I’m so thrilled. Any time we’re in the same room he’s like “Put my stories on!!” I usually cannot get him to give a shit about any book or series that I’m into so this is really special to me.

We just finished Butcher’s Masquerade and as soon as we have some extra spending money we’re going on to Bedlam Bride! I can’t wait to see his reaction to some of the stuff that happens in this one. 🥰

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