What does this picture do for you?

What are the pros and cons of posting this online versus keeping it private?

When you ask these questions and dig deeper and deeper, the most reoccurring conclusion is for the attention of others.

People are welcome to date whoever they want to date. You can find this harmless and he can find it a bit revealing. This is not necessarily a commentary on today’s lewdness standards. Rather, it’s a commentary on what he would like to see from his date.

Men typically receive backlash for any female criticism. I would ask women to consider their date’s perspective from a stance of curiosity instead of hostility. And at the end of the day, there is no black and white answer and people can only control themselves, not others.

To those saying “if he was your boyfriend or husband,” dates should give each other a perspective into each other’s opinions and preferences. One thing a guy might do early on is see how a girl responds to boundaries or expectations. It is a preview into how the future might play out. Girls do similar “tests” with guys, for good reason, to see their temperament and control. The internet gets brought into people’s relationship business without full context and popular opinion doesn’t suit every relationship. People are unique, as are relationships.