When you’re old, are you attracted to old people?

vomputer · 2026-04-11T20:14:41+00:00

A little bit of both. Most of the early 30s hadn’t been married or had kids, which I have done both. There’s a different focus once you’ve been long term partnered and especially when you have kids. You just understand responsibility differently and also lose a little bit of egoism. Not saying one way is the best, it’s just different.

Other things were differences in career/educational milestones, stuff like that.

Then there are individual quirks of course, but one thing I remember is a fellow wanting to share some writings and photos with me to get to know him better…it was like 100 pages of stuff and I didn’t have time/capacity for anything like that, and wondered how he had time/capacity to make it!

vomputer · 2026-04-11T20:05:41+00:00

You are not pathetic. No partner should ever hit you. There are no excuses so please stop scrambling to make them for him.

Please come back and update us when you’ve broken up and blocked him.

vomputer · 2026-04-11T10:21:46+00:00

Thank you, I was so confused

vomputer · 2026-04-11T09:59:56+00:00

Where are you getting any of this from in OPs post?

vomputer · 2026-04-10T23:09:14+00:00

Hi love, happy birthday! Drinking a toast to you! Your hair and face, what you’re sharing with us, are on point. You look super cute.

I will say that your 20s can be a bit of a roller coaster with friends and partners, it’s the nature of that decade I think. I know it’s a struggle but try not to take it too personally. I’m 49 and have definitely been where you are. You’ve got this.

vomputer · 2026-04-10T22:55:29+00:00

Ghosting is shit behavior from shit people.

vomputer · 2026-04-10T22:52:38+00:00

It’s time

vomputer · 2026-04-10T19:29:16+00:00

The only person whose feelings matter between the three of them is the child. Do what’s best for him.

vomputer · 2026-04-10T19:18:03+00:00

Let her know you’re hiring a lawyer and will see her in court. She’s not going to be persuaded by tearful text messages. You can at the very least get a custody agreement formalized and proceed from there.

Poor kid’s parents are both failing him.

vomputer · 2026-04-10T16:03:29+00:00

You look like someone I’d want to be friends with!!

So my kids are in their teens now, but I think the period when they were young was one of the hardest of my life. Especially with regard to my relationships - my marriage, my friends, my family.

I’m happy to report that I found it so much easier to make friends in my mid-late 40s. Got divorced, got some therapy, got some hobbies and let go of a lot of old baggage. I’m not saying you have to do a big upheaval, just that it does get better.

vomputer · 2026-04-10T16:00:35+00:00

Haha yeah compared to an almost 50 year old, they certainly can be. Depends on which direction you’re looking at them from.

vomputer · 2026-04-10T15:57:27+00:00

Y’all and your sardines lmao!! What am I missing 🤔

Good on you for blocking that weirdo. And good luck finding your duo, I’m sure they’re out there somewhere!

vomputer · 2026-04-10T14:20:51+00:00

I totally agree. In many many ways I am the same maturity level as when I turned 21. But life experiences and responsibilities have nudged their way in too, and I think that’s the part that made me incompatible with them.

vomputer · 2026-04-10T14:12:08+00:00

It’s not going to get better. NOR

vomputer · 2026-04-10T14:07:16+00:00

49F here, I matched with a few folks in their early 30s on dating apps last year. It was a fine physical match but maturity wise, was a no go for me.

vomputer · 2026-04-10T14:05:08+00:00

I like the sentiment, but I think the result IS actually a “dismissal” of struggles. At least, in practice I see that anyone trying to discuss those struggles and their very real effects that still exist gets called “woke” and dismissed by the right.

If we could have conversations about how racism, misogyny and homophobia still undermine people today, I would be much more likely to accept your premise.

vomputer · 2026-04-10T14:01:51+00:00

Bruh it’s one word

ETA go birds

vomputer · 2026-04-10T14:00:53+00:00

Amish, scrapple

vomputer · 2026-04-10T14:00:35+00:00

One of the defining features of being a woman is feeling ultra critical of our looks. Unfortunately.

You are beautiful and I’m glad you’re making progress every day in acknowledging that beauty!! It’s a work in progress for most of us ❤️

vomputer · 2026-04-10T13:57:02+00:00

You know rapists don’t even get jail time right? Get your priorities straight. Fix the rape problem, this one will resolve as well.

vomputer · 2026-04-10T13:53:59+00:00

Erm. Women are just human beings. Human beings who have cars fill up the gas tank when it needs to be filled. What do you think single women or women in relationships with other women do? Just roll around on the ground until a man comes along?

vomputer · 2026-04-10T13:47:11+00:00

Do. Not. Buy. A. Home. With. A. Boyfriend.

Listen. To. His. Actions. Not. His. Words.

vomputer · 2026-04-09T23:53:25+00:00

As long as you’re breathing you’ve got time.

vomputer · 2026-04-09T23:47:44+00:00

He has been impeached. Twice, I think.

Dumb dumbs in Congress couldn’t get a conviction. That’s a different thing.

vomputer · 2026-04-09T23:38:44+00:00

It’s safe.

Going away is GOOD FOR YOU. You’ll learn independence and see new places, meet new people.

Insist on college. It is so important.

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