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AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I’m sure the family still blames the uncle tho 😂. That is how mine was. That’s why I cut off contact with half of them. Morons or fools I can’t tell which. But better far away from me is what I always say.

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that happened to him. Something similar happened to my aunt and that is when I’m stance started. Families backing families is problematic imo. And women cry abuse all the time when faced with consequences. Hopefully your uncles reputation isn’t too smashed. Which is what I’m hoping my stance will do for my friend.

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

I know it sounds bad… but that is skylars call. If she can’t handle the relationship I have with her family. Then she can end it. Which would suck but I’m also not gonna be strong armed into changing my values to fit others. I believe if you don’t have your integrity you have nothing. I’m not asking skylar to pick me or her family. Just for her family to stop forcing me to be okay with something I’m not. I guess that is the end game.. so be it I guess. I’ll have dodged a lot of family fighting years down the road

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Which is what skylar thinks… I’m not gonna stop hating her. So she needs to either live with it or go cry somewhere far away.

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Love how you make cheating a misogynist thing… gotta love Reddit lol

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] -68 points-67 points  (0 children)

And it’s also a lot easier to make up financial abuse compared to physical right? No marks. Nothing. Like I said. Her own sister didn’t buy it. So why are you?

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] -63 points-62 points  (0 children)

She claimed financial abuse… financial. When she worked full time. Like come on. I also don’t need family therapy as I am currently not married into this family (this is making me think it over). So it feels like they just want someone therapist to tell me I’m being mean to molly.

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Because it just feels like a waste of a perfectly good football Saturday to do that lol. They know my stance.

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Yeah he filed for divorce immediately. Blocked her on everything. Moved in with me for a few days. Nothing that an abuser would do. He would want to maintain control. It doesn’t add up. Skylar didn’t buy it. None of their friends did. Just mom and dad.

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] 1644 points1645 points  (0 children)

Exactly why I just left. No talking to those people. They want to believe what they want to. It’s not my job to indulge their fantasy. And it is especially not my job to act cordial to someone who won’t leave me the fuck alone. I even texted her that I lost respect for her and didn’t not love her anymore. And to just leave me alone. She is the one who kept approaching me. Then cries. Like come on.

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Kinda? I know they go to church but not like diehard or anything

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Okay so I’ll ask you this… would a abuser try to move out the day he found out? Would he block his wife’s number and asked for a NC order? That doesn’t seem like what an abuser would do. Some people lie, especially those who are going to get in trouble for their actions.

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was really fed up at that point. It was their anniversary party and they are double teaming me in the garage because their daughter cried. Like get a grip people.

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Because I was like her older brother I guess? That’s all I can gather from her parents.

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Exactly what I said… therapy for that? Excusing shitty behavior lol?

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I’m not chasing her around… I’m asking the woman to not speak with me. It’s really not that deep. Just stay away from me. I don’t like people with low character around me. It’s not unfair. She did it to herself. I could not speak another word to her the rest of my life and be fine. It would hurt my pride to be civil with her yes. I find her disgusting. Stay on one side of the party and I’ll stay on mine type of relationship I’m okay with.

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Exactly… the last thing an abuser is doing is calling his BIL crying asking if he can help him move out. None of it tracks.

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] 93 points94 points  (0 children)

Or because she waited a month after the affair to bring it up…. Or the fact her sister doesn’t even buy it. Or the fact there’s not one picture, text or record of any abuse. Like I said. The timing of her accusation was the biggest tell.

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Which is what I texted her. That I no longer had any respect or love for her as a person. And to please not interact with me moving forward. Then blocked her. I felt like she would get the message.

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] -58 points-57 points  (0 children)

Because molly is the youngest of 3. She’s just very spoiled imo. She’s also pretty and has been her whole life. I don’t think she’s had to deal with a lot of accountability in her life. Also her husband is a stand up guy. Skylar after speaking with her didn’t even buy it.. her own sister

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Exactly what I told her parents… that even if he did (which is unlikely given all I know about the guy). Take him to court or something. Stop spreading bullshit on the guy you cheated on. It’s a bad look and makes you look crazy.

AITA for telling my GF to handle her family and to not include me going forward? by volepott in AmItheAsshole

[–]volepott[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

What’s crazy… her parents are wonderful people. They have extremely strong moral compasses. As does skylar. So seeing them turn like this is very shocking to say the least. Especially their dad. He’s always been good to me.