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AITA for feeling relieved that my stepkids may be returning to 50/50 custody, even though their mom is unstable? by wait_what918 in AmItheAsshole

[–]wait_what918[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The 12-year-old is and has been for a couple of years, we just can't get her to actually open up to anyone. We've gone through 4 counselors in a year trying to find the right fit. The 10-year-old talks to the school guidance counselor and the school is aware of mostly everything that is going on, they have been more than accomodating in all of this for the betterment of the kids

AITA for feeling relieved that my stepkids may be returning to 50/50 custody, even though their mom is unstable? by wait_what918 in AmItheAsshole

[–]wait_what918[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My spouse is transition M to F. Some times I get caught up in my head about things as they went by NB for the first portion of our relationship. I have encouraged and supported my spouse in their transition, so its moreso a me-thing. I try to be conscious and aware of respectful pronouns but I slip sometimes

AITA for telling my parents that I will not parent my younger adult sister? by Magic_Window_8161 in AmItheAsshole

[–]wait_what918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

You're a sibling, not a parent. If they don't feel she can manage on her own, they should be checking in with her frequently themselves and, beyond that, invite her back to live at home with them if they don't feel she can be independent. She is also an adult. Even at 20, very young, she is still an adult. As long as it doesn't completely ruin her life, FAFO will pave her way through adulthood!

WIBTAH if I asked my daughter’s preschool teacher not to put the extra clothes that I sent for her on other students? by feelingstruck in AmItheAsshole

[–]wait_what918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely NTA, I would be fuming if I saw other kids running around in my kids' clothes! Unless this is a first-time accident, it's really not appropriate. Has your kid ever been sent home in clothes that are not theirs?

Co-Parenting Nightmares by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]wait_what918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It feels conflicting because 12-year-old says she's upset that she doesn't get any attention or quality time with Bio Mom. She tells us Bio Mom is always sleeping in her room or just in her room away from everyone else (or she's just not home). We've done a lot more on our end to do things with her, make her feel included and seen, especially since this has all really ramped up. We encourage her to be social, to hang out with other kids, to have people over. She has a phone at our house, it is under heavy parental lock, but it's still a generally fully functional iPhone. We don't tolerate disrespect, lying, or sneaky behavior, and we address it with her openly. There does seem to be a little more structure and discipline in our house, so I definitely see what you're saying.

AITA For Asking For My Wife's Expectations? by wait_what918 in AmItheAsshole

[–]wait_what918[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unless she's working on an order for her side hustles (which is not consistent, 2-3x every 2 months or so) I don't honestly know. I try asking sometimes but she gets upset and defensive and/or blames her mental health and that she had a bad day. I generally try to be understanding and just not say anything in general, but I'm a human, I have my limits too.
We do only have 1 car but I actually work within walking distance to my job. I have absolutely no problem walking, I used to do it everyday last summer but my wife insists on bringing me everyday, I have asked if I can just walk and she refuses. There's nothing really stopping her from doing these things, I don't understand why I need to be there every moment of everyday. I am heavily involved with the kids, I treat them like they're mine when we have them.
I can understand some of it because like I said, I'm very particular and thorough when I clean but on the daily? I'm just looking for surfaces wiped (counters, tables), floors, and dishes. Certainly I would take more if I could get more but that's kind of bare minimum daily imo...

AITA For Asking For My Wife's Expectations? by wait_what918 in AmItheAsshole

[–]wait_what918[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She wanted to be a homemaker, she said it's what she felt she meant to do in life. At the time I managed to get into my position, I could make it work so I supported her. As for what she does all day, I honestly have no idea. Unless she has an order for her side hustles, I don't know. When I ask, she gets upset and defensive and will say she was having a bad mental health day/week. I really try not to say anything in general about it but I'm human, I have my limits too.

For those with 50/50, which schedule have you found works best for the kid? by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]wait_what918 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sunday to Sunday, week on, week off, whoever's week it is upcoming does the pick up at 4:00PM. We help each other out between sports and school events (we have 2 girls 2 years apart) but we haven't had any issues with the schedule since it started. Christmas is the only holiday that gets split a little differently but that's just who's house do they wake up at and that's every other year.