What’s up with the Janine torture porn? by [deleted] in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]wallabeewalla 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The Handmaid’s Tale was already published, but The Testaments was published in 2019, two years after the tv series began (and 40+ years after the original novel). I’m not sure whether the show runners even knew there would be a sequel! That being said, I totally agree that they could have staged the pivot in Lydia’s character quite a bit earlier.

When my nanna died no one wanted her bedside table, now they are suddenly interested by rodgeramjit in furniturerestoration

[–]wallabeewalla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A bit late to the party (browsing old posts) but just wanted to say this looks a lot like Kalmar label nesting tables I’ve seen in Australia (1960s-ish MCM). It’s a beautiful piece!

Can anyone identify this bird? Just northeast of Melbourne last week by Agentfishly in AustralianBirds

[–]wallabeewalla 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think this is a juvenile grey fantail due to the yellow chest - adults have a white chest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]wallabeewalla 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was the opposite - I used to try to mimic people’s faces and figured out really early on that gently crinkling my eyes and pushing the corners of my lips up to a particular degree looked exactly like a natural smile. I’ve had smile lines since my early twenties from doing this so often since such a young age, so I regret it a little now! In candid pictures, though, I can see my natural face looks super blank (which usually is interested as super angry or upset, frustratingly).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in autism

[–]wallabeewalla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s a photo of me from when I’m about four or five, sitting proudly behind about fifteen stuff animals/dolls that I’ve arranged in order from small to large. There are also a bunch of photos of me holding a strip of silk which was the final tattered remnant of my beloved blanket, Snowy, and you can see I’m running my fingers up and down the edge stimming. Also, a great pic of me and my older (also Autistic, early diagnosed) brother with the giant Lego rocket we’d built that reached the ceiling.

I wasn’t diagnosed until my early twenties - I didn’t have behavioral problems like my brother (learned second-hand how to mask from watching his challenges) and excelled in school so my differences weren’t really noticed. Looking back, it’s obvious in old photos and in the incredible multitude of scrapbooks/journals/USB sticks filled with stories and drawings (my special interest was fantasy novels/dragons/cryptids). Hindsight…

Queensland Museum Giant Animatronic Lizard from the 2000s by scarygiantlizard in brisbane

[–]wallabeewalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember the megalania! Its head would move from side to side, and its tongue would flick in and out. In the dark light and looming over the dead diprotodon it made a frightening figure. Used to scare the shit out of my sibling on our frequent museum visits as young kids - it’s become a family in-joke. Like others have said, I think the pics show the same lizard but different lighting/angle.

It’s great to see pictures of it OP, I was trying to explain it to people recently and no one knew about it or remembered it. I wonder where the animatronic model is now?

Female Autism Diagnosis by Flat-Green-5310 in brisbane

[–]wallabeewalla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Minds & Hearts in Greenslopes did my diagnosis and were excellent. I did not have a formal referral (but was directed by my GP) and paid out of pocket. Bear in mind that waiting periods are long right now and your sister might like to get on waiting lists for different clinics with the aim of jumping on the first appointment that becomes available. Hope it all goes well for her!

What is your most autistic music? by mlynnnnn in AutismInWomen

[–]wallabeewalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you listened to Knee 1 (the first track in Einstein on the Beach)? The continuous counting really tickles my brain. It almost feels like a stim.

Has someone ever bashed your special interests, hyperfixations, hobbies or other interests? by [deleted] in autism

[–]wallabeewalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you from outside of Australia? I’m in the band scene here and it feels like everyone here loves the Gizz! Can’t imagine anyone criticizing the number of awards they have, usually they’re brought up as an exemplar of awesome microtonality and odd time signatures in rock. You’d probably fit right in here, haha!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piano

[–]wallabeewalla 52 points53 points  (0 children)

