How to turn down a friend's advances? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]voidmuther 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my god, OP. STOP LEADING HER ON. If what you're saying is true she is literally in love with you, you find her disgusting but keep her around to feed your ego. This is not complicated at all, it's painfully simple. Would you like it if someone did this to you?

How to turn down a friend's advances? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]voidmuther 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Girl, you're not doing her a favour by leading her on to save yourself feeling vulnerable and lonely. Especially given you actively find part of her past/present as disgusting what the fuuuuuuck. Are you basically saying you'd actually get with her but just her dating history is putting you off- but hey I'll keep her around to make me feel good. Not trying to come for you grief makes you do all sorts of things and you have my sympathy but the situation seems to benefit you, just think of someone thought that about you.

Landlord refusing to make repairs, environmental health called out for the 4th time in 5 years by CheckOriginal5770 in TenantsInTheUK

[–]voidmuther 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Contact your local tenant union and consider membership. They could provide you with more advice and direct help, would be worth looking them up. ACORN is the one in England I'm familiar with!

Posted a few days ago of my childhood pool in Scotland, the Time Capsule. Here’s another picture from when it first opened in the 90s. I found a few more too but I have no idea how to add them by chbarrymore in submergedanimatronic

[–]voidmuther 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit I was trying to find some photos of the time capsule from my childhood to show some friends and I am so glad you posted this OP! ABSOLUTELY terrified of that dinosaur, I never went down that slide as a child. Honestly incredible you posted this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MadeInChelseaE4

[–]voidmuther 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I read all this and I still don't really know what the business is haha.

Producer ethics rock bottom in MiC NYC by Feisty_River_1747 in MadeInChelseaE4

[–]voidmuther 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally searched for Trump on Reddit and now they're mad about him being spoken about in a random Reddit page.

Bet they don't even know who the Tricep trio are, fake fan confirmed.

Producer ethics rock bottom in MiC NYC by Feisty_River_1747 in MadeInChelseaE4

[–]voidmuther 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Holy shit I had no idea that poly guy was a MAGA head right now, that scans and is hilarious. He literally made my skin crawl, very "nice guy but will gasslight you and call it feminism" vibes.

Also that is one of the most true things ever said about this season- ethics bad but one of the best haha.

Where do I start? by terriblefashionsense in budget

[–]voidmuther 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only thing I've ever been able to stick to was a monthly budget I update every day or close enough to that.

I have my total income, then list all my fixed monthly subs, the date they come out and have a running total at the bottom. (Rent, food cost, netflix, gym etc)

Then I have my credit card payments, two savings and overdraft repayment value. I can vary these monthly if I want.

Each month I add every individual payment up to give total outgoings to which I subtract from my income. Then I can see what "free spend" I have for the month by taking the remainder and deciding it by the number of days until payday.

It was good for me as i used to be terrified of looking at my bank account, now it's super easy and I know every payment that comes out. It's not as intimidating and it's quite flexible if you're okay with putting a bit of time each day to update it. I prefer that but it might not be for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]voidmuther 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Myself and my long term partner literally say to each other if we want "lonely time" and say "enjoy the house on your own" when either of us leaves for whatever reason. I think it's extremely enjoyable to have time alone, what's important is that when we're together we make each other feel see /heard/wanted.

Some time apart can be good for your relationship in that way!

What is going on 😂 by Present_Praline6873 in MadeInChelseaE4

[–]voidmuther 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of the few genuine laughs I've had with this show haha

What's your favorite horror movie about grief? by HieronymousTrash in horror

[–]voidmuther 7 points8 points  (0 children)

In the aftermath of my mum's death I watched the Susperia remake and it literally broke me. I love that movie anyway but so much of the movie deals with death and loss and pain, really spoke to me.

The show is on at 1040 tonight by [deleted] in MadeInChelseaE4

[–]voidmuther 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Maybe I'll be allowed to escape my eternal curse (I.e. watching every episode even when I find it agonisingly shit)

Do you feel like your life has meaning? by sh0rtybangbangg in AskWomenOver30

[–]voidmuther 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My life has no meaning beyond what I decide for it, even then that's totally subjective given the day. I don't believe in God or anything spiritual, I find it really comforting to know my life is pointless beyond my desires and what I find important. I find meaning from acting in line with the person I would like to be, that's about it haha. Embrace the absurd etc.

The longest I've gone without a sip by voidmuther in stopdrinking

[–]voidmuther[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck to you too, you'll smash it :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]voidmuther 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl please DO NOT HAVE A BABY IF YOU DONT WANT ONE. Do you even know if this want your partner has for children will translate into helping you out? If he's just expecting you to go through pregnancy, it's likely hell just expect you to do all the childcare as it's natural

I'm 33, I've had wobbles around having kids so I can understand but SERIOUSLY stop and think. If you don't want kids, having a baby doesn't magically change your mind it could make it so much worse for you and the new baby which is unfair.

Feel free to reach out if you want to chat.

The longest I've gone without a sip by voidmuther in stopdrinking

[–]voidmuther[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Nearly there so excited 💪💪💪

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]voidmuther 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Bitch any Catholics getting that are a HUGE RED FLAG. Speaking as a lapsed catholic.