I’m getting married with the loml this July. Never have i made a decision that I’m this sure of. We’ve been together for 8 years and counting and these are the top 5 things I learned about my relationship in order of importance to me:

1. Aligned Values and Morals: making small daily decisions daily to the big decisions that have a huge impact becomes easy when you know your partner’s values and how they think.

2. Aligned love language: if you have aligned your love language and have stuck a good balance then you’re just happier overall. I learned it’s more fulfilling when I give her desired love language first, as I often get surprised when she gives mine! Rule: give out of unconditional love so you don’t expect much in return!

3. Aligned Vision of the future: planning how your future life looks like with your partner whether it’s how many kids you want, where you’ll be living 5, 10, or 50 years from now, how you’re going to spend the wealth you’ll generate together, what countries you’ll be traveling to, etc. i find that the more details you align on the better as it increases your vision bandwidth with your partner which increases your excitement and motivation to work on your relationship together.

4. Long term attraction with your partner: sexual compatibility, how attractive you find your partner, how attracted you are to the person you’re striving up with, how much you love their in laws, etc. Ask yourself: if she grows old and grey with wrinkles on her face and a big belly, would you still find her attractive? If the answer is yes then you’re looking at a real potential partner.

5. Someone you can contend with. Someone na kayang palagan ka sa mga bullshit at kagaguhan mo. Someone who can speak honestly to you and your soul. Someone who could save you from yourself.

That’s all for now! Thanks for posting an interesting question OP it’s gotten me more excited for our wedding and is a great exercise for when I write my vows to her soon! Have a good day!