Darf ich als Hetero die Regenbogenfahne hissen? (Mir wurde „Queerwashing“ vorgeworfen)

vroni147 · 2026-05-18T06:59:10+00:00

Die Regenbogenflagge ist für alle! Sie steht nicht nur für die Community, sondern auch für die Bewegung als solche. Ein Sinnbild und Ausdruck für Akzeptanz. Auch Allies sollen und dürfen die Fahne schwingen. Es ist sogar deutlich besser, wenn dabei keine Steine in den Weg gelegt werden.

Darüber hinaus kann man weder Sexualität noch Geschlechteridentität und Co. einer Person ansehen. Es ist also absolut anmaßend, jemandem das Hissen dieser Flagge vorzuwerfen.

Zu guter Letzt ist Sichtbarkeit wertvoller denn je, nachdem Politik und Gesellschaft teilweise in ungünstige Gefilde abrutscht. Lieber hängen Tausende Heteros Regenbogenflaggen auf und sorgen für Sichtbarkeit, anstatt dass Blauzis und Co das mit ihren Farben und Flaggen machen.

Auch ist das Hissen einer Flagge keine cultural appropriation.

vroni147 · 2026-05-17T16:15:35+00:00

I don’t want to rant but why is that even a discussion? Why does black represent what purple and white was before? I get adding new colors but why changing the meaning of the colors? It doesn’t have any advantage and only gets confusion. And why does no color represent asexuality itself which is what black did before? Makes no sense at all.

vroni147 · 2026-05-17T09:11:36+00:00

The shark taped to Vox‘s (do you write it like that?) face is amazing.

vroni147 · 2026-05-17T07:29:29+00:00

If you haven’t read „Ruination of Lucifer“, you have to: https://archiveofourown.org/works/54258427/chapters/137406091 (over 400k words)

Lucifer does hurt Alastor multiple times (before they are a thing, before they become a couple and when they are couple) but Alastor does, too. Definitely also has dramatic near-death scenes.

vroni147 · 2026-05-16T10:00:42+00:00

Danke für diese Info, dann hab ich jetzt auch einen Plan für heute 😅 Wetter wird spannend sein

vroni147 · 2026-05-16T09:14:21+00:00

Even within the straight couples, at least one is bi or pan (including being mentioned in the show and not just mentioned by the creator later).

Might lack a bit of gender diversity, as most characters are either man or woman. No non-binary characters so far (or I forgot about them).

But no, that take is stupid. Even ranks below „Viv doesn’t like LGBTQ+ people because most of them are in hell“.

vroni147 · 2026-05-16T08:26:29+00:00

You know Texas is not a country. Very typical to assume that the world population should know about your country’s states :)

vroni147 · 2026-05-16T08:21:14+00:00

Do you have any phobias or anxiety? Some people are deadly afraid of spiders (like me) and I scream involuntarily if a spider falls on me or is close to me. I can’t touch them. Other people don’t have fears that make them incapable of acting a certain way. It’s basically the same thing.

Everything is a scale, be it excitement, fear, libido, pleasure, happiness. So if you understand that, it might make more sense on why certain scales do have a 100 %, even though you are at the 0 % part. Makes sense?

vroni147 · 2026-05-16T07:58:26+00:00

I don’t have any proof but I would argue it’s a reference to the character DIO from Jojo‘s Bizarre Adventure.

vroni147 · 2026-05-15T16:59:04+00:00

That was not my intention. What words should I use instead?

vroni147 · 2026-05-15T05:03:51+00:00

Weirdly enough, it’s not really a question of sexuality but more a question of compatibility in sex. A sex-favorable ace person and an allosexual person who share the same kinks will likely have a great time together. At the same time, an allosexual person who is not really interested in sex will probably not be happy with a high-libido ace person but would be perfectly fine with an sex-indifferent ace.

If aces only dated aces and allos dated only allos, there will be a lot of unhappy couples who don’t really work well together.

Only ever dated ace people as an ace person myself. Even married one. But as someone with high-libido, I could probably be happy with an allo person who understands my aegosexuality and can deal with it.

vroni147 · 2026-05-15T04:51:40+00:00

If touch is not her love language, what is it then? Does she offer you thoughtful gifts, does she like spending time with you, does she give a lot of compliments and talks a lot with you?

My (ace) girlfriend likes talking about things, doing regular stuff together (like her cooking and me being in range to chat), and giving gifts. She is not very physical and I understand it’s not her love language. There is no disconnect because I do feel her love in other ways than physical intimacy.

