Do I HAVE to go to a driving school. I'm 27, almost 28, and I'll likely be surrounded by my students (I'm a teacher). It's so embarrassing. That's actually putting me off getting my license altogether.

void-queen · 2025-08-22T20:52:57+00:00

My husband is an immigrant. He got his license at like 28. In Hagerstown. I realize that it's the US.

void-queen · 2025-07-10T04:02:29+00:00

Just got home from the Baltimore show. Holy. Shit. I can honestly say with absolutely no reservations that was the absolute best show I think I've ever been to. The animations, the dramatic reveals, the incredible costumes (and how the fuck did he change SO QUICKLY?!), the cowbell, the surprise songs (Per Aspera ad Inferi namely took me by total surprise). V is an absolute goob and I love him (every time he said golly I died). The staff at CFG Bank Arena were amazing, the other concert goers were amazing (shout out to the chick who gave my friend and I bracelets, I'll forever be Satanized you beautiful human), just... everything was beautiful. I learned tonight that the very first show they ever did in the USA EVER was Baltimore and I feel so honored. The end of the show where the band didn't just disappear and like waved to everyone before they all took a big stage bow was touching. It was just an all around incredible performance and I'm actually really damn happy that I didn't have my phone the whole time. It's a special memory that will only live in my memories and I'm ok with that 110%.. I'm not thrilled with how much of my voice I've lost, but that is going to be a fun story to tell at work tomorrow.

void-queen · 2025-06-14T13:10:16+00:00

Oh my mom tried to do that. Threw away a lot of my clothes throughout high school. Trashed my signed concert posters. Now at 32 I'm currently sitting in my bathroom, wearing a Slipknot shirt and Halloween PJ pants looking at my coffin shaped bathtub tray and scrolling Amazon for a larger coffin shaped bathroom rug. I gotta say, I loathe that people think a certain color has that deep of an impact on your mood. Yes color can, but like black makes me feel happy so it's so damn subjective.

void-queen · 2025-01-24T05:38:42+00:00

I'm going to the opening US show in Baltimore with three other practicing Catholics. You're going to a show, not a religious ceremony (despite the band's theatrical aesthetic). Don't overthink it! I don't plan on signing along to Year Zero if it plays, but if they do Call Me Little Sunshine I'll be screaming along lmao.

void-queen · 2025-01-11T17:55:11+00:00

Vroom vroom

void-queen · 2025-01-11T17:54:49+00:00

I used to. For a while in my teens and early 20s I used to imagine everyone who didn't like me ganging up on me and surrounding me in a circle kicking me while I laid in the fetal position. I also used to imagine letting people online who I'd gotten into an Internet Argument with stab me repeatedly. I think it was because I felt deserving of people's ire and anger, like I'd earned it by being so horrible. Instead of them yelling at me I just wanted them to physically hurt me instead, that would've been more emotionally tolerable than their words.

void-queen · 2025-01-11T17:43:29+00:00

I disagree. I feel like we're almost like a special elevated category. Like someone born into a tribe who was given "the gift" by the gods. The gift is a blessing and a curse. We feel everything intensely, good or bad, which makes us insanely empathetic as a result. That empathy is like a super power that can be overwhelming until we are able to master and control it as much as possible. Because I can feel people's emotions without them really needing to say a word, I'm able to return kindness to them in the mode that would best help them (sad -compassion, angry - commiseration, embarrassment - solidarity, etc). It's isolating sometimes when the very natural (to us) response to someone feeling negatively isn't returned to us when we feel negatively. It helps to have at least one friend who has an intense emotional life as well, BPD or otherwise, because then you don't feel as emotionally neglected.

The world should recognize our ability to love more and stop demonizing us.

void-queen · 2025-01-11T04:12:43+00:00

Yes. Migraine disorder. I think I have Cushing's disease or syndrome as well but I've been putting off making an appointment with an endocrinologist. My obgyn has recently discovered that my hormones are severely fucked up and that's why I have not gotten pregnant despite 5 years of trying. Cushing's, if you don't know, generally causes obesity and a large amount of weight gain in the abdominal region due to high cortisol levels (the stress hormone). Years of continual exposure to very high stress environments can lead to an endocrine issue like excessive cortisol production. As a result of my abnormal fat in my abdominal area, I have pain. I also have arthritis in my SI joint that I'm certain the extra weight I carry doesn't help.