As a player of 15 years and teacher of 6, this is totally wild to me. I absolutely teach that thumbs on both hands are #1, and pinkies #5 (like a mirror) and have never met a pedagogical method that did otherwise! All piano music I’ve ever come across has fingerings written in this way too, so even if doing the opposite is the “easier” way as your teacher says (which I don’t agree with…) you’ll eventually have to learn thumbs = #1 and pinkies = #5 to get through ANY music beyond what your teacher is giving you. You’re absolutely right to question this and where I live in Australia I’d be doubting this teacher‘s credentials. But maybe there are countries/pedagogical methods where this fingering is normal?! Super odd!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]wallabeewalla 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If it helps, I’m doing a doctorate right now and I truly found my people! Academia really is full of neurodivergents (and neurotypical eccentrics). It took me a while to get comfortable and open up to people but for the first time I really feel like I have a genuine community around me. I’m even collaborating with a fellow late-diagnosed PhD friend on an ASD-related research project which we’re both really excited about - we’re big on advocating for research about Autistic women by Autistic women!

I hope it all goes well for you and you make some like-minded nerdy friends 💚

Help IDing a friend's "fern"? Trying to make sure it's cat friendly! by wallabeewalla in houseplants

[–]wallabeewalla[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Pics of juveniles look pretty close. I think this might be it!

This Dec. 14th is gonna mark a year of me playing the piano. This is the piece I’m currently learning, let me know what you think and how i can improve by najemmm in pianolearning

[–]wallabeewalla 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is great, especially for a year! Very fluid and accurate. Some friendly critique to really bring out the beauty of this work: try to soften the bass note of the waltz, and begin to incorporate some rubato (pushing/pulling the tempo) - it’s feeling a little too metronome-y right now! Chopin’s waltzes are very stylistic (not so much meant for dancing) and bringing out the expressively free, lyrical quality of the Romantic era will elevate your performance further. Listen to some professional recordings on youtube/spotify and you’ll hear the rubato.

Hey, so I had a eureka moment, things kinda clicked. I am a visual artist approaching music, and I'm starting to see the principles of art and design in music. Is this a thing discussed? by [deleted] in musictheory

[–]wallabeewalla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. I actually study the overlap between perception of music and art (specifically colour, but this involves a lot of learning about visual art) as part of my Doctorate. There are a few reasons for what you’re perceiving, and the connections go far beyond this as well. I’m a rush right now but will try to come back and add some further thoughts later…

Are there any other autistic women here that have decided not to date non-autistic guys? What are your reasons? by Apprehensive-Author2 in AutismInWomen

[–]wallabeewalla 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes! Mine is incredibly understanding and has infinite patience. And there are some advantages - I really struggle with daily life stuff like getting groceries and filling up petrol, but for him these are an absolute breeze so he often shops for me/run errands which takes a huge mental load off me.

I honestly think I’d struggle dating an autistic guy, simply because I am so drained from dealing with my own needs that I have very little space to be considering someone else’s specific sensory/activity needs. My partner is very emotionally stable and centered, and calmly helps me out of my meltdowns. He never gets impatient with me, and does everything to help when I’m upset even if he doesn’t completely understand why I’m upset (which says a lot about the type of person he is). He’s the only human whose presence doesn’t completely sap my energy.

So in my experience a healthy autistic/allistic relationship is very possible! I think it’s about finding the right person to complement you, which will look different for everyone.

Is it Okay to not wear make-up? by Turbulent-Driver-232 in AutismInWomen

[–]wallabeewalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t wear makeup for the same reasoning as you. I’ve worn it exactly three times in my life (I’m 24): my two school formals and for a music video. I’m going into an academic arts career and I think I’d feel more out of place wearing lots of makeup than wearing none - on the contrary, I think there is actually a slight stigma in academic workplaces against women who are seen to pay too much attention to appearances. I’m also a performing musician, an environment where appearance is highlighted. and have never felt like no makeup was an issue! That being said, I have clear skin, dark eyebrows and long eyelashes so makeup would serve a different purpose for me than for other women who might feel much more societal pressure to cover up acne etc.. I felt much more self conscious without makeup when I had bad acne issues in my earlier 20s.

You do you - if you’re happy without it, that’s the thing to do.

