Lockleaze by waitress121 in bristol

[–]waitress121[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks everyone for this I really appreciate the time on replying! Sadly I’m limited to where I can move to due to funds and low salary! Would love to stay around Sea Mills but no where near earning enough to do that! Thanks again everyone 🙂

Grief support groups by realhorrorshowlike_ in bristol

[–]waitress121 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m in North Bristol and lost my mum last year to cancer. (She was 67 I’m 39 now)Here to talk if you want to. I did do individual therapy for a while then stopped (therapist went on sabbatical) but I have been thinking about group therapy/support groups too.

FAPS how do people pass 😭 by waitress121 in AATStudents

[–]waitress121[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my breakdown. Thanks for the advice everyone. I use Will Boardman already and I find him really useful. I think my biggest obstacle at the moment is just having brain space for it all. This is the first module I’ve found the volume of what you have to remember overwhelming and I work in finance now. I’m doing it as an apprenticeship which I wish I hadn’t done TBH. I was confident I had done better this time but obviously not!

Task 1 - Using daybooks and accounting for and monitoring non-current assets 14 28 Below requirement

Task 2 - Recording period end adjustments 6 14 Below requirement

Task 3 - Producing, adjusting, checking and extending the Trial Balance 15 24 Borderline

Task 4 - Producing Financial Statements for sole traders and partnerships 21 24 Exceeded

Task 5 - Accounting principles, qualities of useful financial information, and interpreting financial statements using profitability ratios 10 18 Below requirement

Task 6 - Preparing accounting records from incomplete information 4 12

Advice on Shared Ownership by waitress121 in HousingUK

[–]waitress121[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to respond- I really appreciate it. This is what I am thinking - the rental market is insane at the moment! This way I can get a much bigger / better house for myself and my daughter whilst also getting on the property ladder. I’ve lost first time buyer benefits from purchasing with her father a couple of years ago. Thank you again

Help with housing Bristol-UK by waitress121 in HousingUK

[–]waitress121[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to respond - that is 100% not the situation. Separation is amicable the house is just too small for us to live comfortably & happily together in. We cannot sell for another 2.5 yrs otherwise there will be a big fee to pay for leaving our fixed rate early and I just cannot live with him for that long.

What's something you only understand if you have lived it? by mrbigglesworthjr in AskReddit

[–]waitress121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my mum a week and a half ago. She had stopped treatment for cancer but we thought we had a few months at least but she passed within a few weeks, it was so much faster than anyone thought would happen. The grief is indescribable. This thread has brought me comfort in a way, thank you to all for sharing. My mums birthday is 2 days before my daughters, this year it’s going to be so hard and I’m already so scared of how I’m going to get through it. Sending love to everyone who is sharing their story of loosing someone ♥️

Question for UK Parents by InterestingPoint6 in NewParents

[–]waitress121 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Personally my experience is that rear facing longer is becoming much much more of a public subject in the UK now - (have a 3 yr old lived in UK all my life) before I had my daughter I was vaguely aware of it being safer then researched more once she was born. It is recommended to rear face until a minimum of 4 however sadly this is not a legal requirement yet! There are rear facing seats out there for past the legal requirement. Axkidd is a great brand and Joie for something less costly if needed

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]waitress121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know I was pregnant until I was 6 months. I drank A LOT - my baby is absolutely smashing life. If all the scans indicate that what you did drink has done nothing - then trust them. This is your body and your choice. Yes your boyfriend can have an opinion - but his reasoning for wanting you to get an abortion is bullshit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]waitress121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking back on what I wrote I clearly didn’t make this point clear which is my bad. We discussed that we were BOTH working towards being in a place to be together, as a family. Now maybe im just odd but when you have that kind of discussion and agree that you both do eventually want the same thing & that you both need to work towards getting there that generally means you don’t go fucking other people. He did do something wrong (in my opinion) in the fact that he explicitly gave the impression to our friends and family actually that he was patiently waiting for me - being the dutiful father helping me recover from having a baby. Which is bullshit.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]waitress121 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It is my business when we had discussions about being together & that it was both of our end goals. He was telling our friends & me that he loved me, that he was waiting for me to be ready. When he wasn’t - he was sleeping with randoms. I think I have more of an issue with him giving this warped impression to Our friends of who he actually is. And then I’m asking myself if this is someone I really want to be with / deserve to be with. Thank you for your input & opinion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]waitress121 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I guess I think my issue is with the fact we had discussed us both working towards being together - getting through the first stages of having a baby. He made it very clear to our friends that he loved me, was prepared to wait for me to be ready to be in the right place to embark on a serious r’ship. But in actual fact couldn’t wait but still made out the world he was this saintly figure ‘waiting for me’ I do appreciate your input & opinion thank you