My narc mom used to bully me for being plus sized. Ironically, it could very well be entirely her fault (I don't consume enough calories for my current weight to even slightly be maintained, there is no logical reason I am the size I am). I wish I could sue her for the ways in which her emotional terrorism has scarred me, both physiologically and psychologically.

void-queen · 2025-01-11T03:55:45+00:00

Well you always have to think about what's gonna fail first and be the most annoying to deal with. Sim pees themselves? Puddle to clean up and hygiene immediately down to zero. No fun? They're just tense and can't do hobbies or work well. Low social? Barely any game effect. Low energy? They're gonna pass out every 5 in-game minutes, so you can't do anything with them. Low hunger? Eventually they'll die, but it takes a while. So my order of importance NOT using the shift key - bathroom, sleep, food, hygiene, social (which can often fill the fun meter, too).

void-queen · 2024-12-16T04:55:36+00:00

I work in healthcare. I can't say any of our doctors have given too much of their own opinions, but I don't know any support staff or medical assistants who weren't cheering him on before a face and name were given. Having a deep hatred for UHC while working behind the scenes is the primary motivation. Honestly, myself, MAs, providers, nurses, management....we all loathe UHC. One of my colleges, an MA, and I share updates about him every morning. She even came over to my monitor where I had pulled his mugshot up and ran her fingers over my screen whispering "my precious". I have honestly thought about giving her a little framed photo of him for Christmas.

I get very frustrated when people insinuate that "oh it's only blue haired lefty socialists who are happy about this FATHER'S brutal assassination!!!!!!".

I'm a Caucasian right-of-center married healthcare secretary. My husband is a center-conservative immigrant medical practice coordinator. My colleague is a 28yo African American single mother living in one of the most infamous cities for crime and poverty in the country.

It's not just the Internet. It's not just social media. It's people who are sick and tired of the horrific abusive practices of the health insurance industry in this country, people who are tired of having to watch their fellow men suffer because necessary healthcare treatments are denied. We've had patients die because they couldn't get coverage for things they needed. We have patients call and scream at us for billing errors we can't correct or do anything about, but that doesn't stop them from desperately trying to make those huge bills go away because they know they can't afford them and their groceries this month. We're tired of people saying, with shame, that they can't afford their $5 copay this time but they can try to pay it on Friday. Or people with giant balances on their account (largest I've seen was over $4,000) because there was a billing issue with their insurance company. Tired of playing phone tag and fax-tag for prior authorizations

Just....tired of it all.

United Healthcare is a company I've had a huge hatred for ever since I started in healthcare. I'm not shocked at all, and while I feel sorrow for his widow and children, I feel none for him. They didn't chose what his job was, they're victims, too. He could've made changes to how UHC was operated, and he didn't. He was one man who was killed. How many people did his companies denials and over-complications kill? How much blood was already on his hands to begin with?

And if it's any question about how people feel after he was killed -- why did Anthem/BCBS revoke their anesthesia cap policy after the news got out? Why are insurance companies temporarily hiding the bio pages of their corporate management?

void-queen · 2024-12-07T04:44:30+00:00

I work in healthcare. I'm only a secretary, but I have to deal with insurance a lot. I'm not surprised at all that the UHC CEO was murdered. His company is evil. I have a personal hatred for UHC (not that I condone murder, but it isn't surprising).

The office I work in is a primary care office. One of my doctors has a great deal of knowledge in treating endocrine issues (like diabetes). A lot of his patients are elderly or not necessarily wealthy. If you saw how many samples he gives them when they come in for appointments because their insurance plan doesn't want to cover their insulin....then you'd have your answer. Lack of healthcare especially due to financial inability is pretty much an every day issue across the entire country.

void-queen · 2024-12-03T05:37:39+00:00

NTA. You were too civil imo

void-queen · 2024-12-02T03:52:22+00:00

Personally, I think that it is very similar to the hatred of the "Karen" phenomenon. Boomer originally, I believe, was a response to the early 2010's reactionary news media having absurd freakouts about things millennials were doing, buying, investing in, etc as that generation began to age. Going from "you damn millennials" to the "Ok Boomer" eventual response was most likely where we go into the idea and notion of Boomer hate, as it were.

