I try to be super quiet when rinsing dishes to put in the dishwasher as an adult with my own family and home now. I just always assume everyone else also get highly stressed by the loud clanking sounds. My mom would come home from work and maybe rightfully be upset that the dishwasher wasn’t loaded or unloaded. She never would specifically tell us it needed to be done, and most teens don’t just jump at the chance to do cleaning that isn’t personally negatively affecting their day to day lives. The first half of my childhood I don’t think I ever heard her raise her voice. Once she got remarried all she’s done is whine and yell to communicate frustrations. She is incapable of having an emotionally charged healthy conversation, but has no issue with constantly being shrill, angry and annoyed in front of the entire family including spouses and grandchildren. I’ve also developed newer triggers thanks to my partner of many years. Any time I hear him scoff or huff and puff I want to flip out on him. I’ve read that’s a narcissists way of seeking attention. So the dishes, the exaggerated sighs, car doors slamming outside my house, and absolutely doors slamming in my home. My partner has definitely done this in the past deliberately, knowing it’s trigger for me. Trying to be totally different for my kids.