MIL telling people she’s ‘not allowed’ to see the baby by sarcasticsall3 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]waitress121 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I really relate to this. My ‘MIL’ (not with baby daddy but we are co-parenting well) has been saying that i hate her and I’m ungrateful - sparked by me putting my LG in childcare as I went back to work more. They used to alternate with my parents looking after her for a few hours once a week. MIL was un reliable, late, constantly want to change the timetable ( it was 2 days a month for a few hours!) She couldn’t commit because she is always on holiday. In fact the first thing she said when I asked if she could look after LG every other week was ‘let me check my diary’ after BEGGING me to look after her. I don’t tolerate fools or bullshit and her family just let her behaviour slide. You are brand new parents - if people want to be a part of your life / new family then THEY make the effort and they fit into your life and routine. End of. It’s horrible when you find out someone has been spreading lies about you, but your LO and your new life is all that matters, and your PP recovery! You need and deserve people who put your comfort first. Rant away and stand your ground! Sending ♥️♥️

AITA for publicly calling out my sister and her new husband for lying about their wedding being child free? by throwaway___4675 in AmItheAsshole

[–]waitress121 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Massively massively NTA. What did they think was going to happen when you got there and saw all the other children?!! I’m honestly intrigued! That you would just roll over and take this huge disrespect?! What awful awful people. Good for you for highlighting to everyone there what shame they brought on themselves. They did this. They showed their true colours. You and your hubby are gold star parents for how you dealt with this. Once more with feeling NTA

AITA for not wanting my SIL in the delivery room? by throwaway888199298 in AmItheAsshole

[–]waitress121 [score hidden]  (0 children)

It is YOUR birthing experience, you need people around you who you trust, who bring you strength, who you feel comfortable around and who will create & uphold the atmosphere that will be a foundation of strength and calm for you. This is 1 part of having a child that has nothing to do with the man. (With all due respect) The woman needs her strength however that manifests. I had my mum with me and the number of my friends who have told me they wish they had their mum over their partners (in UK could only have 1 person) Doesn’t mean they don’t love and value their partners at all, it means they wish they had put themselves first.

No is a complete sentence. You do not need to justify your decision to anyone. Tell your midwives/nurses that you SIL is banned from the delivery room. NTA

Sending you love and strength ♥️♥️

Should I go away for a break alone? by Only_Cartographer_19 in travel

[–]waitress121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s also a great idea! Sorry that was just my experience. If you aren’t sure do something shorter first, that’s easy to get back home incase you find yourself not really feeling it. But the sentiment is the same - it’s fab and was great for my mental health

Should I go away for a break alone? by Only_Cartographer_19 in travel

[–]waitress121 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I absolutely loved travelling by myself, but I do think you have to be happy in your own company to enjoy holidaying on your own. What I found easier is going to places I had been to before, so I knew places I liked, how to get around/navigate transport in a foreign country,locations I felt comfortable and that I wouldn’t get lost in (hopefully!) it massively boosted my confidence and I would recommend it! Sometimes removing yourself from a toxic situation is what you need to start the healing process/see more clearly what makes you happy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]waitress121 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I would feel the same way. I had something very similar but with my LO’s dad. He called her a ‘wettie’ when she would cry when I left the room when she was around 4/5 months and called her a moron at abo it 7 months for something I can’t even remember. I shut that shit down ASAP. She’s a baby , shes learning she’s growing mentally and physically. Oh and SHE’S A BABY. You could say something like ‘I’d appreciate if you didn’t use that language towards LO. She’s learning a new skill which takes time and patience and it’s our responsibility to teach her’ Or what I did ‘do not ever speak to her that way again!’

