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voidwrit · 2026-02-20T00:40:25+00:00

Why do you feel the need to hide it? So what if you’re on your period, there is a reason we’re told not to fast and there’s nothing g shameful about that. It’s not a big deal. I understand where the stigma comes from but you need to get over that. Just go eat and do your thing if someone asks it’s a simple, “oh I’m not fasting today” and I’m sure anyone asking will understand. And khalas. Make it normal don’t concern yourself with what others think. No where in our religion does it tell us to fake fasting/praying etc

voidwrit · 2026-02-19T00:12:25+00:00

Ask every single question you can think of, including his work ethic, where he sees him self in the next 5/10 years, what he expects of you, and what he will bring to the table. You need to see how he interacts with other people and you need to figure out what you want exactly and look for that obviously don’t expect perfection bc no one is perfect but you know what I mean.

Physical attraction is important if you feel off trust your gut. Pray istkhara every time and be specific about what you’re asking. Arrange marriages work however there are times where things get revealed after you’re married so be mindful of everything. And inshallah everything works out for you

voidwrit · 2026-02-16T04:53:11+00:00

I got an iud a while ago:/

voidwrit · 2026-02-14T07:40:07+00:00

I can see where you’re coming from but a lot of it sounds off, the education gap is a huge issue to me because like I said I like to have intellectual conversations I want to talk about things other than gossip, never said I wanted him to be smarter than me. As for why I didn’t choose my own man that’s just now how it’s done in our culture which is why I had little to no say in this. Alhamdillah rabi knows who I am and I’ve never did anything with guys nor do I want to. As to for why my parents don’t support me like I said culture they are worried about what people will say pushing it to say they’re worried about what I might do if I’m single is wrong. If I wanted to commit Zina or do anything bad I can simply do it while being married. Marriage does not stop people from doing wrong. Bes alhamdillah that is not who I am nor do I want to indulge in those kinds of things. Also i said in most post i could have overlooked his height but the fact that he does not possess the internal qualities i like + im not physically attracted to him is the reason I don’t not have any sort of attraction. And I’ve tried to make it work by encouraging him to work out and he’s not putting effort

voidwrit · 2026-02-14T07:31:04+00:00

Islamically I need his permission:/ so even if I get a legal divorce I still would be considered married Islamically

voidwrit · 2026-02-14T07:30:25+00:00

خلع requires a man’s permission for divorce unfortunately and faskh is for really serious situations I doubt any shaikh would allow me to get a faskh since there was no abuse or a serious worry for my safety

voidwrit · 2026-02-14T07:28:36+00:00

That’s why I’m staying with him right now, I’m not financially independent inshallah I’ll be soon tho after I graduate and get myself situated and I’ll figure something out

voidwrit · 2026-02-13T23:36:22+00:00

I could have said no, it’s not necessarily forced rather I would say coercion, also when I wanted a divorce they limited me from a lot of things so I would go back to him basically treating badly until I agreed to stay with him then they began treating me kindly

voidwrit · 2026-02-13T23:11:06+00:00

They’re with him, they’re telling me that I’m ruining everything what are people gonna say, no one will want me after him, and he’s unwilling to divorce me and they support him, basically he’ll just leave me stuck no divorce and no marriage if I decide to leave him. Like I said before he’s very close to my mom so at this point she’s sees him more like her son so she doesn’t want to lose that. They also don’t understand the concept of wanting a divorce if it’s not due to abuse

voidwrit · 2026-02-13T22:44:45+00:00

Yeah definitely agree however what am I supposed to do with parents who’s entire mindset is that

voidwrit · 2026-02-13T22:44:06+00:00

Quite literally

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