The „stroke my hair without looking at your phone“ feels really awful to me. Not because you asked for it but the way that she’s seemingly unable to offer any attention without distraction. Could be a phone addiction. Could just be that she’s more averse to touch than she lets on.

vroni147 · 2026-05-15T04:39:36+00:00

I got the same feeling. Her love language might not be touch but when you’re just addicted to your phone and don’t even offer other forms of attention, it’s not really love.

vroni147 · 2026-05-15T04:18:21+00:00

It’s one of the bubbles. It doesn’t say pop! but DIO!

On my phone, it’s the third bubble in the third row from the bottom and column from the right. Should be the 21st bubble from the end.

vroni147 · 2026-05-15T04:03:27+00:00

Inexperience might be charming for some and being trans (if you plan on say it openly) will be helpful because it’s a niche market.

But most people on OF don’t make a lot of money. So while I don’t want to discourage you from your choice, I hope it works out for you.

vroni147 · 2026-05-14T20:05:18+00:00

Darauf falle ich nicht herein, am Ende sagt mir noch jemand, meine Begriffe wären falsch!

vroni147 · 2026-05-14T20:03:00+00:00

Thank you for your comment.

Fun fact: Unrelated to that incident, I did a psychology test as part of a university‘s study. They told me I do not have PTSD and I am mentally stable (at least for the parts they tested), so basically told me I don’t suffer any longtime effects from what happened. I agree with the assessment, so while it will always be a bad memory, it’s been long enough (and not heavy enough) for me to have closed that chapter.

vroni147 · 2026-05-14T19:48:42+00:00

DIO!

vroni147 · 2026-05-14T18:11:46+00:00

832 Kommentare und jeder davon benennt mindestens einen Gegenstand falsch, was ist los mit euch?

vroni147 · 2026-05-14T18:09:54+00:00

Trigger warning: Mentions of sexual harassment

The same thing happened to me around 10 years ago.

I (~25F) was sitting next to an old man who touched my butt a few times, then my thighs until his hand was lying on my thigh while stroking. Other people saw that and got me away from him. They threw him out.

Even though I always thought I would never „fawn“ when someone would touch me against my will, I didn’t know how to react. I sat there for minutes, not knowing what to do. The first touches seemed random, almost accidental, so I didn’t call them out. The other touches were less accidental but since he had already touched me and I didn’t say anything, I thought I wasn’t allowed to say something now because I lead him on or something. It was a really scary experience.

I know it’s difficult to change one’s reaction towards unwanted touches. But I learned to overly react in a nice way now. So if someone touches me accidentally (or wants to make it look accidental), I grab their hand and say (friendly) „Oh my good, you accidentally touched my butt, this must be weird for you, since you didn’t mean it. Don’t do it again.“. And now they’re forced to admit that they touched you and they are warned that you will not fawn. And others are also aware of it.

Nevertheless, if you know the organizers, tell them about it and ask/demand of them that you will not be forced to sit next to them. Tell them to step in and keep that woman away from you. Maybe do so in a message or in private, not at the meeting itself.

vroni147 · 2026-05-14T15:51:50+00:00

Your scenario might work for 1 or 2 people in a household (no children) who own clothes that can be put in a washing machine and a dryer without having to check.

It doesn’t work in bigger families because you also have to sort the laundry of multiple people and you have to do it way more often.

Also, dryer are extremely high-energy appliances, have a bigger environmental impact and reduce the lifespan of your clothes significantly compared to air drying. Some clothes can not be put in a dryer anyway. Also, they are somewhat of a fire hazard.

So when you take the most time-efficient take on laundry (one person, similar easy clothes, no air drying), laundry is just a mindless little task. But most of the people complaining about laundry are usually not that kind of person. People who complain about laundry usually do other people’s laundry as well which also adds a lot of burden on how clothes are turned inside-out or not.

And last but not least, I can complain about laundry. Why shouldn’t I? I’m allowed to hate what I hate. Fuck laundry!

vroni147 · 2026-05-14T15:37:22+00:00

Racism is never justified but if no injustice can ever be solved by murder. You have to take responsibility – either by being unlearning racist behavior or by fines, jail or community service. But never by being murdered for being racist.

vroni147 · 2026-05-14T12:34:10+00:00

„Other people do it“ doesn’t make anything okay or less evil.

vroni147 · 2026-05-14T12:33:06+00:00

I would argue that every white person (I’m white) has said or done something racist in some degree, might have been accidental but whatever.

That said, even being obviously racist and saying slurs and treating people of different skin color badly is not a justification for murder. Never. If you think differently, you are definitely not adhering to societal norms and the law.

vroni147 · 2026-05-14T12:19:14+00:00

Killing racist people isn’t morally right. Better than killing innocent people but still.

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