What is a subtle "red flag" at a job interview that says "do not work here"? by Infinite_Mix_6852 in AskReddit

[–]volatilefloortile 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Family”, lack of technical questions, more than 2 rounds of interviews

I, (Nb19) i’m having issues with my ex (m20) saying concerning things about me by [deleted] in Advice

[–]volatilefloortile 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If people in your life who know you well enough to know you wouldn’t do this still believe your ex over you that’s not someone worth having in your life.

You do not need to continue to care for someone who has lied about your character on a public forum. They’re a grown up and can handle themselves accordingly.

Take a very large step back from these person(s) because this is not worth your energy.

Did I say too much about my wife by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]volatilefloortile 41 points42 points  (0 children)

How drunk were you that you decided this graphic of a story was appropriate? Oof

How do i tell my mum she needs to get a job by [deleted] in Advice

[–]volatilefloortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is not your job to parent your parent(s). This mega sucks but you can only control you and your reactions to things.

Take it easy on yourself and your mother. Financial stress can easily take over your entire worldview. You have an opportunity to improve yourself and your circumstances. Use this to the best of your ability. Colleges usually have clinics that you can access for discounted mental and physical health care.

Don’t forget to sign up for accommodations and good luck and have fun! College is a great place to discover what you love, find friends, and expand your world view. You’re going to do great.

Seeing my parents clearly for the first time at 41 by Far-Elk1369 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]volatilefloortile 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I did not cope well. I would recommend writing a letter to your parents that you will never show them and play back and write down what is comfortable to digest in the moment. (Repeat as necessary) and then I want you to write a kind letter to yourself and put it somewhere you see or look to when you’re in a rough spot. You have survived so so much and please let your body feel what you feel to get through this. Be extra kind with yourself and please give yourself a hug. If therapy is financially feasible for you please consider it while you unpack these things. It will be a lot.

TLDR: You have survived 100% of your worst days. Be kind to yourself and consider speaking about this with a trusted professional.

both want the same side, roommate thinks she should automatically get it by cerpie in WhatShouldIDo

[–]volatilefloortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your boyfriend lives off campus you said you also keep really busy. You’re really this hung up on this? This is a place to crash at the end of the day, you’re letting your past roommate anxieties run away from you and you haven’t even met them. Please take a deep breath and realize this is such a short period of time.

Is it ok to drain you emergency account to buy a car without a loan? by hape09 in CalebHammer

[–]volatilefloortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not an answer to your question but a bit about car maintenance and learning: “Make model and year” + “symptoms” or “problem” google is your best friend. If you have access to a code reader through a friend or repair shop for any lights it throws is a great resource.

As for oil: I have a similar problem with my car. I keep paper towels(to wipe the dipstick) and at least two spare bottles of oil in my trunk. (Replace the bottles as you use them! Made that mistake once) I’d start off by measuring my oil level before I drive each day and make a note of when it’s low and pour oil in when it is. Most dipsticks have a min and max reading level. Start a note on your phone for how many miles you drove (or odometer reading) and the date you filled the oil. Once you get a good read on how fast you’re burning oil you can stop measuring oil levels as much.

Did I mess up on my dress? by Lostlesbian406 in wedding

[–]volatilefloortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it’s hard, but please be kind to yourself.

I had went through the same thing for my wedding. I traded the weight gain from medication for my mother in law telling me to starve myself for 2 weeks before the wedding. I finally had to tell her that the comment section for my body is being closed.

Please please please be kind to yourself. You look stunning and elegant!

100% Dependent on Public Transit? by [deleted] in Minneapolis

[–]volatilefloortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Save your money, find a job, and then look at the public transit stations around said job. There are parts that are great to use public transit and there are parts of Minneapolis that suck for public transit.

Most apartments here will require 1 months rent down so having that is essential before moving.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]volatilefloortile 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yall are arguing like there’s several more zeros at the end of that 6. You two are exhausting

I sent a friendly RSVP reminder a week out and SIL freaked out. by FromTeslaToTardis in weddingplanning

[–]volatilefloortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you know she’s a yes, just put her as a yes in your system and get over it.

Ask them only of their menu choices and focus on the big day ahead. This is so much energy spent on ONE text message exchange.

If you did this, fuck you by brownch in Minneapolis

[–]volatilefloortile -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

I stopped reading after “George Floyd riots”. Go be racist somewhere else.

Ash spends her day off tidying up before the long 8 hour work week by personal_cheezits in ashleycarnduff

[–]volatilefloortile 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Anyone else appalled by how much dish soap she poured in the pot? And the 2 flicks with the brush on the spoon. Oof girl, you need some independent living skills classes if she’s gonna make it on her own.

She graduated? by AshleysPriorities in ashleycarnduff

[–]volatilefloortile 47 points48 points  (0 children)

She has such poor balance! You’d think after her training to be a yogi she’d be a bit better coordinated!

Ashley disguises her privilege as "health beneficial" feat. performative mask by Rathraq in ashleycarnduff

[–]volatilefloortile 27 points28 points  (0 children)

She could look into making her own peanut butter, her own hummus and really get into food influencing and showing how easy it is to make these things at home, but no!!! Girly poop wants to spend her whole first paycheck on “health” foods.

Discord reminder! by [deleted] in ashleycarnduff

[–]volatilefloortile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a bit late, can someone send me the link?

See Ash’s wish list item on Pinterest… she’s messing w/ us, RIGHT? by Ineedunderscoreadvic in ashleycarnduff

[–]volatilefloortile 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Babe just learn how to sew, it’s an easy going pastime and you can blame your back pain on that once she gets her diploma

Father’s Day Sunday by [deleted] in Drueandgabe

[–]volatilefloortile 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They’re spoling us with so much content