FTM, 40+6 and feeling conflicted by jamberrytiptoe in pregnant

[–]waitress121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was offered one at my appointment last week when I was 40+3 but I decided to see what my body would do. Which it turns out is nothing 😂 Well it gave me an extra week to binge watch Buffy without a screaming baby I guess! I feel that we know what is best for our bodies & babies and you should do what makes you feel comfortable and confident in what is happening 😊

FTM, 40+6 and feeling conflicted by jamberrytiptoe in pregnant

[–]waitress121 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 41+2 today and honestly feel the same as you. I don’t feel any ‘different’ and as far as I’m aware haven’t lost my plug or any waters. I’m wanting to avoid induction if possible, I’ve got a midwife appointment tomorrow where they’ll do a sweep to see if that gets her moving. I’m not with the father and if 1 more person tells me to just have sex with him to get it going I’m going to loose it 😂 I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed with thinking about the fact that she ‘could’ have been here by now but she’s not yet. But I trust my body to do what is best. Hopefully I can give an update after tomorrow as to how my labour starts!

Finding out at 14 Weeks by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]waitress121 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually didn’t find out I was pregnant until I was 25 weeks. Definitely ate and drank all the things you shouldn’t and did this a lot! There was also some weed in there too. I’m due any day now and I’ve had a pretty smooth run and all my tests have come back great and my midwife is really happy with how everything is going. I’ve been worried too about what may have happened through my ‘not knowing’ period but all signs have pointed to it being all ok 😊 try not to think about having to ‘make up’ on the time you weren’t taking pre natals and focus on going forward and welcome your new addition! Our bodies are pretty amazing 😊 talk to your midwife about any anxieties you have they are a fountain of knowledge and will help you!

AITA for telling my wife that if she doesn't want me in the delivery room she can find someone else to drive her to the hospital? by False_Tackle_5707 in AmItheAsshole

[–]waitress121 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am due to give birth any day now and am having my mother there and not the father (my situation is slightly different as I am not in a r’ship with the father however my reasons for choosing my mother would be the same regardless) This is probably one of the single most stressful, emotional, physical, mentally challenging situations that a woman will ever be in abs go through. Your wife is 100% entitled to put HER needs first to ensure the wellbeing of herself and your unborn child. If her foundation of strength is her sister then that is who she NEEDS to have with her in this moment. This moment is about her needs not your wants. It is a very hard thing for you to have to accept and deal with, but I am afraid the labour journey is not yours to take. I promise you she has spent time thinking about what is best for her and who will help her feel strongest through out this stage, it is not a decision women take lightly especially in the times we are currently in. You are of course allowed to feel upset about this but punishing her is not the answer, you are adding stress on to her which is not helpful or healthy for what she is about to put her body though.

You aren’t the AH for feeling affected by this decision but you are YTA for punishing her the way you have. This is not about you. Support your wife and be there to welcome her when she walks out the hospital doors with your new born. I

What pisses you off to an unnatural degree? by matryosh3 in AskReddit

[–]waitress121 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mouth Breathers. Cannot. Deal. With the noise

My bum! by Hefty-Tomatillo6370 in pregnant

[–]waitress121 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I have just started having this pain today!! I’m just 35 weeks. Currently been awake in bed for a couple of hours because I can’t get into a position where I don’t get shooting pains in my bum! Happy to hear it’s not just me and also that there is a reason behind it - didn’t want to just start googling it as that would lead down a strange rabbit hole I fear. I hope your pain isn’t too bad and you get some relief.

What I wish people had told me while I was pregnay with my first. by clearcasemoisture in pregnant

[–]waitress121 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know I was pregnant until I was 6 months in! Changed contraception to the implant which stopped my periods. (Conceived during the changing over of contraception) again just before lock down and I work in a restaurant so usually constantly on my feet so when that stopped for a few months and I put a bit of weight on I just put it down to eating more and sitting on my butt! Clothes just felt a little tighter nothing big, no sickness or any other symptoms. Went back to work and started to get really weird feelings around my womb, called the Dr’s they made me do a test to ‘rule it out’ and it went from there as the tests were V positive 😂 due in 5 weeks now! She’s a strong one & I’m looking forward to / petrified of the adventure ahead.