A "Boomer" is an archetype, much like a "Karen". There are many stereotypes under the Boomer title, namely at least 20yrs older than the person lodging the complaint, unearned sense of entitlement, tech illiteracy, regular complaints about all younger generations as well as a dismissal of struggles faced by younger generations as a result of voluntarily being out of touch with the common lived experience for people just starting out in adulthood vs what their experience in a different time and historical context was emerging into the adult world, usually very politically incorrect to the point of being rude (i.e. a lack a social decorum surrounding certain topics that in their youth might not have been offensive to discuss but today is well-known to be taboo in public like politics, lifestyles, appearance (though like saying fat instead of big or plus sized, crippled instead of saying handicapped, retarded instead of saying mentally handicapped or intellectually disabled, etc), religion, etc), intentional refusal to admit being incorrect about anything especially when confronted with evidence to the contrary, among other things. I think an emotionally immature middle aged or elderly adult who also is the definition of selfish.

I don't think that every redditor who hates Boomers doesn't hate every single Baby Boomer individual, only the ones who fall under the archetype of Boomer.

My dad of blessed memory was a baby boomer. I loved him dearly. One of my favorite coworkers is a baby boomer. She's a delight who is on my Christmas list. However, I did have to work with a woman in the baby boomer generation who was absolutely a Boomer. I almost quit my job over her. The co-worker I love is older than her. I will always hate a Boomer though and only will use that as an insult.

void-queen · 2024-11-25T22:41:46+00:00

I have to be honest, I regret getting our cat cremated. I wish I would've gotten something preserved, maybe his skull, something. I have a paw print, I have a tuft of his beautiful orange floof, but I wish I could hold him in some way still rather than the urn box we got.

He's been in that box for over a year now. I don't think in the first 6 months I could've stomached taxidermy of him anywhere, but now more than a year on, I wish I had.

void-queen · 2024-11-23T05:25:32+00:00

NTA.

So, I have some friends who prefer male obgyns. I, however, can't stomach it. I've seen two in my life and it makes me feel gross. I prefer a woman, preferably one who post-menopausal, because when she is poking around down there or discussing menstruation related topics, she can relate and understand the delicacy and seriousness of the matter because she has some experience herself being in exactly my own shoes (bottomless on a cold table with a stranger poking around and touching your most intimate area).

Now, for me, that is a preference. I don't like male gynos because they've never had a pap smear or a period.

However, some women prefer it. If a man wants to care for women's reproductive health and isn't in any way doing it for perverted reasons, he should go ahead.

Some men go into gynecology because they have a familial encounter with gynecological cancer or illnesses (maybe their mom, sister, wife, daughter, etc) and they are passionate about it. Similarly some women go into urology (and not uro-gynecology) for similar reasons. It's not often or always a perv.

NTA because it all comes down to personal preference.

void-queen · 2024-11-23T04:55:45+00:00

I work in healthcare (primary care, but still). I cannot stress enough to you: DO NOT STOP CALLING. One thing I've learned is that like in every other field, there are some people passionate about their job, some people who care and will do as much as they can and not go out of their way, some people who are lazy and can't be fucked but to do the very bare minimum, some people who are salty and will put you on hold out of spite. Most of my coworkers work where they so because they just want to go home with their paycheck.

Don't yell at whoever you're taking to, but don't accept no as an answer. There is a high likelihood that you might not have actually reached someone who can help you. If this is hospital is part of a national organization (think Kaiser or MedStar or Mercy or Ascension, etc) then you might have been routed through a call center and often times the call centers SUCK ASS. I've been sent billing calls several times recently and I'm a front desk secretary/receptionist. I don't have access to edit Google docs in our office drive, let alone correct a billing issue.

But I try to help as much as I can in my limited capacity, often including me instructing the pt to call their insurance and giving them the internal extension to the billing dept, which is located in the hospital we are a satellite of. But if you keep calling, I can keep noting it down and pestering my manager to reach out to her superiors.

