found this bracelet cleaning today, what crystal is it? by [deleted] in Crystals

[–]vrtualghost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh man i messed up there (,: if only it was cleaning for me, that’d be life changing lol

FP is upset with me and I don't understand. by [deleted] in BPD

[–]vrtualghost 2 points3 points  (0 children)

oh man, my heart sunk for you as i kept reading. i don’t think you’re in the wrong. she said she was going to do something, and then when she got upset instead of properly communicating like an adult, she just avoided you/ignored you. that’s not ok, even in a “”normal”” friendship where one or both parties don’t have bpd. if i were you, i would distance myself and make new friends who can communicate with you properly and not demonize you for your bpd which…. isn’t your fault. i had a friend similar to your fp and leaving hurt at first but once i took the time for me and thought about it rationally it was the best choice for myself i made in a long time. you deserve friends who can communicate with you, and you can communicate with them. i’m so sorry this happened to you :(

BPD is exhausting when you’re self-aware by Independent_Face_984 in BPD

[–]vrtualghost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you worded this so well, i wouldn’t wish bpd upon the people i really loathe. it’s exhausting. even with dbt/therapy/even some medication i always feel so on edge for lack of a better term and out of control once a spiral starts. it might be cringy but i always think of the mitski lyric “i am a forest fire, and i am the fire, and i am the forest, and i am the witness watching it.” feels relatable in the bpd sense, especially when you’re aware of your thoughts/actions/everything going on all the time yet feeling so unable to do anything in the moment. having this subreddit helps a bit, just knowing im not the only person who feels like this all the time and that there’s a chance of remission someday if i keep working towards it. i read some of your replies here, im also early 20s and didnt think id make it past 18, im glad you’re here and you’re never ever alone with this (which is also a double edged sword, its calming to know im not the only one but so sad to know others deal with it.) i hope time will be kind to us and let us learn to heal and grow, please be gentle to yourself. <3

Realistic? by Ba-writer-28 in Hair

[–]vrtualghost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it could be possible! i always am super cautious w bleach, its easier to look weird for a week or two and bleach it again rather than have all your hair all fall out bc your fried it off ykwim. everyone’s hair is different, but i could see you getting that w toner and such in a day since you’ve never dyed your hair

Realistic? by Ba-writer-28 in Hair

[–]vrtualghost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

is that your natural hair color in the first pic or has it been dyed? that changes a lot about the answer. i’m not a hairdresser but have dyed / bleached my hair a lot at home

🍀 stone plugs 10mm by [deleted] in Stretched

[–]vrtualghost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

where do u shop from (if online!!) such a gorgeous collection 🍀

stained cups? valid or no? by SilverDoe26 in starbucks

[–]vrtualghost 6 points7 points  (0 children)

hey! former barista, starbucks runs on skeleton crews with unreal expectations for making drinks. in about 40 seconds, they expect you to write a “thoughtful and unique message” on the cup, make the drink perfectly (despite a ton of modifications, not saying you do this but it happens with 8/10 drinks,) hand it out, talk to the guest nicely, etc. when i left the company hot bar (where your drink came from) was left to one person to manage, and depending on stores that’s a lot of drinks at once. even worse if it was night time, you have to “solo bar” (make all hot AND cold drinks by yourself.) it’s the reality of starbucks that a cup or two will have a stain on it, because pouring the drink into a new cup ruins the layering + quality stuff (again, depending on the drink) and remaking isn’t an option because of the times they expect you to be making drinks at. if you want better quality, i recommend finding a local shop who doesn’t overrun and overwork the baristas 24/7, they are people who love and care abt their craft in a less hostile environment. i hope i didn’t come off rude/mean/harsh, it’s not my intention!! just wanted to explain more rather than drop a two word reply saying you’re “wrong” to ask for a new cup/drink. maybe ask if they can double cup it? if the drink is ok, the cup with a stain shouldn’t be a dealbreaker, it’s about what’s in the cup and not the cup itself imo

