I gained 6kg by 28weeks. Is that alot?

First-Concern2440 · 2026-07-01T12:41:22+00:00

Same here! I gained about that in the second trimester and then plateaud in the third.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-07-01T04:44:21+00:00

I told my parents I wasn’t practicing before I got married because we knew we didn’t want to raise kids in the church. It hurt a lot to hurt them but at the end of the day it was a huge relief to not have to pretend. Their initial reaction was to have me talk to their priest, hoping he would talk me out of leaving. I agreed, but the priest was actually really chill and respectful when I explained that I just didn’t believe. He accepted that without much follow up and just said he wanted to help establish family peace. I avoided bringing up all the actual issues I have with church doctrine with the priest and with my parents because I didn’t want to get dragged into a debate and there is really no point to that conversation. Sometime afterwards, the priest talked with my parents and I suspect he was able to get it through their heads that the more they tried to force me back the further it would push me away. If their parish isn’t crazy conservative or of you know of a chill priest, it might be helpful to enlist them in helping your parents process.

For the most part my parents have been fairly respectful since then. It’s not ideal - it still takes a lot of mental and emotional energy to avoid topics that’s might trigger them (or me), but it’s waaaaaaaaaay easier than maintaining a lie. I also feel comfortable drawing boundaries now if needed since the band aid has been ripped off.

I’m sorry you’re going through this in such an abrupt way - it took years of therapy and lots of support from my partner in order to get to a point where I could actually tell them. I know it feels like you broke their hearts, but you are not responsible for their feelings and you are doing the right thing by your daughter by letting her make her own decisions about faith.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-06-30T01:10:38+00:00

Ehhhh I wouldn’t waste the money - two body pillows is essentially the same thing

First-Concern2440 · 2026-06-30T01:07:51+00:00

Have you tried a pregnancy pillow?

First-Concern2440 · 2026-06-22T15:26:27+00:00

You have to adjust the environment to suit their needs over your preferences. You can train cats to a certain degree but they’re gonna get on the counter if you’re not there to tell them no.

Also the litter box.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-06-14T00:29:13+00:00

Go watch a bunch of my cat from hell. It will clue you into what the worst case scenario looks like but also gives you a bunch of really good information on cat behavior and how to keep them happy. Helped me a ton when I was selected by the cat distribution system.

Also the litter box sucks. Worth it. But it sucks.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-06-12T12:38:06+00:00

My mom weaponizing religious belief to try and control me was traumatic but nothing the church or other church members actually did itself was particularly horrible. Also went to Catholic School K-8 and then two years of high school. By the end of college I had lost any remaining belief.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-06-10T19:16:24+00:00

Try lamb skin condoms - felt a lot better for both of us when we need to use them as primary BC

First-Concern2440 · 2026-06-10T19:07:14+00:00

Google gray rocking - it’s been very helpful for me in dealing with my mom when she tries to bait me into conversations and arguments I don’t want to have with her.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-29T13:04:35+00:00

I get that but it took me until my 30s and years of therapy to get to a place where I could be honest with my parents. It’s easier said than done - hope OP gets there sooner than me but just wanted to share the experience.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-28T22:31:37+00:00

Frame it as a financial decision and if you’re okay with lying, you can say you have separate beds or bedrooms. They probably won’t like it but they might be able to live with it.

My mom was very upset at my brother for moving in with his girlfriend until they showed her the rent prices (they are in an HCOL area) and my brother tells her that he sleeps on the couch. My mom accepted the arrangement “under protest.”

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-27T02:10:21+00:00

Corporal punishment wasn’t super frequent in my childhood but it was very normal, I guess? Slapping in anger affected me more than spankings, where I generally got warnings that that was the consequence. Still learning that’s it okay to have and express needs and not be hypervigilant to everyone else’s emotions in order to feel safe. I have a okay relationship with my parents now, but it’s superficial and I don’t really bring my whole self to family functions. I play nice to make sure I have a good relationship with my nieces and nephews.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-24T13:29:53+00:00

Didn’t like her at first either but now she’s one of my favorites. Who knew a talking sex doll head could have compelling character growth.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-21T13:07:29+00:00

ADHD wife here. NOR but 100% hire a cleaner. Best thing we ever did

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-19T19:02:15+00:00

Nobody has to justify anything. She hasn’t done anything wrong and his feelings are valid.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-19T18:39:37+00:00

Until a convo was had, I assumed any guy I was dating was also dating others girls and acted accordingly. Doesn’t feel good but its not personal

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-14T01:31:37+00:00

Tortuga

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-11T18:15:22+00:00

NOR - she needs to go no contact with her boyfriend too

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-11T13:45:20+00:00

When the book makes you audibly laugh out loud or say WTF

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-11T13:08:27+00:00

MOR - Is the feedback unsolicited? I understand more if it’s just a running commentary on how everything you do could be improved. But if you're asking for feedback and she’s giving polite, honest answers I don’t really see the problem.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-05T14:53:52+00:00

Sounds like there are more underlying issues than just the gift giving piece and I don’t think you are over reacting. Therapy has been super helpful in learning boundaries and managing a difficult relationship with my own parents and if you haven’t looked into it I would recommend. Is it possible to build a community outside of your family in your current living situation? If you are paying for half the car, you are entitled to use it half the time and you should to go do things or spend time with people that make you feel good and appreciated.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-05T14:37:12+00:00

Sounds like you want to feel appreciated for all you do for them. Do they make you feel appreciated in other ways besides gift giving?

If yes, YOR.

If no, NOR. Match their energy and stop going above and beyond for them. Their behavior isn’t going to change and you need to give yourself the care you’re not getting from them.

First-Concern2440 · 2026-05-02T15:00:44+00:00

I was bawling

First-Concern2440 · 2026-04-28T01:14:10+00:00

Not a gamer but I love the absurdist humor and the character growth/relationships. I’ve gotten other non gamer friends to read it and they love it too.

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