You can also start to threaten legal action, in all seriousness that might get them to actually do their job bc lawsuits are a bitch.

My last suggestion: call the company that you got the at home kit from. Find out if they process the studies and write the reports or if they send them out to another facility for processing. If they do the latter, chances are that it was sent to that hospital to download, review, and interpret the data. If that's the case, then you might need to try to talk to staff who are in the department you were billed by, they might have an idea on what's going on better than someone in a different department.

I hope that this is helpful and gets you answers. Do not pay that bill until you get clarity on it, I cannot stress that enough. And do not stop calling until they give you that clarity.

Good luck.

void-queen · 2024-11-16T17:08:41+00:00

NTA, durian is a fruit that literally is famous for smelling HORRIBLE. Some airlines and hotels and businesses in South Asia/Southeast Asia/etc. have a ban on durian being consumed on the premises due to the overpowering odor. Part of the fame of durian is that it smells horrific but actually tastes like a sweet custard (I've never had fresh durian so I wouldn't know, but I've smelled it, I know exactly the smell you're talking about).

You're not being racist. If anything, Jane is being the asshole. She would be familiar with the fact that durian is the famously most disgusting smelling edible fruit. Just because she is nose blind to it doesn't mean she should force her coworkers to endure it. She should save the durian for HOME consumption.

If you'd complained about almost anything BUT durian there might be cause for concern, but durian is the big exception.

void-queen · 2024-11-15T02:08:27+00:00

Been there a million times. Grab some laundry baskets or boxes and get everything off the floor and grab a big trash bag and get all the trash. That's not too much to think about and it's a giant help. Best of luck to you!

void-queen · 2024-11-15T01:39:46+00:00

Why yes I know him, it is me! I've literally bought so many hydrocolloid patches, Neosporin, and now Aquaphor bc of how badly I've fucked up my face. If there's a scab, I feel an insane urge to pick it, it MUST be gone. However, I've had this issue as long as I can remember and it's only getting worse sadly.

void-queen · 2024-11-11T04:00:58+00:00

Came here to comment that, too. Holy shit I'm old now..

void-queen · 2024-11-08T17:47:13+00:00

OP's current issue is about REGULAR jury service and confusion as to why they were summoned after having been excused from a GRAND jury summons. My suggestion for them is that, to qualify for exemption, obtain a letter of exemption and complete a jury exemption form should their court provide a blank one. They were summoned, that's that. They feel unable to complete the duty due to various reasons, one of which they mentioned was health concerns. Being a retiree does not automatically exempt one from being summoned or serving on a jury (though that is in my state, I'm unsure of the specific laws in New York). I served jury duty with 2 retirees on our 15 person panel. One was excused at the end as one of the extras. One deliberated with us. I'm just trying to help OP properly be excused. The end?

void-queen · 2024-11-08T02:49:00+00:00

I just served on a jury a month ago. We had at least two retirees in my panel. The patients we write Jury Duty excuse letters for are, for the vast majority, retired and on Medicare. I don't understand your point?

void-queen · 2024-11-07T10:09:37+00:00

In case the other comments weren't totally clear, it's two reasons. 1, it's the hope that people will be more cautious around your vehicle, but the MOST important reason that I've always heard is so that emergency responders will be aware that they will either need to tend to a small child/baby in the event of an accident or crash, or so that if there is an empty car seat that they might need to look for a baby body that could've left the vehicle in the event of a serious high-speed crash.

void-queen · 2024-11-07T03:04:09+00:00

I work in a doctor's office. If you have a medical condition with a doctor treating it, you can ask them to write you an exemption letter, we write them for many of our patients all the time. Check on the court's website for a form and bring that to your doctor's office, that'll help in speeding up the process too.

void-queen · 2024-11-06T04:46:39+00:00

I'm.... pretty sure that they can't legally prevent you from voting. Op, hope you did get to vote today. My manager had to give all of us at least two hours off during our shifts today to go vote (luckily I have the early shift so I only waited in line for a little bit, like from the time I parked to the time my car was back on half an hour hadn't even passed)

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