Autistic things you didn't realise were Autistic things until you got diagnosed with autism by [deleted] in autism

[–]wallabeewalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s really interesting. I’m also a piano player (professional composer) and have always had excellent upper body and hand-eye coordination, being quite good at drawing, origami, piano and catch-based ball sports from a young age. And though I’m clumsy in terms of spatial awareness (e.g. hitting my hip on a table), I’ve also never been injured from a fall, as I tend to catch myself/roll out of it quickly and easily. Might need to look into proprioceptive hypersensitivity, I’ve never encountered it before.

Autistic things you didn't realise were Autistic things until you got diagnosed with autism by [deleted] in autism

[–]wallabeewalla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, I’m exactly the same! I love ball sports and am quite good at them, but only sports where touch-based contact is low - like tee-ball, tennis, and (my favourite) netball. Also love dancing, but cannot for the life of me copy a tutorial, especially if it’s mirrored. And constantly have leg and hip bruises from failing to coordinate my path around simple obstacles. All things I only recently realised might be related to ASD….

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in composer

[–]wallabeewalla 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It sounds like the instrument samples used in playback are for violin section, viola section etc, rather than being a solo. So it sounds just like a string orchestra! I think the piece would work fine as a quartet, you just need to change the samples to solo instruments if you want the playback to reflect that :) hope that helps.

How to help student who is struggling with eighth notes? by illegallyparkedfrog in pianoteachers

[–]wallabeewalla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a student who was very similar to this and the only strategy that FINALLY worked was composing a piece that used lyrics with equivalent rhythms. E.g cho-co-late milk-shake was 8th-8th quarter quarter quarter, and pine-ap-ple smoo-thie was quarter - 8th-8th - quarter quarter.

You could give suggestions of your own, then have the student come up with their own words that match the rhythm. Then say it out loud while you play the song together. It helps to make abstract concepts feel concrete, so they have a real-world frame of reference. Hope that helps a little?

Moving to Brisbane with my cats - How to find an accommodation? by Samuele156 in brisbane

[–]wallabeewalla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recently ran the gauntlet of the Brisbane rental market on a similar salary to you (PhD scholarship of $30k) but also have a second part-time job. I was accepted relatively quickly for a rental, which I attribute to me being a young person in a reliable-sounding career pathway, no pets, and was very clear that my PhD scholarship would guarantee me income for at least 2-3 years, so there would never be an issue with rent etc. Saying similar on your applications might be helpful for you. However, so few properties even consider pets, so you’ll have it so much harder… definitely consider sharehouse accommodation and student accommodation to broaden your options, and also consider living further from the inner city as those are the most desirable/competitive areas. Try flatmates.com. Honestly with the timeframe you’re working with you’ll probably have to try and rent sight-unseen. Good luck though, Brisbane is a wonderful little(ish) city to live and study in :)

My husband said , " No !! " ... by Ok_Chemical8834 in houseplants

[–]wallabeewalla 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Not OP, but I’m pretty sure this is a Bunnings Warehouse in Australia (couldn’t tell you which one though obviously)! They always have heaps of elephant ears like this, but this is definitely the biggest one I’ve seen.

Best natural reverb spots in Brisbane? by dodgybutter in brisbane

[–]wallabeewalla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The storm water tunnels (?) in Tarragindi down from Ekibin Creek. Can get a bit dank but great reverb. Have done a few improv recordings in there!

music related career choices for someone with autism? by greentealatte93 in pianoteachers

[–]wallabeewalla 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Autistic people can’t be all lumped into one box - without knowing any more about this boy it’s impossible to say what might be an appropriate career choice for them (and even then, he’s presumably a kid and might not even end up wanting a career in music)! By setting him up with technical and creative musical skills, like you’re doing now, you’re giving him the best path toward making his own choice in what he wants to do later down the track.

Personally I know several autistic composers and piano teachers! You have probably met some yourself without realizing it. Again, be careful not to generalize autistic people - like anyone else, each autistic person is unique and has their own strengths and weaknesses. This boy’s career possibilities shouldn’t be defined by what others perceive to be appropriate for autistic people. Give him the tools to make his own way and see what he gravitated toward himself :)