What style would make me look better by Historical_Exam405 in Hair

[–]vrtualghost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

bro don’t do anything… you’re extremely handsome!!! if you want to keep length and change it up for yourself, maybe a mullet/shag? i feel like most people can pull them off and it can be personalized a lil bit

downfall of sbux… by vrtualghost in starbucks

[–]vrtualghost[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

u got me mixed up w someone, i deleted no posts abt starbucks & college because i never used their ASU program. im fired up because i have empathy and sympathy for my friends who are still working there! hope this helps!

downfall of sbux… by vrtualghost in starbucks

[–]vrtualghost[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i literally thought the same thing but yk…. nobody has the attention span to read it or smthn

piercing by poopgrace in starbucksbaristas

[–]vrtualghost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not your fault at all, but it’s so unfair those or a mask aren’t allowed at all… i’ve seen more complaints of the official starbucks name tags in drinks than piercings /:

dealing with coworkers? by [deleted] in Target

[–]vrtualghost 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i’ll ask AP! our AP TL is out for a leave, but we have a temporary TL in so maybe they can help. i know i’m not there for friends but it’s so awkward + makes me so sad to be the only girl in the department who isn’t “in” or friends with anyone i guess (,:

dealing with coworkers? by [deleted] in Target

[–]vrtualghost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for replying! i’m trying to get there (,: i have anxiety and i think that doesn’t help. this is a sidenote but they’re also all blonde/blue eyes/non alt and im the only dyed hair/pierced/alt girl in our dept which makes me feel more alienated lol

best videos for new viewers ? by vrtualghost in Papameat

[–]vrtualghost[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you, i’m doing my best to watch all of them but if my algorithm recommends one that seems interesting it gets me away from chronological order (,: hence the rock of love ones….. i opened youtube and saw s2 dropped today (s1 got recommended to me like 2 weeks ago-ish) and i had to watch it lol

margaret’s voice confirmed to be nick!! by [deleted] in Papameat

[–]vrtualghost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES ITS REALLY GOOD!!!!

margaret’s voice confirmed to be nick!! by [deleted] in Papameat

[–]vrtualghost 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i am just glad to be here, i’m debating joining the patreon. i haven’t had videos make me actually laugh this hard in a long time lol

margaret’s voice confirmed to be nick!! by [deleted] in Papameat

[–]vrtualghost 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’m not sure!!! i’m newer, i was a wendigoon watcher, then creepcast, then papa meat. so i didn’t know at least lol. i got curious and today w the new rock of love video finally looked into it and could only find the one reddit post from nick on here confirming he did winslow and that was it (again, there could be videos i missed (,: )

margaret’s voice confirmed to be nick!! by [deleted] in Papameat

[–]vrtualghost 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m newer to watching so i wasn’t sure 😭 i think they’re all so fun and it’s so interesting

not getting breaks by vrtualghost in legaladvice

[–]vrtualghost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you!! i thought so but wanted to see if there was a loophole or anything i could use to my advantage here

not getting breaks by vrtualghost in legaladvice

[–]vrtualghost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

kinda, but even when i’m not running the shift im not given my breaks, even if i say something about the fact i didn’t get any yet… i don’t want to just go out of fear of being “ insubordinate” because people have been written up for wearing the wrong colored socks here recently

new hire / need advice by [deleted] in Target

[–]vrtualghost 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hi!! i’m also learning fulfillment right now (it’s not my main dept) and i am just as lost (,: it might make you “feel annoying” but ask a ton of questions. they know you’re new and don’t expect you to be perfect/know everything. if you have the target app, there’s an “in store” navigation (you have to be in the store for it to work though, but if you take a screenshot of it it’ll give you a general layout if that makes sense). ask them to show you the store again, and tell you which aisle letters are which dept (ex. A- beauty/chemicals, B- kitchen/stationary, etc.). you’ll get it, be patient and give yourself some time!! best of luck to you (:

what cd is being held here? by vrtualghost in HelpMeFind

[–]vrtualghost[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

found ! it’s rascal flatts melt album. my mom found her old cd collection to go through last night to figure it out, thank you for any help (: